Having just ploughed through the full thread 😳
I think he was keen on you, but two things happened.
- He didn’t hear back from you when you got home, as far as he was concerned, you were playing it cool. He didn’t want to appear keen to you when you appeared cool towards him.
- after you took a day to reply to let him know you was home, and he had probably sat up staring at his phone until the wee small hours waiting for your text he made arrangements for another date the next night with someone else. he ended up liking her and she did text him as soon as she got home. They spent all night texting, now he’s convinced she likes him so he’s cutting his losses with you.
I have never understood all this ‘playing it cool, don’t text them for three days’ shit.
You seemed keen on him to start with, now you’re saying you wasn’t that keen and he was a shit kisser, no wonder he couldn’t read you, you really are sending mixed messages.
Next time you like a guy, text them the next morning to say “thanks for a great night, I’d love to meet up again sometime” if that’s what you want, otherwise you risk them moving on rapidly. FYI, years ago when I was OLD, I had a week off work and tried to arrange 14 dates in 7 days. A couple of drop outs and I ended up having 11 dates. One each daytime, one each evening, a fab week and I never really was into any of them, but it was terrific fun, it kept me entertained all week too.
(I met my DH via OLD, we don’t advertise that though)