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Sex before a night out

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overduemamma · 28/03/2018 22:34

Don't really know where this would go so apologises. I am going on a night out tomorrow and Friday and my partner thinks I must give him sex before I go out (also at a time where I don't have time to shower after) he's always been like this and it forever drains me that he asks me. I have asked why he always seems to ask when I go out and he says I'm less likely to cheat! I've never cheated and never would, we've been together 11 years and have 2 beautiful children together. I just find it odd!

OP posts:
MarthasGinYard · 28/03/2018 22:34

Ugh

WhitneyHoustonsbathtub · 28/03/2018 22:35

Use your head. Do you think this is normal?

user1471517900 · 28/03/2018 22:35

If true then obviously you don't have to have sex with him.

Doggoslothlady · 28/03/2018 22:35

This really isn't normal.

cupoflemontea · 28/03/2018 22:35

Least of your problems i reckon. He sounds awful.

Tell him that you're more likely to cheat at you're all hot to trot after a session with him.

amy85 · 28/03/2018 22:35

Odd and controlling...but you already know that

HumptyD93 · 28/03/2018 22:36

Yes it's odd.

Bunbunbunny · 28/03/2018 22:36

So he’s marking you like a dog ...

HerSymphonyAndSong · 28/03/2018 22:36

He sounds horrible. And also like he is projecting. Does he think he will cheat if he isn’t “given sex” before he goes on a night out?

NSEA · 28/03/2018 22:36

Yeah it is odd. Like he thinks people only have sex if they haven’t had it for a certain number of hours prior. You can still cheat.

This is just odd.

HoorayForHolidays · 28/03/2018 22:36

Gruesome.

DancingLedge · 28/03/2018 22:37

Why do you say yes to him?

Catspaws · 28/03/2018 22:38

Any time a man says you 'must' have sex for any reason it is the red flag to end all red flags

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 28/03/2018 22:39

"You must give him sex".

You don't have to "give him" anything that don't want to.

Itsnotanthrax · 28/03/2018 22:39

Oh God, I had an ex exactly the same. He ended up a paranoid controlling abusive cunt.

Basically he is marking his territory. It's horrible.

joystir59 · 28/03/2018 22:39

There is a two letter word beginning with N

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 28/03/2018 22:41

Massive red flag

Itsnotanthrax · 28/03/2018 22:42

Out of interest overduemama what is the rest of your relationship like?

Babybearsporij · 28/03/2018 22:42

"Give him sex"??? Do you want to have sex? Does he think he owns you? Bleugh.

AdoraBell · 28/03/2018 22:42

WTF? Not normal at all. As already said, marking his territory. I would not put up with that.

BrutusMcDogface · 28/03/2018 22:42

That's just disgusting.

GrooovyLass · 28/03/2018 22:42

Must? Oh no no no no. Like a pp said, he's marking his territory. This is all kinds of wrong.

Lacucuracha · 28/03/2018 22:43

Give him sex? Oh OP Sad

VianneRocher · 28/03/2018 22:44

This is awful.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 28/03/2018 22:44

What happens if you say no?

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