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To continue a pregnancy st 46-7

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Spoog1971xx · 11/03/2018 23:13

That's it really... 46 1/2 years old pretty much menopausal and I appear to be up the duff. 😳 I ttc for 20 years ( finally got pregnant with DS at 41 with IVF) DH has azospermia. Now this happens. I'd love another child but aibu? I'm ancient and I have high blood pressure. The chances of MC are 50 percent,Down syndrome ? What if I die when the kid is ten? Jesus this is a turn up for the books. Aibu to continue this knowing there may be complications by the bucket load?

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redandsilver · 12/03/2018 23:48

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myshinynewusername · 13/03/2018 00:06

Is that it for the night redandsilver, or has your mother switched the wifi off and reminded you that its a school night?

2018SoFarSoGreat · 13/03/2018 00:07

RedandSilver are you okay? I"m worried for and about you. Please get someone IRL to talk to. Away from MN perhaps. Flowers

wouldyoudo · 13/03/2018 00:20

Wow. I think some people forget that behind posts a living breathing feeling person exists. Sensitivity clearly isn't a strong point for some overinvested point provers.

Cousinit · 13/03/2018 00:34

Gosh, this thread has taken a turn for the worse! I hope you're ignoring all the nonsense if you're still bothering to read, OP. It sounds to me like you very much want this baby so I hope all goes well for you. All I can say is that having my surprise baby at 43 was the best thing to happen to me. She is a happy little girl who has brought so much joy to us all and surely that it what matters? Red, you seem overinvested in this topic for some reason. I hope you are okay.

frogsoup · 13/03/2018 08:44

Pmsl at the idea of most 70yos needing care and help with daily life!!! At 70 my dad was still considerably stronger and fitter than I am at 40.

flippinada · 13/03/2018 09:06

Good lord. I think someone pissed on redandsilver's chips and then made her eat them Grin

Congrats OP and good luck.

GerdaLovesLili · 13/03/2018 09:14

Gosh! I hope my FIL who's in his 70's isn't now going to suddenly need help with getting down from the roof of the library he's been building for the last couple of months. T'would be very inconvenient.

appleblossomtree · 13/03/2018 09:17

@fuckedoverinlife do you really think a young adult would see having an inheritance as a positive (instead of having a healthy parent).

I'm wondering if perhaps you haven't expierenced loosing a parent from a young age?

I am in this exact position and I can confirm I would choose my parent being alive to see me and my children grow over the money!

Wheresthebeach · 13/03/2018 09:23

OP - Hope you haven't been scared off by the hysterics on this thread.

I had DD at 43. Sure, in an ideal world would I have been younger? Yes. But life isn't ideal and older parents aren't that unusual - historically, or now. Get all the tests done, if you're both otherwise fit and healthy then there's no reason not to progress. LIfe really is worth living with older parents!

biscuiteater · 13/03/2018 09:41

Congratulations Flowers
Lots of mums are older now, I know someone who had their 2nd child at 50. Having babies in your 40s isn't uncommon nowadays. Lots of tests available too, best of luck to you x

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SophieLMumsnet · 13/03/2018 10:03

Hi all,

Thanks so much for the reports about this thread. We're going to suspend it while we read over everything Flowers

StrangeLookingParasite · 15/03/2018 15:11

Newsflash ; someone with a different point of view is NOT a troll.

Newsflash; it's not what you were saying, it's how you were saying it.

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