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To think this is a weird message from colleague?

294 replies

Octaviaeight · 10/03/2018 19:46

New colleague sat next to me for about a month (she's been in the company a year but just moved to my department).

She messaged me on Facebook last night and said just letting you know that I was in a car crash last night.

I wasn't at work this week and I won't be next week either so wouldn't have noticed her missing.

I'm not her manager, her absence doesn't need to be reported to me at all.

Obviously I asked how she was but I'm not a close friend of hers. We've never socialised.

She has a boyfriend and lots of family so she's not lonely.

Is that an odd message to send?

OP posts:
NotACleverName · 10/03/2018 22:53

After having a search on MN, I suspect we may need to be wary of possible mental illness here re Fission. Let's just drop it yeah?

Let's not do this. I think Fission's posts are weird, but let's not do the whole armchair psychologist bullshit. There's enough of that on MN as it is.

ChocolateDoll · 10/03/2018 22:55

Ah, so these are the kind of people that stay in on a Saturday night, surfing the web.

I knew this wasn’t the life destined for me, damn it!!

WorraLiberty · 10/03/2018 22:58

You know when people say, "Mumsnet is like a freaky parallel universe at times"?

Well for anyone who doesn't understand that statement in the future, I'm going to direct them towards this thread.

It's completely batshit in places Confused Grin

Bettyfood · 10/03/2018 23:00

Why start a thread in the first place about something like this? I hope at least you have responded sympathetically, asked how she is and passed on your best wishes. FFS.

WorraLiberty · 10/03/2018 23:00

These posters who never answer doors, block anyone they don't know who messages them, etc - how do they ever meet their partners? Surely at one point they were also a stranger...

The irony is, they're using social media Confused

BearFoxBear · 10/03/2018 23:04

Keyboard warriors who are terrified of real life interaction Confused

Lizzie48 · 10/03/2018 23:04

Did she actually send her message just to you? Because with Facebook Messenger, as with text messages, you can send messages to a group and not to just one person. She might have been just letting you and other people it was relevant to know that she wouldn't be back in work for a couple of weeks.

I would think more about her than you tbh, it's a horrible experience she went through. She won't be thinking about whether it was appropriate to include you in her message.

It's possible to overthink things.

FissionChips · 10/03/2018 23:04

Who here is a keyboard warrior?

QualityDogWrangler2 · 10/03/2018 23:07

All odd... your work colleague, let’s you know she’s been injured and won’t be in work, that’s the normal part, I would do that.
You are rather odd, and so is your response.

I suppose this is why people I’ve have viewed as friends, have only viewed me as a useful acquaintance..

GlitterGlassEye · 10/03/2018 23:07

Oh yes, peepholes exist. I don’t have one but my front door is an entire frosted panel. Anyone chapping could see me too. Any house I’ve lived in previously had them (all 3). My dm has one and she has 2 glass panel inserts, weirdly.

InsomniacAnonymous · 10/03/2018 23:13

Why are people interpreting "I've never had a peephole/spyhole" as "I don't believe they exist"?

FissionChips · 10/03/2018 23:15

Because mumsnet has gone bloody weird tonight Confused

LunchBoxPolice · 10/03/2018 23:21

Crazy thread.

Op - I would find the message odd.

I have a peephole in my front door.

WorraLiberty · 10/03/2018 23:21

Peephole is such a sexual word.

I feel dirty when I read it.

LunchBoxPolice · 10/03/2018 23:27

I feel dirty looking through it.

anneoneill · 10/03/2018 23:36

I'm impressed @FissionChips' delicate nervous system is coping with unsolicited replies.

Labradoodliedoodoo · 10/03/2018 23:37

I think it’s quite normal. You’ve sat next to each other for a month.

ChocolateDoll · 10/03/2018 23:37

I feel dirty thinking about you lot looking through them.

FissionChips · 10/03/2018 23:40

Don’t worry about me anne, I shall comfort myself now by stroking my rusty spyhole.

LanguidLobster · 10/03/2018 23:43

Fission! Shock That sounds...ROOD.

Actually I have a spyhole, I feel more aware that I'm the proud owner of one now.

Duck90 · 10/03/2018 23:46

Fission is perfectly entitled to not answer the door, if that makes her feel comfortable. People are getting a but cruel over this.

Personally, I agree with others. A message from a colleague would not bother me at all.

We are all different.

MadMags · 11/03/2018 08:16

The mental health post was a bit unnecessary!

LimonViola · 11/03/2018 08:39

Yep the mental health dig was disgusting.

Sorry everyone turned into a schoolyard bully towards you Fission. I'm impressed you remained in the thread. It says much more about them than about you.

MotherofaSurvivor · 11/03/2018 09:30

@LimonViola I WASN'T HAVING A DIG I WAS BEING SERIOUS!!??? If someone potentially has mental health issues then people need to reign it in!!

MotherofaSurvivor · 11/03/2018 09:31

Even the tiniest hint of MH issues should be enough of a sign