To have thrown the PS4 across the room.........

[HorridNastyMum]

Feel a mixture of relief and guilt that I did it.

It's beyond repair.

DS(16) is extremely upset.

Backstory is:

He has SN, has been homeschooled for 4 months due to behaviour issues and anxiety. He has become fixated on gaming and will not self regulate, accept time limits or let his brothers play without massive tantrums. When he loses a game he has outbursts of anger and swearing and he can be irritable as he was this afternoon with his younger brother - he slapped him.
He will refuse to leave the house and wants to game all day.

Thing is the PS4 is jointly owned with his twin who hardly gets a look in anyway.

DH is a bit as in 'we paid money for that'.

Well, the enormous challenges are all very well - it still just justify throwing and breaking stuff with no remorse.

Bloody iPhone. I mean it still doesnt justify

Agree with you

I’m a parent of a child with sn and am critical of the op.
Not because she lost her temper or reached breaking point, trust me I’ve been there.
But because she shows no remorse, doesn’t want help or advice and just wants people to back her up.

Maybe she feels guilty and wanted some sympathy for the shit she's going through? She has plenty of sympathy from me, because I couldn't be as self-sacrificing as other posters on this thread.

this is an extreme but effective lesson in consequences

Or rather it is a lesson in saying "hey get angry and it's ok to throw stuff".

OP - I think looking at strategies to deal with anger for BOTH you and your son would be helpful. You must know throwing things isn't a normal response

I don't know why it is assumed that DS has ASD?

I posted because I felt a little bad straight afterwards and wondered if others had been driven to the same point.

The house has been a lot calmer since it went. DS is now keeping to listening to music and watching videos on YouTube which don't require him to shout, swear, and get angry at them. Got him out of the house a few times and he worked amazingly well with his tutor today.

I'm glad I did it. No remorse whatsoever !

Wonko I totally agree with you my 25 yr screams for hours over the tiniest thing she has slammed the door in my face nearly knocking me out and leaving a egg swelling forehead. She slapped me hard on my back yesterday (I have a bad back) I could go on and on but I have never returned what I have received or broke their things it's not the way to deal with it . The others have never hit me they have other problems but my daughter will react with anger we deal with it when her rage has come down. She will say sorry and shake your hand.

Op you said he has special needs I didn't say he had autism or adhd I said mine did and I know of stress. I said I go through all this stress and don't throw things around. You seem to back track now and take pride in " I show no remorse " it shows you up for the type of person you are I feel sorry for your child

I'm glad I did it. No remorse whatsoever You do realise you could have got him off the PS4 by giving it to a charity, selling it on ebay or putting it in a bin. You didn't need to throw it.

You broke your sons favourite thing and show no remorse. Never mind that it belonged to him and you destroyed his property.
You could of gone about things completely differently.
If you had asked for support or help or advice and actually understood your actions I would have had all the sympathy in the world.

Getting rid was the right thing but the manner in which you did was not.

Or rather it is a lesson in saying "hey get angry and it's ok to throw stuff".
He's 16, not 6. As I said, unless his mum is smashing up things every other day, it's likely he realised he must have crossed a line for her to react like this. Also, she broke the actual thing that was the source of all his and her frustrations, not a random object in a fit of anger.

And I think OP is not showing any remorse because her son's behaviour has actually improved since.

It sounds like this has been a bit of a blessing. Hope this improvement in family harmony lasts.

I suspect he understands breaking it in anger better than he would you selling it or giving it away - which would come across as a premeditated desire to make his life worse.