To really hate the word "passed" for someone who's died

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Passed what? Passed to where? They've died. Doesn't matter how you try to dress it up.

I've recently had two family members die, and it really pisses me off when someone says they've "passed".

End of rant.

Passed to the other side, makes perfect sense to me, but I believe in these things. Must be an annoying phrase if you don't though.

*sorry for your loss OP.

I don’t think it’s rude at all.

Again, if that reply is to me, I didn’t say it was rude. I said it was insensitive to ask how someone died (or “passed” 🙄). I think you should wait until the person offers that extra information. It could be something very traumatic that they’d prefer people didn’t ask about.

This is a real bugbear......I can't stand the phrase passed away/passed/passed on etc. However if someone is talking about someone near and dear to them, then I wouldn't say anything.

In my view, they died..... or carked it

Haven't read the whole thread yet, but pretty pissed off about this being a TAAT. I've had two people today use the word "passed" to me, so thought I'd rant on here.

Obviously not allowed to express my annoyance without immediately being jumped on by the uptight brigade.

Er Op, you’re the uptight one- getting worked up about the language other people choose to use

Oh dear at 'uptight brigade'. You wanted opinions....

Yep I was uptight when Dad dropped at my feet and passed

So many people here missing the point.

Passed away makes some sort of sense, ie like they've slipped away, gone. Passed on its own makes no sense at all. I think it's because I hate the way British English is being taken over by American English. No one ever said "passed" twenty years ago.

Passed isn’t new at all. I don’t know where you get that idea? Particularly the idea it’s American. I remember my grandparents saying it, and they’d be 100 if they hadn’t, you know, passed.

And also it implies they've gone somewhere else, which is utter nonsense as far as I'm concerned.

What no-one? ever? You heard everyone speaking 20 years ago?

Get over it OP. This is your issue. Keep it to yourself.

Sprinkles passed away, passed on, but not just passed.

And also it implies they've gone somewhere else, which is utter nonsense as far as I'm concerned.

whoa - do not insult other people's faith or belief. No-one has asked you to like the phrase or indeed use it so have the grown-up curtesy of not insulting other's people's faith or terminology that gives them comfort. Grief and belief is a very personal thing so might be best to respect that.

Oh c’mon. You know what it means. The phrase was around before you. Was it? I'm used to "passed away", not just "passed". When did "passed" come into use? I've never heard it except on MN. Or has it always been a phrase, but not in every part of the country?

Similarly "pissed" to me annoyed rather than "pissed off" - where did that come from?

I work in the funeral industry and when we're discussing arrangement with a family we alway use the word passed.

I'd find that incredibly annoying.

Nope, passed has been around forever

I don't think it's a shock that we have started using an Americanism. People deal with and talk about death in their own way.
You do you, boo.

I have lived with the phrase all my life and I'm 37 I think it is of certain faiths

The died is very hard for some people, and it has a kind of finality to it. It can be quite harsh, passed is much better, it kind of has a notion that the person has passed onto the other side. For a lot of people death is not final, their loved one now in another world, they are still with us, but not in physical form. Whatever helps a grieving person, nobody has any right to judge. If you don't like it, just keep schtum.

I'm sure I read somewhere that it was a term used by the spiritualists in the late 19th and early 20th centuries ("passed over into the spirit realm", or whatever it is) and that when spiritualism exploded in popularity during and after WW1 the term became more widespread. That's possibly bollocks, though.

Never liked it, maybe because of those associations. Always much preferred the directness of 'die' and 'dead', as in the comforting remark made by my great aunt to my mum as we were driving back from my gran's funeral: "At least your mother didn't die of anything serious."

I do believe in life after death, and our loved ones have gone to another room, world or whatever. I believe my dad who died when i was a child, is with me, I have incidences where he has made his presence known, same with my nan. This world is full of mystery in which science cannot explain everything. An open mind would be very good.

I don't like "passed" but don't have a strong opinion on it. "Passed away" is fine.

I've had 4 bereavements in the past 18 months and I've referred to the deaths in various ways, as have others to me.

It's not something I could muster the energy to start frothing over.

I hate it when people announce someone's death by saying 'Bruce Forsyth (for example) dies' as if he woke up that morning and thought you know what I'm going to do today, I'm going to die.

It really gets my 🐐

I always assumed 'passed' was short for 'passed away'. It's been around for as long as I've been alive in any case.