Moustache shadow .. with photo :-(

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I know this might not sound a big problem to a lot of people but I have a constant female moustache shadows on my upper lips. I don’t even have a problem with hair it’s juts this constant blue/ grey tinge that has got worse and worse over the last couple of years.

I don’t smoke I’m not on birth control and don’t have any hormone issues I’m aware of. I’ve tried home remedies, chemical peels and led light treatments, vitimans and every expensive covering foundation on the market from £6 to £45 and nothing hides it.

I’m so so self conscious of it now. I’m not making eye contact with people even walking to my car all I can think is of the shadow. I see people staring at the area also.. when I cover it I use peach/ red liostick then concealer and then foundation and it still is there ...

I’m getting desperate. My partner hasn’t said a word but I seem him looking at it almost in shock .. I didn’t have this a couple years ago when we met. I’m so sick of hiding my face with my hands, not having confidence to even look people I know in the face.. and worst all I cannot even cover it and go about my day... please help! Does anyone have this problem ? Could my Gp help!

It has a very very slight tinge of colour. This is totally normal. It does not look ANYTHING like a moustache.

OP, you are clearly from your posts really fixated on this, in a way that's not relating properly to reality. I would very strongly suggest that you seek mental health support for it - there is really absolutely nothing wrong with your upper lip, but clearly no amount of telling you that is going to help switch your views on this. You really need some psychological support if it's affecting your life.

It's particularly sad to read this thread given what a very beautiful face you have. Please get some help.

No, still can't see it but you could try a really light tanning moisturiser? Oil of Olay everyday sunshine? It takes about three hours to develop but gives a slight golden glow and evens out skin tone whilst looking natural.

I have tried the double wear Estée Lauder I really thought it might work but it just made that area look darker and kinda dried orange ... that was
Despite me having it colour matched in store.

My skin above my upper lip is my concern. The skin in the area is lighter than the rest of my face but I have a constant blue grey moustache shadows that goes all the way across..

It’s not a hair issue.
I don’t have concerns about my actual lips.

I have tried

Home remedies ( lemon, honey , milk etc etc )
Chemical acid peels
Led light treatment sessions
Vitimans
Every Make up product to hide
A couple of lightning skin creams off the net ( didn’t work)

I’m legit thinking to try rubbing bleach into my face. I even tried a whitening mouthwash on the skin of that area the other day just to see if it would make a difference .

I have this - it's like a little moustache mask and get worse if I tan at all. I have to say that I ignore it. No-one notices it as much as I do, and if they do, they are too polite to mention it.

I think people are looking at your lips when you talk because that's a normal thing to do, I very much doubt they are looking at any 'shadow'. plus you really do have nice lips!
For what it's worth I know the feeling of not being able to look at people because you think they're looking at you, I always think people are looking at my big nose, but after 2 nose jobs a perfect nose and still having these feelings I've accepted it's my mind that is the problem nothing else.

I can't see anything either. It might be one of those 'flaws' that you see in the mirror but no one else can - or that could even be caused by the shadows and light where your mirror is. It's hard, but try not to worry about it.

I think this is a psychological problem which you could seek help for

I also can't see a tinge at all, but you are obviously conscious about it. Remember we often project our insecurities onto others, people don't really notice what we notice. We know our faces very well as we have looked at them in the mirror for so many years, so we focus on the things we don't like. Ever have a spot that you think is huge and no one notices?? I am not trying to downplay what you have said, but you have beautiful lips so most people are probably looking at them, and thinking how lovely they are.

I have beard hair that I have to pluck with tweezers sometimes ;)

I have the same issue, so I kind of see what you mean.

But OP, on your photo, there's nothing wrong! you might see a different colour, but.. that's a normal face? if that makes sense. You have no moustache or anything.

Look at these ladies face, yours look just the same. You might think it looks different, but I swear it would look very very odd if you skin was paler just above your lip.

Honestly, this is AIBU, posters would be more than happy to point out your flaws if you had any

Try a colour correcting palette. Get one of the SAs to show you how to use it.

Op, I honestly only see a very very faint tinge... but I had to really look for it. It really isn't obvious to me at all! However... you mentioned something about blood vessels. I have the most horrendous under eye bags. With no concealer people have asked if I have a black eye - they're really awful and I totally hear where you're coming from with the confidence thing. Apparently it's because the skin is so thin that it shows up the blood vessels up really clearly - may be something similar here?. 2 things that help hugely are taking iron tablets (one or 2 days without them and people start asking if I'm ill!) and slathering on this www.naturisimo.com/products.cfm?id=5136&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkaj8yYru2QIV6L3tCh0WQASVEAQYASABEgJWYfD_BwE before bed.

