That a 40 year old man child is pathetic not endearing?

[RoryAndLogan]

My cousins husband has posted online about meal prep she has done for him. She's going away with work for 3 days, and has filled the fridge with Tupperware labelled 'breakfast', 'lunch' and 'dinner' for each day.

His post was 'wife goals! No going hungry for me!'

He's 39 years old.

She's mentioned in the past how if she's ever away he will just eat pizza if she doesn't prepare his meals as he can't do anything else and talks about it like it's endearing and sweet

AIBU that this isn't at all endearing, but pathetic?

My husband's currently away with work for 3 days. Before he left last night he gave my car a mini service to minimize the likelihood of me having any trouble in the freezing temperatures while he was away. Not because I'm a pathetic girly who can't check a tyre pressure. But because that's how much he loves me. Seriously, why would you feel the need to mock couples who like to look after each other?

Of course he's not incapable of keeping himself alive for 3 days.

That's a tad OTT, even by MN standards don't you think?

There should be a thread about controlling wives who infantilise their husbands...

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That's a tad OTT, even by MN standards don't you think?

Can't get myself worked up about this.

'Wife goals' is a bit grim but they obviously care for each other and aren't doing anybody any harm.

I don't MrsRyan, I've yet to achieve all my #parentinggoals, and I'm 50.

one of my friends cuts her husbands food up for him before putting it on the table!

Its nice to love your partner - its quite cute some of the ways people show it.

*I don't know

The most interesting part would have been part two when endearing dh opens his parcels of gourmet succulent joy to post on sm with bated breath :

Just opened breakfast box - dried out pizza
Lunch box - dried out pizza
Dinner box - ditto

With a love heart note saying have fun! xx

Wife goals my arse

My husband does this for me...

honey What the dried up pizza or the labelled tupperware boxes?

I don't care that the wife did it, I don't care that the husband likes it. Their marriage, whatever works for them.

But he makes himself look like a twat by posting it on social media and talking about "wife goals". As if this is what all little women should be doing for their husbands.

Maybe it was a remark that was amusing and appreciative to the small group of his friends who would see it in Facebook and was not intended to be published on the internet by someone he thought a friend?

It's not something I'd do, but maybe it's reasonable within the context of how they share chores within their marriage?

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It is nauseating that she is doing it for a grown man - and it is 3 DAYS! Secondly that he posted it on SM, which seems smug and altogether cringe worthy. How many of their friends would have been rolling their eyes at that moment...not to mention wife goals. Since when has been a good partner been about goals? As if somehow it is HER sole purpose in life to keep HIM happy but setting herself goals!!!

Seriously...that is just fucking annoying.

What a total loser to post the fact he can't make himself a fucking sandwich.

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Haha rocket- the making meals for me when he’s away on business. He wouldn’t label it or post on social media though!

In my defense he’s a chef and a much better cook than I am. :)

She obviously doesn't know the rules. When your partner goes away is your opportunity to eat all the things they hate. DH has gone off this morning for 5 days and i've been shopping for thai fish curry and gherkins. I leave hm to buy oven pizza if i don't cook. I tell him it's pathetic he can't do anything else - but that's his choice.

Unless there are extenuating circumstances, I would find it:

a) a bit sad that a wife felt she had to do this for her husband
b) a bit pathetic that a man felt that his incompetence was something to brag about
c) a bit cringey that he used the phrase 'wife goals'

They are both pathetic - and even more pathetic to post about it on line.

I occasionally leave something for my DH that I don't like and needs eating up but that's more about fridge clearance than anything else - and why, why, why do people put such rubbish on Facebook?

Is anyone really interested in this sort of tripe?

It’s pathetic

As are women who are too much of a princess to do certain tasks and paky on it

Just to level the argument out

Awwwww, bit jealous are you @RoryAndLogan ??? head tilt

I do find that people who have close, cuddly, loving relationships, incur bitterness and jealousy from those who are not in great relationships.

Reading through the thread, it seems a few others are as bitter and jealous as the OP.

Omg 😮 play on it

I don't know a single one of the 'princesses' you describe enthusiasm all the women I know are completely competent to be fair

(and could make a sandwich and put the bins out assuming that is what you mean)

I think posting it online is completely embarrassing but don't really see the problem otherwise. I'm sure he does some nice things for her too. I would probably leave dinners for dh because I'm a better cook but he does nice stuff for me all the time. Meh 🤷‍♀️

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It is very weird that you associate a good relationship as one that involves infantilising men?