Parents of Ds's friend annoying.

[BuffyBee]

Really don't know what you'll think of this! Could be just me!
But, every time we get Ds9 a Birthday/Christmas present, within a couple of days his friend has been bought the same thing, even though it's not a Special occasion for him.
We have three kids and it's sometimes a struggle to buy a big gift, Ds has to wait for Special occasions for expensive things and somehow, his friend getting the same gift two days later, takes away the shine for me.
So Ds had an expensive electronics gift which he got with his Christmas money and was chuffed to bits, two days later his friend was bought the same.
It hasn't just happened a couple of times, it's been the last five years and it's every single time Ds gets anything, bike, scooter, electronics etc.
What are his parents thinking by doing this?
AIBU for it to get on my nerves?

You seriously need to start telling them that you are buying something (really expensive) that you're not. So they go spend their money on the same thing, (and then you don't get it.) If they don't buy it til after you get it, can you not borrow something of someone for a few days and pretend you bought it (like a macbook or something?) Then when they waster their money on the same thing, give it back to the person you lent it off and tell the parents you took it back. (Or don't tell them anything.)

You seriously need to chill out. You sound a bit deranged. 😂
The other parents probably don’t even know or care what OP buys her kid and are just getting stuff their kid wants and asks for.

I suppose it also depends on how niche the items are and whether your DS is at the front or in the middle of a trend too. It could be that they would both like an item that many other children already have and the other parents are waiting to see if your DS gets it before buyng it for their DS so that it doesn't look like he is getting everything when you cant afford to buy it for your DS?

User14567891 you've taken a quote from another poster, and implied it's from the OP, bit disingenuous, no?
At no point has she said she's going to approach the parents.
You are allowed to disagree of course you are, but be fair about it.

What another kid has at home is any of yours or DS's business because??? It isn't like your DS has invented the damn thing and he is copying it is there for everyone to buy as they see fit!

This is a very easy problem to solve, just stop telling them what your son has and out new things away if the other boy is visiting.

Sounds like the parents of the other child don't know how to say no and don'y want him to feel like he's "missing out" on anything, and by doing so he'll be missing out on a lot of life learning. So yes, I'd find it irritating but, other than withdrawing from the family there isn't much you can do about their style purchase-parenting.

If I had a friend who copied everything I had and did, I would find it creepy and stifling. OP, I would distance myself from this family. While you can't stop them from doing this, you can stop associating with them so much.

This is so completely batshit, i can't even find the words. Op you have far too much time on your hands and far too little kindness in your heart. So a little kid who maybe doesn't have the joy of siblings that your DS has is buying the same toys as your son? He's a child ffs! If you want bespoke toys, go employ a craftsperson.

londonista
No I havent. I think that’s obvious from the wording. I’ve written “OP’s son” not “your son” as I am replying to pp.
It’s you who should “be fair”...or maybe just read comments properly??

Of COURSE it's creepy and stifling and weird. Only people who do this themselves would think it's OK, and personally attack anyone who says it's a weird way to behave.

The parents of this lad sound batshit.

I think we may have the parents of the lad in question (who keeps copying everything the OP does,) on this thread.

Op you have far too much time on your hands and far too little kindness in your heart

Way, waaay too much time. OP and others who’ve posted weird spiteful revenge scenarios like trying to trick parents into buying expensive gifts. This thread is crazy in a really depressing, pathetic way.

Fuck me, some people need to get a grip and stay away from the internet......

If I didn't know any better I would swear the batshit parents the OP is on about is posting on here!

My son has a few items that he wanted because he has seen his friend with them and liked them. He has the same mobile phone, games console and Lego range. He generally only gets big presents for birthdays and Christmas, although I did buy his phone early, mainly as it was on a great offer, so I thought it would makes sense to buy it whilst I could.

I hope his friend's parents don't think we are somehow ruining their child's enjoyment of his toys! My son doesn't have much of an imagination and when he has enjoyed playing with something, tends to ask for the exact same, so he knows he will get what he wants. He also prefers to go to clubs when he knows his friends will be there too. We do try to encourage him to make his own choices but I'm not going to prevent him doing activities or playing with toys just because his friend has the same thing.

He also likes to do some of the same activities as me and his big sister, he admires us all and wants to be like us in some ways. One of his favourite Christmas presents was a ladies dressing gown, as he wanted a big soft dressing gown like mine and my daughter's, the boys' ones would not do as they were not as soft! I don't think it has taken the shine of our own dressing gowns, just cute that he knows what he likes.

Fuck me, some people need to get a grip and stay away from the internet

Take your own advice as you don’t seem to be able to cope with people disagreeing with you? 😂😂

My two cents, YANBU, I would probably also feel a bit eye roll about it HOWEVER I think it's a fact of life - there will always be someone richer than you, or given more than you, or seemingly luckier than you. Sometimes life just isn't fair! I still get a bit jealous when one of my friends gets given cars/money/free bloomin' everything from her parents! But you just have to try and grin (occasionally gritted teeth) and be happy for someone you like. At the end of the day, you're teaching your son to save for things he wants, and not to rely on instant gratification - that's way more valuable than having the toys.

Yeah you don't seem to be able to BEAR it that people have different views to you HUN.

Now bore off, you're embarrassing yourself.

Obviously aimed at @user14567891

Buy you ds a tandem or a toy that's for more than 1 dc.
Or hire a drum kit, let her buy one then send yours back!!

Well said @april The OP should pretend to buy something, and make the daft parents of their sons' mate spend loads of money. That'll teach the fucking weirdos.

Great idea to hire something really expensive! Or as I said earlier, borrow something expensive, and watch the parents go spend a grand copying you.

I get it, and I agree with you. It sounds like your DS's friend can't bare for your DS to have something extra special that he doesn't have, ever.

I would go out of my way to buy one offs, or source unique style versions of things, and if they ask where you got it from make a point of telling them that actually FOR ONCE, you'd like your DS to have something unique, of his own, that his friend doesn't have so you won't be sharing that information.

Unless you've been the victim of a copy cat you just can't understand it. I remember my DSis had a copycat in our community, not even a close friend. She would always buy the same clothing as my DSIS, and when my DSis started to source more unique items she would ask here where she had bought them and would got seriously annoyed at not being told.

Have a cousin like this, Drives me irrationally crazy,
Parents laugh it off as " isn't it sweet" type of thing., It gives me rage though,