Sex before a night out

[overduemamma]

Don't really know where this would go so apologises. I am going on a night out tomorrow and Friday and my partner thinks I must give him sex before I go out (also at a time where I don't have time to shower after) he's always been like this and it forever drains me that he asks me. I have asked why he always seems to ask when I go out and he says I'm less likely to cheat! I've never cheated and never would, we've been together 11 years and have 2 beautiful children together. I just find it odd!

So he’s marking you like a dog...

This^^. Ask him if he'd rather just pee on you instead. No, it's not normal. I'd LTB.

Really? Yuck

When I worked in a supermarket years ago it was considered a normal exchange; if a man was “babysitting” his OWN CHILDREN whilst a woman went on a night out with her work friends a big joke was made of her having to provide sexual favours beforehand. Except they weren’t joking. It was actually expected. There are sections of society where it’s considered the norm, definitely.

And you are with this man why? I couldn’t bear to be in a room with someone like that let alone even begin to contemplate having sex with them

I've come to bed as he's currently sulking because I've said no!

my partner thinks I must give him sex before I go out

I say this very rarely on MN, but I would probably leave someone who dared to say this to me.

It's not 'odd' OP. He has absolutely no respect for you. He sounds absolutely awful.

He sounds like an absolute prince among men.

Totally grim.

There is a word for men who force women to have sex.

Get some self respect

This has said so much about him. Presumably he thinks its normal to cheat if a person is horny, so makes sure that you are not. Which leads on to....does he have sex with you before he goes out?

A person who says things like that is telling you what goes through their head. If he has been faithful to you I will eat my house, but he would probably excuse it with "You werent giving me enough sex...."

What happens when/if you say no?

Ah Xpost.....sulking.

Is he likely to sabotage your night out by not being there in time for you to go out etc? Because that is the next thing I bet.

Yuck-that really really isn’t normal behaviour.

He has issues. Serious issues.

This is so wrong.

Akin to a dog pissing up another dogs leg to make sure the rest know the bitch is owned.

I’m sorry I’ve put it so crudely but this is exactly what your husband is trying to attempt.

He’s a nasty controlling bastard and this has been going on for a while, and you absolutely need to leave this utter moron. If you need help and support in this, I can help.

Please do not have sex with him. In fact I would make him wait a few weeks.

If this is genuine, it's grim as fuck. Nasty. This really is LTB worthy.

Don't put up with this FFS!

Eww. Just no. Really not OK.

Why put up with it OP?

That's appalling op. Please don't put up with this.

“Give him sex” this isn’t normal. Sex should only ever be mutually consenting.

Tell him if you don't make me orgasm I will cheat. I don't know how giving him sex would stop you if that's what you wanted to do. But yes it's marking his territory. Neanderthal Neil

Two words.

Emotional abuse.

It'll get worse.

Get out now.

Op, you could do better than this.

Please leave him. For the love of God, he’s an alcoholic, nasty bastard.

It won’t change.

OP IT WONT CHANGE.

No decent man would ever demand sex like that.

When I’d finished laughing...

...I’d have told him to fuck off. Long before 11 years & 2 kids.