OP I can't see it in any of the pics, but it may be that there's the faintest possible shadow if you look really closely. However your skin tone varies across your face anyway (I mean everyone's does, not just you) - which is normal - and so if there is anything there it wouldn't be noticeable anyway.

100% honestly, if you had posted the same pics to ask "what colour lippy would suit me" or something, I would see that pic and think you look totally normal well on the pretty side of normal. If I saw you in the street I GUARANTEE I would not think "moustache". No one would.

You have become obsessed with it and see something others can't see. On the plus side there's nothing wrong with your face! But you could maybe talk to a counsellor or something to see if you can let go of the worry about it.

I know this won't help op but just in case it does give some perspective...I would never ever Ina million years take a close up photo of my mouth/jaw, even to post to random son the Internet. Because if I did you would all see the moustache and beard which I have to shave twice a day and the resulting manly stubble that I constantly have on my chin and neck. If I think about it too much I get a bit like you, I have trouble looking at people because I feel so mortified at what they are seeing on my face/neck. But then I think, fuck it, if I were a man would I worry about this? No! So why should I worry about it just because I have a vagina? Everybody has different skin/hair issues, no one meets the ridiculous photoshopped standards that we sometimes set ourselves. Life is short, we only have one go at it. I think you have expended enough energy worrying about this, accept yourself and love yourself as you are. As a beardy woman I KNOW that is not easy to do but it is possible and it is very liberating when you get there.

I also can't see a thing, but you do have a lovely mouth/lips.
Just get on with your life, or consider some counselling. Do you have anxiety ?

There are two things going on here, I think. Faces do have patchy tone- I think lavender is the best to counteract grey.

However, none of the photos show anything noticeable. So you have an anxiety problem that needs addressing more than a shadow problem.

If anything, your lower face is more than usually attractive. You have lovely skin, and a lovely shape mouth and chin. Your hair looks lustrous and think. I would guess the rest of you looks lovely too.

This isn't about your lip shadow. what would it take for you to believe that?

Nope. There is no shadow. Honestly. Nothing there.

I don’t have anxiety . This is just affecting me every day . If I go out for the day I lug a huge Make up bag with me to try to hide this before I come in the house . I don’t like the big lights on in the frontroom I prefer the lamp. I sound stupid I know but it’s really there . I’m just at the end with it nothing works no Make up tips no coverage nothing . I even looked into tattooing cosmetic wise if I could find someone to tattoo over it ... or try household bleach .. when I paid over £500 for the chemical peels and things my partner said I had great skin and don’t need it ... but he knows not to say anything about the shadow. I know he stares at it ..... he even says don’t hide your face:-(((( every day dealing with this and I’m fed up

Ironically by avoiding eye contact with people and covering your face with your hands, you're making yourself unattractive to others and unapproachable.

Come on, everyone has flaws and insecurities. You've completely lost all perspective here and it's become an obsession in your mind.
The best thing you can do is put it out of your mind and get on with your life.

when I cover it I use peach/red lipstick, then concealer then foundation hmm I can't help thinking that would look a bit weird? Red lipstick on your upper lip? It might be a bit caked up with all that make up. That might be drawing attention to your INVISIBLE moustache!

It is not particularly noticeable to me OP but I don't want to challenge your thinking on this as you can obviously identify a difference. The skin above peoples' lips is not usually the same shade as their chin, cheeks etc, skin tone varies across the face, which is why foundation can look so fake. Do you find it worse in the summer? If so could it be a very mild melasma/chloasma?

My upper lip freckles look horrendous in summer, MAC make up lady gave me an almost white concealer which really helps. The fact that you are saying nothing works surprises me as looking at your photo a little bit of standard concealer should be working well.

You say you don't have anxiety, but how else would you classify obsessing over something so tiny and unnoticeable??

How do you react to other people's 'flaws', OP? Do you stare at big noses or yellow teeth? Are you horrified by double chins or spots?

I bet you don't even notice other people's imperfections. They don't notice yours either. Everyone has better things to worry about.

OP you have just reminded me that I had this and I have only just realised reading this thread that it's now gone!

Blue top lip, wasn't really showing in pictures but in real life I was paranoid about it.

I had it for a few years, have no idea why it suddenly vanished. Maybe it's an age/hormone thing?

I think, OP,that nothing has worked - because there is nothing there.

Looking at Kate's photo - or anyone's - and you can imagine/focus on a slightly lighter skin tone, or darker, or even blue-ish. I think either everyone has it, or we all are just normal.

See your Dr. I'm sure it is all fixable.