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I took dc2 to a toddler swimming session today. In the changing room and a mum comes in with her dc. The mum is very hippyish looking - dreads, piercings, lots of baggy clothes etc. Her dc is in a pink frilly dress, wearing a sparkly sort of tiara thing, carrying a silver wand and sparkly paw patrol boots. I vaguely wonder if it’s her child as my hippyish friends all dress their kids in very gender neutral type clothes and definitely not girly, pink stuff.

Anyway, as her dc got changed it was obvious her dc wasn’t a girl. Only noticed because they were both stood there stark naked for way longer than necessary before I get accused of being a pervert.

Am I being cynical in thinking that if her dc was a girl she’d probably be dressed in dinosaur dungarees or similar? It was just such an ott, impractical outfit to wear. I can’t think why you’d dress your dc like that unless to prove some point about how cool and modern you and your child are.

I may be biased though as she was a very irritating woman in the lesson!

Young children tend to wear clothes of a similar style to their parents.

DS2 is currently wearing a firefighter’s helmet, Harry Potter glasses, a Chinese silk scarf, a backpack and wellies. He is brandishing a sparkly wand.

There is no way I can live up to that level of magnificence in a navy dress and tights.

upsideup Wed 14-Mar-18 17:40:32

I can guarantee that in a few more decades it will be a lot more socially acceptable for boys and men to wear pink clothes or makeup etc , just like it is or is becomming more socially acceptable for girls to have short hair and 'boys' clothes.

Did you miss the 1980s? Although it was less pink and more ruffles to be fair, but on the new romantics there was make-up aplenty.

No, she was judging the mum for not conforming to her normal dress standards. OP saw a woman wearing a particular dress style and made an assumption about her parenting.

You know the old saying assume makes an ass out of u and me? The same works for judging people for no reason at all other than the fact that you're petty and miserable.

Very well put!

OP this thread was always going to go this way. But it's normal that you found it interesting. This is just one of the weird ways in which mn is in a different universe to rl. Over the years I've known hundreds of children. And dressing boys in sparkly pink is hugely uncommon. Not wrong, not terrible, but really really uncommon.

Really? I went to pretty conservative sorts of toddler groups, and there were still always boys in fairy dress up. Toddlers don't care. Any number of ways a little boy could end up choosing a dress. Maybe he always went for them at toddler group or nursery so his parents got him one. Maybe he has a big sister. Maybe it came from hand me downs. Maybe he asked for it and was given it.
And some people are no fun. Who needs practical for sit in car, change into swimming gear, change back, sit in car? A fairy dress is as easy as anything to take off and shove in a bag. I'll battle them into jeans for a trip to the park but not swimming!