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Moustache shadow .. with photo :-(

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 09:21

I know this might not sound a big problem to a lot of people but I have a constant female moustache shadows on my upper lips. I don’t even have a problem with hair it’s juts this constant blue/ grey tinge that has got worse and worse over the last couple of years.

I don’t smoke I’m not on birth control and don’t have any hormone issues I’m aware of. I’ve tried home remedies, chemical peels and led light treatments, vitimans and every expensive covering foundation on the market from £6 to £45 and nothing hides it.

I’m so so self conscious of it now. I’m not making eye contact with people even walking to my car all I can think is of the shadow. I see people staring at the area also.. when I cover it I use peach/ red liostick then concealer and then foundation and it still is there ...

I’m getting desperate. My partner hasn’t said a word but I seem him looking at it almost in shock .. I didn’t have this a couple years ago when we met. I’m so sick of hiding my face with my hands, not having confidence to even look people I know in the face.. and worst all I cannot even cover it and go about my day... please help! Does anyone have this problem ? Could my Gp help!

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umpteennamechanges · 15/03/2018 19:48

You can't get rid of it because it's a total normally feature of normal faces!

I know what you mean...I started to see my own and then drove myself nuts trying to cover it but it's not possible as there isn't anything to cover.

All faces have it...you're just noticing your own more.

It's not something a GP can help with as it is 100% normal.

umpteennamechanges · 15/03/2018 19:53

Just finished reading the full thread...so glad that you've listened to the unanimous chorus of 'you look perfectly lovely and there's nothing there, it's just the way a normal top lip looks'.

THIS is why airbrushing sucks. We don't even know what normal looks like anymore!

Cantusethatname · 15/03/2018 19:56

I zoomed in and still can't see anything.
Go to someone who will tell you the truth - your mum, sister, or go to a beautician you trust. If they look at your face in natural light and still see nothing, please believe there really is nothing. You look lovely.

wizzler · 15/03/2018 20:03

Congratulations op. You have achieved consensus on AIBU and that never happens! You are beautiful, and that is why men smile at you.

DharmaInitiativeLady · 15/03/2018 21:09

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 21:19

Thanks for the other responses... I wouldn’t go as far as to say nothing is there but maybe it’s not as bad or obvious as I had made it in my head... I’m going to try to stop taking photos of it every day and obsessing and see how I go... if it continues I’ll go to my GP.

It’s not melasma I have seen a private doctor who said not melasma as it’s not brown which is why I did a course of chemical acid peels and led light treatment ...

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Mawalls · 15/03/2018 21:21

use the eye dropper tool on an graphics package and you can see there is no blue

DharmaInitiativeLady · 15/03/2018 21:23

My dermatologist told me mine was melasma because it is blue! I am confused now. Was she just trying to rip me off? The obagu has helped me loads though.

Anyhow, since I wrote my post, I've seen your full face picture, and now cannot see anything at all, you are very beautiful and need not give it a second thought xx

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 21:24

I’ve tried every kind of Make up x

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Glitterzzz · 15/03/2018 21:27

In would class that as blue ... she said it’s vessels under the skin

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MyBeloved · 15/03/2018 21:28

Melasma can be brown or blue, depending on which layer of the skin it has penetrated.

OP, I can't see anything and you look lovely Flowers

GirlsBlouse17 · 15/03/2018 21:31

Nope, can't see anything apart from half of a beautiful face

MyBeloved · 15/03/2018 21:36

Melasma is pigmentation, not vessels.

Morningpaper · 15/03/2018 21:39

People are staring at your mouth area because they are thinking about kissing you.

We are all doing that right now and we are just a bunch of middle aged women, so any hot blooded pizza delivery chap is DEFFO thinking that.

Hope that helps. X

LolitaLempicka · 16/03/2018 03:44

I can ever so slightly see it, but I don’t think it is bad at all. I think it is normal when you hit your 40s though so would not worry.

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 16/03/2018 03:53

I honestly can't see anything...and as some of the other posters have said they can't see anything either...we aren't lying to you, you really do look normal, it sounds like it's more in your mind and you are convinced that others are staring at you when there is nothing to stare at... if it worries you that much why not go see a dermatologist to see if they can prescribe prescription skin lightening ointment...but I'm certain they would look and say your skin is normal

JacksGirl123 · 16/03/2018 03:55

I can see it but don't think it's at all bad.

Keilninnock · 16/03/2018 05:02

Laser completely removes it. Really, really works.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 16/03/2018 07:04

I can’t see much OP . If there is something it’s very very faint

I think we get very hung up on facial stuff that others done even notice ?

RhiWrites · 16/03/2018 07:38

I can see what you mean, OP. It’s really faint though. I wonder if this is like scars where the person who has them is hyper conscious of them and other people can’t see them at all.

DO NOT USE BLEACH ON YOUR SKIN. You will give yourself a chemical burn. If that was the “one magic trick to remove moustach shadow” your Doctor would know about it.

I think you need to see someone about anxiety because this very small issue has magnified itself in your head to something huge.

RestingBitchFaced · 16/03/2018 14:53

I honestly can't see anything and I've zoomed in! I did have what you are describing though while I was pregnant with DS1 - it faded and went away eventually, but I had to put concealer on it. I think it's quite common in pregnancy, and hormone related

Bexter801 · 16/03/2018 15:02

I genuinely can't see a thing

Tumblrpigeon · 16/03/2018 15:08

Ah you are sooo pretty !

Yes you are being mental ! Your lip is fine x

user1490607838 · 16/03/2018 15:27

Agree you look fine OP. Nothing to see.

summercat · 16/03/2018 15:27

Do you believe everyone @glitterzzz? Smile

There really is NOTHING there (like no tashe!)

You have a good face though, and great lips.

How sad that you see yourself as unattractive! Sad

I know a woman who had a mole on her neck which no-one really noticed or cared about, but she was so stressed about it (especially as she passed 40 and it got bigger,) that she strapped crushed garlic to it (with a plaster) to degrade it, to try and make if fall off. It got badly infected, and she had to have anti-biotics, and it made her quite ill for a week or 2.

She did get the thing removed though. But it was an extreme way to go about it.

It was kinda like that mole on that neck above. ^ Some people wouldn't care, but it did bug her.

People could see that though, and it was a bit 'bulbous.' I can't see anything on your lip though.

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