Texting after first date

[JapaneseCat]

When is too late for a guy to text? I felt he was into me but no text since we met last night. He made some references to “playing it cool” while we were on the date.

He paid for everything and seemed quite into me but I guess you never know

So many mixed messages on here

There aren't really. The thread is full of people telling you to stop playing games and keep it simple. That's what he's doing. You said you'd text and you didn't. For him it's as simple as that. You obviously like him, he probably thinks you don't. That's on you regardless of our Victorian era friends posting nonsense from their fainting couches. Just text him.

He paid for everything and you haven't texted to say thank you for the evening?

I really think it would be polite to do that.

I like a man to text first but since he asked you to text when home and you didn’t he probably thinks ur not interested.

Text him now, thank him for a great night- see what he says

I bought a token couple of rounds but otherwise, yes, he paid

"What does this mean?"

It's very easy to make excuses in this kind of situation - second-guessing what you should have done etc. Chances are he will get in touch. Relax. If he's not interested, then better to find out sooner rather than later.

Good thing I text (now) dh, after he didn’t text me the next day following our date. I’d still be waiting 9 years on otherwise.

Send this;

Hi. I had a great time last night, do you want to do it again some time?

I would rather just go in with statements rather than qs so no pressure for him to reply

I wouldn't be interested in someone I'd gone out of my way to ensure a nice evening who couldn't even be bothered to confirm she was back home safely and that she'd enjoyed the evening.

Jesus tonight!!! Just fucking text him

Hi. Forgot to text to say got home okay. Enjoyed last night 😃

Job done!!

Hey, thanks for a nice eve yesterday - hope your journey home wasn’t too painful! (Insert banter here)

Send the text, if he replies then good times!

It's not rocket science, IF YOU WANT TO SEE HM AGAIN, TEXT HIM.

And send the message I posted.

Ignore the few entitled princesses on here who think it should only be the man who chases a woman.

I mean FFS, he asked you to text him last night to let him know you had got home OK, and you could not be arsed. And now you - AND a couple of others - think he should still chase after you!

As I said, men are better off without women like this. Fucking entitled mares!

As a pp said, the majority of posters on here are telling you tot text him. Ignore @gl1tterati, she is talking utter drivel.

Just thank him for a lovely evening, and say you got home ok.

Why all this angst and what "banter" would be necessary?

I would rather just go in with statements rather than qs so no pressure for him to reply

He wants to reply. He likes you, your date went well.

You seem quite insecure, i get the feeling that you're creating hurdles and obstacles to make it inevitable that it fizzles out without any actual rejection on either side. I get that, I really do, but sooner or later you will have to take a chance and put yourself out there a bit. If you like this guy you are going to have to play some kind of role in helping to move things on, if you're completely passive it's not unreasonable for him to assume that you're not interested. He is going to look elsewhere if you keep this up. Give yourself a chance for Christ's sake.

"Hi. I had a great time last night. We will have to do it again soon. Let me know when you want to meet up again, and we can consult our schedules and arrange a time and day. Look forward to hearing from you.......'

And you accuse me of talking drivel. What are you, his PA?

Hey, forgot to say I got home ok last night - hope your journey home wasn’t too painful! Good to meet you, thanks for a lovely evening!

Just sent

And you accuse me of talking drivel

Whoever accused you of that was spot on.

Well done japanesecat, perfect text.

Sounds fine.

Don't send kimanda 's message - it sounds like you're trying to schedule a business meeting.

Just say "thanks for dinner, I had a lovely evening. Sorry I didn't text to let you know I'd got home ok, crashed out after all the wine! Let me know if you'd like to get together again xx"

Or text saying, "Just got in!"

That's a good text!
It's a long while since I was on the dating scene but totally sympathise with the text stressing but do think the ball was in your court to text him if he asked you to last night
Look forward to an update with his reply !

I'd wait for him and if nothing happened that would be that.

Don't you see that by leaving the ball in his court you are giving him all the power. Women who consider themselves equals and want to be treated as equals should be prepared to text after dates. Men who consider the woman they met an equal and ask her to text them would expect her to text. How can he possibly know you are stuck in the 1950s?