To really hate the word "passed" for someone who's died

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Passed what? Passed to where? They've died. Doesn't matter how you try to dress it up.

I've recently had two family members die, and it really pisses me off when someone says they've "passed".

End of rant.

As I said Mavis I wouldn't bring it up to someone suffering a bereavement. Am not a complete sociopath ffs.

I agree with OP though about skirting about the true actual verb.

I've lost people. I've said "died". Because they did.

My Dad passed hopefully to somewhere better, that's what I like to think and nobody can intrude on my grief

You should be ashamed of yourselves

All this posturing makes me laugh as a non British person. I have never met a culture less able to deal with death. No open caskets, no staying with the body- Christ my in laws refused to even stay with their dying parents WHILST THEY DIED because it was too upsetting and traumatising. Don’t give me superior boolovks about language, you’re useless at death either way

I said died or dead too. I just don't understand what there is to be annoyed about

How can you be irritated by language other people use to describe their own loved ones dying? Or, even, about how they convey their condolences? It's all meant well and isn't in the least bit offensive...

I've lost people.

Be more careful?

I say*

I personally prefer "gone on to glory" if we're going all euphemistic, or possibly "translated to the heavenly host"

No open caskets, no staying with the body

Your ignorance is showing.

Passed is too ambiguous. Passed away is acceptable but I personally would use 'died'.

What really, really gets on my tits is when people type 'RIP XXX' IS THE DEAD PERSON NOT WORTH A FULL SENTENCE?!! Arghhhh!

What a bizarre thing to have such a strong opinion on OP.

Personally I preferred to say my first husband died, but lots of other people I know in the midst of grief prefer to use a euphemism and I would always respect that... whatever small things we can do to honour the preferences of people who are hurting is surely just human compassion.

Well I say passed and do not give any fucks what somebody else says.

Yes, YABU and somewhat insensitive. Most of us think it is a good thing to consider the feelings of the bereaved at such a time. It isn't all about you.

It's not a term I use myself (just feels a bit weird to say it), but I don't have a problem with other people saying it. It certainly wouldn't "piss me off".

It isn't all about you.

^

I'm with Portia.

I am indifferent. Doesn't bother me. Does sound odd though.

“Today 18:21 ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo

No open caskets, no staying with the body

Your ignorance is showing.”

That would be fairly amazing, I’ve lived here 30 years. However I have never known a traditional English funeral to have an open casket. Have you?

YANBU
If people describe their own loved ones, they use what makes it easier for them, but random using "passed" to describe someone close to me, really is annoying.

"sleeping" is another one. My baby was not born sleeping, my baby is dead. Don't make that face when I say it ,you are not miraculously bringing her back to life by pretending she is sleeping. She is not.
I do try to shut up about it, but it does give me the rage inside!

Well I suppose anything apart from a prolonged death from a known source is shocking when dh was told his sister had died the police told him she had passed away I can't think anyway if telling him would have made it better tbh.

@ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo , it was either that or "people I know have died" - I should have said that. And must be more careful in future.

Thanks for telling me o can't deal with death. Which is a polite way if saying don't be so goady.
My mum say her sister in an open coffin in their home country and said it was vile. I was with her. One of her sister's grandchildren was confused about how granny could be dead in the open coffin and also (in the form of my mum who looked like her) walking around.
I was with my mother when she died. I didn't make it back in time to be with my dad but I went to see his body. Both of them had clearly "gone" and what was left was a shell that I had no desire to venerate. If you do, that's your thing. If you say "passed" that's your thing.
Don't sneer at people. It's bloody rude.

That would be fairly amazing, I’ve lived here 30 years. However I have never known a traditional English funeral to have an open casket. Have you?

Oh English?? You said British in your last post. Do you think they are the same thing?

Have you?

In Britain? Yes. England? No.