To things isn't really a huge drama

[inmyshoos]

Dd 11 and her friend had a sleepover. It transpires they played a game of show me yours I'll show you mine. Friend goes home and her mum felt she was out of sorts and it all came out. Then I get a phone call saying her dd11 was pushed into it. Felt she couldn't say no. That she feels terrible because she knows it's wrong etc. They like their dc to keep their innocence as long as poss etc
I told her honestly I think it's normal. It's curiosity. It's not sexual at all in my opinion.
Since then she has avoiding me, her dd is no longer allowed to come over and I think my dd feels her friend has distanced herself.
I spoke openly to the mum saying just difference of opinion. They are very religious, we are not and whilst she feels it's 'shameful ' I feel it's completely innocent and no big drama. AIBU here?

Over reaction?

If your child told you they felt coerced into showing their genitals to another child and was upset about it would you seriously tell them they were over reacting?

I wouldn't tell my child that they were over reacting at all I would discuss it with them as the parent of the upset child clearly did. Obviously they themselves did not feel it was overtly sexual either or they would have called the police/SS.

I meant the people on here were over reacting and calling the poor girl a sexual predator.

Have a chat with your daughter about boundaries OP...it really does sound like girls being curious...I've worked with a real mixed bunch of Y7s before and this does happen boys and girls...some are very clued up, some in the middle, some immature and right to the other scale of immature! Be honest with her about it might have made the other person feel uncomfortable...talk it through and if you do have sleep overs again just be around them a bit more...i.e bedroom doors open etc

I recall doing this with a friend when I was a child, but I was max about 6 years old.

I started my period when I was 11 so this would have been too old for it to be considered "innocent curiosity" in my opinion.

Have you spoken to your DD? What is her take on things?

11 is quite old for that.... 6 maybe but in high school it is a bit strange.

Although that doesn’t mean your DD is being predatory ... just hat it is actually a bit wierd

@Greenyogagirl finally someone who sees sense

@Titaniumpins u hope I don't serve on jury duty? Well let's hope you're not the one on the stand

me too .