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Original poster

To think they should have introduced themselves?

365 replies

Uhuhhoney · 24/03/2018 23:44

Ive just moved into a new houseshare.

When i was moving my stuff in i heard one of the flatmates rummaging in the kitchen so i went downstairs and she scuttled back to her (downstairs) room. Hmm i thought... anyway, i was then making food this evening and hwr boyfriend came in and said im Courtneys boyfriend (me having no idea who she is). They're now chatting really fucking loudly downstairs and i feel like it would be awkward to go and make a brew.

Aibu to think shes been rude to deliberately ignore her only (new) flatmate!

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londonrach · 05/04/2018 22:03

Did you contact the ll

bluebell34567 · 05/04/2018 22:19

I am wondering what happened to op, too.
I hope everything is fine.

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Uhuhhoney · 08/04/2018 19:46

So i contacted landlord in the week. She said theyd had 6 people move out in the last year so she was going to speak tp the girl.

Cut a long story short she was served notice. I got a lot of abuse from her, she smashed the kitchen up and im at my boyfriends up north commuting everyday for now

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WhatCanIDoNowPlease · 08/04/2018 19:51

Whoa. Blimey!

BastardGoDarkly · 08/04/2018 19:52

Fucking hell! Shock

Hope you get back in, with a lovely new flat mate soon honey Flowers

Motoko · 08/04/2018 20:15

6 people in the last year who have all had to end their contracts early because of her. That will have cost the LL a lot of money, plus whatever the cost of the damage comes to. Any idea when she'll be out? If she was on a rolling contract it'll be 2 months (as long as she does move out, and the LL doesn't have to take her to court to get her evicted). But it could be longer depending on how many months left she had to go on her fixed term.

I wonder why the LL didn't give her notice sooner, as there was obviously a problem causing the previous tenants to leave early, and she was the common denominator.

Well, I hope you get a nice flatmate this time.

iheartmichellemallon · 08/04/2018 20:21

I hope you're not having to pay rent whilst you're unable to live there? I'd stay out of her way as she sounds quite unstable.

Mxyzptlk · 08/04/2018 20:28

Wow! Started reading page 1 then skipped to here. She did turn out to be a weirdo!
I'd be looking for somewhere else, in case she doesn't go quietly.

WellThisIsShit · 08/04/2018 20:43

Yup, awful woman, as was clear from about 48 hrs in when all those kind second chances and polite ‘ah but what ifs’ had been quickly burn up by her.

Ah well, at least you weren’t flat mate number 7 that got driven out. I’m sure she had one hell of a temper tantrum, as up til you she was on to a winner. Be vile and scare off everyone, then settle down to get half price flat for one!

Ugh! Hope it’s not too horrid commuting. Beware of a last play for you to get chucked out not yet. Make sure you are sure of your position in all this.

BerylStreep · 08/04/2018 21:00

I hope you have advised your LL that you currently aren't living in the flat due to her violent behaviour. You don't want to be held liable for damage she has caused.

What way does the contract work - is it a contract directly with the LL, or was she sub-letting to you?

Marmablade · 08/04/2018 21:08

Shocking! I hope the ll gives you some sort of rent rebate. My friend once had to move out of a house share within a week of moving in as one of the sharers broke down another's door with an axe and beat him so badly he ended up in hospital. Victim was apparently completely undeserving of that level of violence (as if anyone could be really but it was totally unprovoked) So scary. Hope things work out for you.

It's interesting that she manages to hold down a functioning relationship with a sociable man but is herself so antisocial.

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Uhuhhoney · 08/04/2018 21:13

LL has advised me not to live in flat. She told me our contract is void, as flatmate broke the clause in the peaceful dwelling (or something!) part. Flatmate was given a week (as in breach of contract).

I recorded some of the things she was saying to me, and took pictures of broken things etc.

She said I can have deposit back,or wait til shes out and then move back in - she's drafting up an amended contract which means she couldn't just do away with my deposit! Although she said DPS will probably need me to claim it back and then pay again !!! SO annoying.

I've had vile behaviour from her past few days. Including throwing my food away, and knickers taken off radiators! Her boyfriend has apologised and said she does not like sharing with people ... erm it''s a flatshare?!?!??!

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LaContessaDiPlump · 08/04/2018 21:16

Shock she sounds awful op! You're better off out of there. What a complete nuisance though....

Marmablade · 08/04/2018 21:29

What on earth does her boyfriend see in her?? And how does she think a flatshare works??

Your ll sounds lovely thank goodness.

BettyBaggins · 08/04/2018 22:05

Blimey op, thanks for coming back to tell us what happened. What will you do?

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Uhuhhoney · 08/04/2018 22:24

Lovely boyfriend and his mate have let me move in temporarily for a few weeks, quite aware that living with a couple isnt great so need to move on asap!

I think ill give it 3 weeks or so and then back to drawing board! Getting a 550 train in the morning isn't exciting (or cheap!)

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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 08/04/2018 22:35

Glad you're ok OP, I'm mid 20s and not too far out of London. If I didn't have a flatmate I'd offer to put you up part of the time.

snewsname · 08/04/2018 22:44

Wow. Glad the LL is being supportive.

snewsname · 08/04/2018 22:44

Oh and her boyfriend is a mug to stay with her.

Herbalteahippie · 08/04/2018 23:00

I’ve just read the whole thread, and, WOW. I hope you find somewhere to live.

Honey you sound lovely I would be happy to have you as a housemate. Good luck x

Userplusnumbers · 08/04/2018 23:07

Wow, I remember the first post and thought "she must be so painfully shy" and thought you did all the right things.

Well done for sorting it though! Hope normality is restored ASAP

Cheby · 08/04/2018 23:35

Oh my word OP. I’ve just read this from the start, what a fucking nightmare. I’ve had flat mates who turned out to be dodgy but nowhere this batshit crazy. I hope you’re back home soon and get to choose a nice housemates yourself!

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 08/04/2018 23:51

So glad the ll sounds reasonable and quite helpful. Sounds like they're doing all they can

She is batshit. And her boyfriend even more so for excusing her behaviour

Sorry for the early starts. Hope you get settled somewhere awesome soon Flowers

AnnieAnoniMouser · 09/04/2018 00:56

Well, the LL at least sounds decent (if a little slow on the uptake).

Hopefully they’ll get her out quickly & the flat sorted out.

...maybe your lovely boyfriend will ask you if he can move in there with you 😉

TutTutButt · 09/04/2018 01:21

she might of been naked or something which is why she ran baxk into her room