Moustache shadow .. with photo :-(

[Glitterzzz]

I know this might not sound a big problem to a lot of people but I have a constant female moustache shadows on my upper lips. I don’t even have a problem with hair it’s juts this constant blue/ grey tinge that has got worse and worse over the last couple of years.

I don’t smoke I’m not on birth control and don’t have any hormone issues I’m aware of. I’ve tried home remedies, chemical peels and led light treatments, vitimans and every expensive covering foundation on the market from £6 to £45 and nothing hides it.

I’m so so self conscious of it now. I’m not making eye contact with people even walking to my car all I can think is of the shadow. I see people staring at the area also.. when I cover it I use peach/ red liostick then concealer and then foundation and it still is there ...

I’m getting desperate. My partner hasn’t said a word but I seem him looking at it almost in shock .. I didn’t have this a couple years ago when we met. I’m so sick of hiding my face with my hands, not having confidence to even look people I know in the face.. and worst all I cannot even cover it and go about my day... please help! Does anyone have this problem ? Could my Gp help!

I can’t see anything!

There is really nothing there, and that's from someone who is extremely critical and normally notices stuff like that.

If you put household bleach on your face, you will burn your skin, you won’t ‘bleach’ it any way. Also please stop buying lightening creams.

I know we’re all telling you it’s not there. Because it is not there. But for you, it is. Honestly, and I mean this kindly, it seems like you are absolutely fixated on this and it’s causing you major stress and anxiety. I would ask you gp if you can be referred for counselling/CBT. It’s not uncommon for us to be unhappy with certain parts of ourselves, but the fixation you have on this isn’t healthy. I would urge you to seek help for your mental health.

To add, don't even think of trying harsh chemicals, bleach or tattooing. You will (at best) thin the skin and make it very light sensitive so make the area look darker or at worst you may disfigure your lovely skin.

or try household bleach OP no, please do not do that! There's nothing to see now but there definitely will be if you scar your skin with dangerous DIY attempts.

You do not have a problem with your upper lip, or if you do it's so slight that no one can see it except extremely close-up. Lots of people on AIBU who don't know you have seen your pics and told you so.

If you could let go of believing it's really bad, and not worry about it, you would be happier I'm guessing?

Glitterzzz, have you thought about doing voluntary work? Maybe working with children, the elderly, animals? In the kindest possible way, you need to get a grip, it's a tiny part of your face. Your face is tiny part of who you are. You are wasting your life worrying about this. Do something that makes you value who you are, not how you look.

Don't think there's any point in posting on this thread and reassuring the OP - she sounds quite unwell about it, and unable to take the rational comments on board

Wear some sparkly earrings to draw people's eyes to the upper half of your face if you feel they are staring at your lip area.

OP, the reason people are looking there when you speak is because a lot of people (especially people who have hearing problems or problems making and sustaining eye contact) look at people's mouths when they talk. It's totally normal and I can 100% guarantee it has nothing whatsoever to do with the imperceptible skin tone difference.

You know what we all see, killer lips, a great jaw and a face that looks expressive and beautiful. No one looks and see what you are fixated on and I think we all do this sometimes..I have giant pores I mean huge you could sail a ship across them ... well you couldn't it's just skin and well within normal for a woman of my age... You need a bit of support with this because you are hugely affected by a fixation on something that no one else can even see. You have some huge body dysphoria going on and if you got some help to stop it looming so largely in your life you would feel better than any magic makeup could ever make you feel.

I would say all this messing has probably left the are phyto sensitive.

I used to have something similar but a lot worse (I looked very hard at the pics you put up and just can't see the issue, it looks like what everyone has!); sunscreen factor 50 on my face, mainly top lip, is what got rid of it. It took some years.

But with you this is clearly in your mind, not on your face :/ use sunscreen, it will benefit your face even if no shadow. But for goodness sake don't rub bleach into your face. And of course your dermatologist 'notices' it. They notice everything, from the slightest freckle.

'Photo'

Hey OP. You have beautiful lips, I’m v jealous. I can’t see anything either, sorry.

Is there a chance that you mumble or look down at the ground when you’re talking? If you do that, people will look at your mouth to try and catch what you’re saying. It’s unconscious, just something people do. You might then interpret this as them looking at your upper lip.

In the kindest words I can think of, I really think you have got this out of perspective. It's gone past vanity.
There is no shadow visible on your face. Do you go around thinking critical and hurtful thoughts about other peoples blemishes/variations in facial appearance?

If you do, you need to find another focus to your life.
If you don't then you have to realize most other people aren't thinking that of you, and even if they were, its not important, so ignore them.

OP that’s a normal upper lip? Mine is the same, you’re seeing the shadow from your nose and dent from the lip line...

I can't see it at all! You have gorgeous lips.

Get double wear. I'm obsessed with redness by my nose which no one else notices.

OP, I'm an expert moustache detector and see nothing at all. It's possible that what you are seeing is a shadow from the curve of your mouth, but there is no moustache!

OP, do you think we're all just trying to be nice?
This is MN - where you get the brutal truth!
May I ask if you think we're all lying to you?

Ok. Firstly, I need to say, if I didn't have threading, I would have a full moustache. Even after threading, it comes back quickly. Secondly, my poor daughters have unfortunately inherited this trait from me. They are in their twenties. One in particular has it really bad.

I wanted to type that detail so you would know I understand about hairy upper lips. All three of us are far far far worse than you. I'm not trying to trivialise what you are feeling, but in the grand scheme of moustaches, it really is not a bad one.

Lastly, you have beautiful lips, I bet they look gobsmacking with red lipstick. If I were you (wish I looked like you!) I would wear darker lipstick to try and take the emphasis away from your upper lip, and wear it with pride.

I think you are getting yourself in a tizzy about it. Youngest DD hates hers, but takes action to remove it when she can and has learned to live with it and hers is so so so much worse than yours

Do not use bleach. I did that once. I ended up still with a moustache but a far more noticeable blonde one!

Sweetheart there really isn't anything there. Please speak to your doctor again.

I have PCOS and a full beard I have to shave, plus psoriasis. Nobody much gives a shit. Nobody much gives much of a shit what you look like because they're far too worried about what they look like.

I can't see a thing on your photos. This sounds like a mental health issue and I would recommend seeking psychological help.

I’m just going to put what my whole face looks like. Even in this photo I’m just looking at that area ... maybe against my whole skin tone you can get a better idea of the problem

OK, OP you look like some kind of Hollywood starlet, and you are worried about an imagined tash?

OP you are very pretty! There is nothing wrong with your face :)