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Texting after first date

429 replies

JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 14:31

When is too late for a guy to text? I felt he was into me but no text since we met last night. He made some references to “playing it cool” while we were on the date.

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Fruitcorner123 · 30/03/2018 18:39

Well done for texting. It's the perfect text and gives him the opportunity to reply.

Vitalogy · 30/03/2018 18:46

I'm sorry but that text to me doesn't make it clear that you're interested.

SparklyMagpie · 30/03/2018 19:00

"Hi. I had a great time last night. We will have to do it again soon. Let me know when you want to meet up again, and we can consult our schedules and arrange a time and day. Look forward to hearing from you......"

Fucking hell 😂😂😂 I'm glad you haven't sent that message, it was a date not a arranging the next business meeting
Even making me cringe😂

Don't overthink this,you've send a good message, he'll either reply or he won't.

However I really would have sent a message last night thanking him for a lovely evening and to say I got home safe and hoped he did aswell,but that's just me

Coco134 · 30/03/2018 19:16

Hi. I had a great time last night. We will have to do it again soon. Let me know when you want to meet up again, and we can consult our schedules and arrange a time and day. Look forward to hearing from you......

Would anyone actually ever send this ?

consult our schedules 😂

Never read a message so formal and over the top before, no one should send that after a first date!

Coco134 · 30/03/2018 19:17

Op - he did ask you to text last night to say you got home safe so I defo think you should text first today! Which I seen you have! Good luck

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 30/03/2018 19:19

Did he reply?!

DragonMummy1418 · 30/03/2018 19:20

Well done.

DO NOT worry if he doesn't reply straight away, he could be busy, at the cinema, seeing his parents etc etc etc.
Seriously don't stress yet.

QueenofmyPrinces · 30/03/2018 19:26

I keep refreshing the page to see if he’s replied!!

I’m over invested! Grin

jellycat1 · 30/03/2018 19:32

Ok I'm hooked now. Any reply yet?

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:34

Ha no nothing

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Fruitcorner123 · 30/03/2018 19:35

I'm the same. Totally over invested. Grin

FlouncyDoves · 30/03/2018 19:36

Why would his journey be painful?

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:36

I keep thinking of all the embarrassing things I did... oh well! We drank quite a lot, both tipsy but not drunk drunk. I got a bit silly and giddy, couldn’t stop laughing when the weird barman at the place we were at kept passive-aggressively clearing up and hinting for us to leave... oh god

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:36

His journey was a bit an hour and a half and we were both pretty drunk

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Fruitcorner123 · 30/03/2018 19:37

Thing is you took nearly 20 hours to text him so he thinks you are playing it cool so he might want to play it cool. This is why people up thread called it game playing. If you had texted him.last night you would probably be having a nice chat via text now and arranging your next meet up.

I wouldn't get worried until tomorrow. He will text I am sure

PlasticWatch · 30/03/2018 19:43

Hi. I had a great time last night. We will have to do it again soon. Let me know when you want to meet up again, and we can consult our schedules and arrange a time and day. Look forward to hearing from you.......'

Is this actually serious?

Sausagema · 30/03/2018 19:44

I think that text sounds very much like you aren't interested. It sounds you're politely letting him know you got home but also final, like there's no invitation to reply (iyswim). Sorry. This is the problem with overthinking these things!

Though I could easily be wrong 😁

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:46

Really? Oh ffs!

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Wishfulmakeupping · 30/03/2018 19:46

Your text was perfect op give him time he will text back

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/03/2018 19:47

YEh sorry to agree but you sound uninterested “good to meet you” is the problem, should have been “I had a great time”....

HeyhoIndigo · 30/03/2018 19:48

This is bad of me, OP, but I kind of want to know whether you kissed him goodnight on your date ?

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:49

We drunkenly kissed yes (initiated by him) but there was a bit too much tongue (tmi) so I sort of pulled away a little! He made a comment as to how he thought maybe it was but forward of him and I said no - but was a bit awks! No kiss goodnight though, I just said bye and we parted a bit awkwardly :(

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XiCi · 30/03/2018 19:50

Your text sounds very like you are just letting him know you got home OK and never want to see him again. I wouldn't reply at all to that text if I received it after a date.

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:50

What?!?!

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JapaneseCat · 30/03/2018 19:51

Do I say anything else then? Jesus Christ

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