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That a 40 year old man child is pathetic not endearing?

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RoryAndLogan · 19/03/2018 08:53

My cousins husband has posted online about meal prep she has done for him. She's going away with work for 3 days, and has filled the fridge with Tupperware labelled 'breakfast', 'lunch' and 'dinner' for each day.

His post was 'wife goals! No going hungry for me!'

He's 39 years old.

She's mentioned in the past how if she's ever away he will just eat pizza if she doesn't prepare his meals as he can't do anything else and talks about it like it's endearing and sweet Hmm

AIBU that this isn't at all endearing, but pathetic?

OP posts:
ShapelyBingoWing · 19/03/2018 10:58

Don't think that's pathetic at all, he can cook by himself (and is a very good cook) but sadly most days he's too tired to.

I work 13 hour shifts. Yes, I'm tired when I get home but I can honestly say that basic self care, such as feeding myself, isn't something I skip because I'm tired. This isn't meant to come across as a dig at your DP specifically but I've heard people use this excuse quite a lot and really do think that they either need a new job or we should all accept that particular phrase as code for "I'd rather have it done for me".

whiskyowl · 19/03/2018 11:02

Oh my God, it's like something out of the 1950s. Definitely not an enviable relationship. She sounds like she needs some kind of intervention.

Chanelprincess · 19/03/2018 11:03

The guy would rather eat rancid 3-day old food that's been sitting around in the fridge than get off his lazy ass to prepare something fresh? Eurgh. That's pretty disgusting.

MargaretCavendish · 19/03/2018 11:04

This isn't meant to come across as a dig at your DP specifically but I've heard people use this excuse quite a lot and really do think that they either need a new job or we should all accept that particular phrase as code for "I'd rather have it done for me".

Yes, when people come out with this one I always wonder whether their husband (I've never encountered a wife whose job meant that her husband had to prepare every meal for her, rather tellingly) really has no single colleagues, or whether they just starve? Of course it's nice if DH makes dinner when it's my turn when work is manic for me - but it's nice, not a necessity as some people seem to claim.

AcronymsForAll · 19/03/2018 11:05

I know I'm completely missing the point, and people are talking about physically and mentally capable people here, but it's a bit sad to see it called pathetic to not be capable of some basic life stuff. Different people struggle with different shit, and not everyone's disabilities will be widely known and visible. With illness and disabilities in the mix, a relationship adapts around it, even if it means making breakfast and lunch for your partner.

Yes, yes, missing the point. I'm tired.

MrsKoala · 19/03/2018 11:05

I remember my Mum did this for Dad when she went away. He didn't ask her to, but he'd never cooked so she did it. He told everyone down the pub and was seen as 'the man' by the blokes and all the wives tutted and Mum did a kind of indulgent smug face. Then when she came home it was all still there as he just drank himself stupid and lived on cheese sandwiches.

rocketgirl22 · 19/03/2018 11:07

Do you think she also left him a beaker of breast milk?

Sparklesocks · 19/03/2018 11:08

I love my partner very much but he can use a hob! I wouldn't do all this for him unless he was physically unable to himself. Men shouldn't fall apart without their women!

moonmaker · 19/03/2018 11:12

One of the cringiest Facebook updates ever

rach01pink · 19/03/2018 11:14

I would definitely do this for my partner.. He loves my cooking and I'm a complete control freak so all good :) I also think its nice the husband appreciates it and has acknowledged that.. Could be worse.. She could do it all and it be taken for granted

hereyougosuckmyassforensics · 19/03/2018 11:27

I'd do this for my husband out of kindness and I'd be flattered if he posted online to say he appreciated it. He's perfectly capable of cooking for himself but I like to take care of him.

BugsyMcGee · 19/03/2018 11:27

If I'm eating it, I'm most likely cooking it but only because I want to enjoy it. DH can cook all the things I can but he is fucking terrible at it. Poor memory, lack of coordination and no real desire to get the best out of the ingredients.
If you can eat it without shitting your pants or dying, he's fine with it.

If I was going away, there's no way I'd leave him labeled meals. He could eat his own shitty cooking, although I suspect he'd live on toast, peanut butter sandwiches and cereal (leaves more time for wanking and sleeping).

Arealhumanbeing · 19/03/2018 11:49

@anneoneill

@arealhumanbeing

Shouldn't you be somewhere else insulting rape victims?

Please explain as I apologised on the thread that I think you mean (are you following me?) Also I am a rape victim.

Also fuck off.

GrannyGrissle · 19/03/2018 12:06

DCs DH is clearly too thick to realise how gormless his FB announcement makes him look. I suppose it would stop him inviting any other women over in DCs absence. Imaging them finding THAT in the fridge?

formerbabe · 19/03/2018 12:16

This thread is hilarious.

So many hunz who luv their hubz

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 19/03/2018 12:18

What bothers me slightly more is if the "I'm happy to do this for my man" types have sons. There's a risk that they're raising another generation of feckless arses of sons who can't look after themselves and need mum or wifey to do it for them.

PodgeBod · 19/03/2018 12:22

If somebody did this for me I would probably cry with happiness. At least he was grateful and didn't see it as his due.

Fruitcorner123 · 19/03/2018 12:25

one of my friends cuts her husbands food up for him before putting it on the table!

Wow. And we wonder why some boys grow up to be lazy with mothers who treat their grown up husbands like little boys.

OutyMcOutface · 19/03/2018 12:27

That’s very cringeworthy.

anneoneill · 19/03/2018 12:33

08:53 - I post the first reply on this thread

09:45 - @arealhumanbeing nametags me and talks at me unprompted.

She then accuses ME of following HER into this thread.

Not very bright, are you hun?

DBoo · 19/03/2018 12:34

I know someone like this. Would rather not eat than cook themselves something.

Stupid me used to feel sorry for them and worry about them starving until I realised they were a grown man and could quite capably feed themselves if hungry by whatever means they decide.

I realised then that I was the daft one.

Mumma · 19/03/2018 12:38

Each to their own!

Id never do this but its sweet in an odd kinda way.

Adventuritis · 19/03/2018 12:39

I do meal prep like this (just dinners) for a single male friend and he pays me! It’s no different, and no different from people who live on ready meals or takeaways- not everyone enjoys cooking!! It’s just teamwork!

RoadToRivendell · 19/03/2018 12:39

So many hunz who luv their hubz

Lol.

A crashingly cringy FB post, but whatever floats your boat I guess.

Arealhumanbeing · 19/03/2018 12:47

@anneoneill

You’re still there. Ok.

You responded to me by referring to something I had said and then apologised for on another thread.

That’s like following me.

Try to calm down and do let me know if you need any more help.

You sound angry, desperate and a little rough.

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