To think my friend sends her daughter to school holiday camp too much?

[Rosgos]

My friend is a SAHM to an 8 year old little girl. Was trying to arrange a play date for her and my DD.
Found out she sends her to the school-run holiday 'camp' daycare during every half term, easter, and summer holiday from 7.30am-1.30pm. Except the 1 week she spends with her dad (separated parents) in the summer and the 1 over xmas (and she's with him EO weekend), this little girl only seems to have proper time off from school with her mum and stepdad for a week over xmas. I couldn't handle that! As a mummy or as a child!

I'm sorry I just couldn't imagine doing that if i were a SAHM with no work commitments (I'm a teacher so I'm off during school hols and DDs do a week in the summer somewhere outdoorsy for the experience - but the school-run one is just so boring!)

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

You sound like a terrible friend tbh

Why is it your business?

Only boring people get bored OP I can't imagine a sociable child being bored at any holiday camp with other children.

On mn you daren't say such a thing because obviously you'll get ripped to shreds.

In RL, if there is a SAHP then sending the dc to some form of childcare every day is odd.

Mine love holiday camp type things and go 2/3 days out of the Easter fortnight...one football day camp, one tennis afternoon and another general 'kids camp'...but everyday would be way OTT.

And this a friend of yours you say! Not very friendly of you to start this thread is it?

fgs.
i worked full time so had no choice. youngest dd is effectively an only. if i had 12 weeks to fill damn right she would be off to camp where she can play with others.

This is one of those threads specifically designed to draw the ire of MNetters. The OP knew what the responses would be and is now stoking it for further effect. It'll get to about 20 pages of the same posts and a self-satisfied OP that managed to fan the flames of mothers everywhere. Quite a sad way to spend a Tuesday afternoon but each to their own.

Well you’d hate me. I’ve taken annual leave for the whole two weeks and still packed my kid off to sports camp two days of it. I want to spend as much time apart from his as possible or I’ll end up putting him on gumtree

But seriously like your friends daughter he’s an only child so going there to play with other kids, not boring old mum

Secretly agree with you 😆

I took a week off to spend with my son.

He’s spent about 8 hours playing g x box and I went shopping in peace. #makingmemories 🙄
#mindyourownfuckingbusiness

Agree Vladimir and then the DM will pick it up 🤣

If the child wants to go, then a couple of days a week I can see working.

All the holidays when there is a SAHP I'd judge too. What's the point in having children if you use childcare rather than parent? It's not that uncommon though, plenty use nurseries, grandparents etc and don't work.

What do your kids do after school then OP? Your friend is probably congratulating herself for dropping off/picking up her own kids to/from school every day and attending assemblies and going on school trips etc etc.

Maybe she likes going and see friends their every day.

Not your business.

What a hideous crime, please call social services ASAP

Maybe the little girl likes camp, maybe she gets bored at home if she’s an only child. Maybe mum just needs a break. Why do you even care? It’s not a residential or even full day thing so it’s not like she won’t have any time at home. You sound utterly pathetic, get some hobbies or a job as you clearly have way too much time on your hands and spend less time judging your so called friends.

Good for your mate.

I fucking hate my kids. Little cunts. I would have loved to have packed them off to some camp so I didn't have to spend time with the annoying fucking twats.

. KIDDING OBVS

I wouldn't book anything that required getting up at 7.30!
Unless the dd is asking to go it is a bit pants. I have 12 weeks off my my dc and only manage a few sports camp days here and there - so partly jealous and partly judging! They must be rolling in money too.
Do you know what your friend does with the spare time each day, does she tidy obsessively/get nails done/take a lover/rest due to a long term health condition?

You're a dick op.

And jealous by the sound of it...

@GreatDuckCookery lol.. I think MN should start charging the DM for content! I swear MN spats make up a serious percentage of that digital cr*p-rag!

With a friend like you, who needs enemies?

You sound a bit like a cunt, to be honest.

My DSis sent my nieces off to a few last summer - drama, sports, art, a pony camp (that one involved sleeping overnight) as they were desperate to go. They cost a bloody fortune but the kids loved em.

maybe it's judgemental..

Maybe?

I wouldn't book anything that required getting up at 7.30!

Dunno. When you have one like mine that gets up at six am anyway you may as well pack ‘em off early. Then come home and go back to bed

OP, I'm with you. I don't understand people who have kids and just pack them off to other people to look after all the time so they can have "me time". Most normal people use childcare when they are at work, and then prioritise family time during weekends and holidays. Its like sahps who have full-time nannies, I just don't see the point in having kids if you aren't going to spend time with them.

Its strange that people on mumsnet seem to think this is OK, but are critical of a man who takes a week off and chooses to spend some of that time with his friends rather than his wife. If a man went out cycling every morning during holiday time, the wife would be told to ltb because he should prioritise "family time", but its totally OK for a parent to take a week off and have me-time every morning while the kids are packed off to holiday camp? Surely children are entitled to family time as well??

MYOB