To think this is a weird message from colleague?

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New colleague sat next to me for about a month (she's been in the company a year but just moved to my department).

She messaged me on Facebook last night and said just letting you know that I was in a car crash last night.

I wasn't at work this week and I won't be next week either so wouldn't have noticed her missing.

I'm not her manager, her absence doesn't need to be reported to me at all.

Obviously I asked how she was but I'm not a close friend of hers. We've never socialised.

She has a boyfriend and lots of family so she's not lonely.

Is that an odd message to send?

What does 'sun-me-athletic' mean, Buttered?

The simple ask in real life’s ifnthey can contact me on such and such a day or time SusanBunch, really don’t think its odd at all.

Ringthebells - at last a sensible response

Do you have the same first name as her best friend or something & she's messaged you by accident? I wouldn't expect a message from the person I've worked with closely for 2 years every day like that, I'd expect him to tell me when he was back. I agree it's a bit odd & attention seeking.

People shouldn’t send unsolicited messages if they don’t want to get blocked

Meanwhile, in the real world...

"block and blank"

Jesus Christ.

The simple ask in real life’s ifnthey can contact me on such and such a day or time SusanBunch, really don’t think its odd at all.

Oh, hahaha, I didn't realise you were being sarcastic all along... I thought you were being serious.

Moving on then

People shouldn’t send unsolicited messages if they don’t want to get blocked. How on earth does a conversation start? Someone must have sent an unsolicited message , if only to solicit a message.

I would just reply something like "Sorry to hear that, have you let (managers name) know?"

She probably considers you a friend, having sat next to you for a while, and wants to let you know.

I’d block and blank though , unexpected communication freaks me out.

Dafuq?

Why are you friends with her on Facebook then? I don't have anyone on my Facebook who i wouldn't want messaging me. You've sat next to each other every day for a month, she's just letting you know something massive that's happened to her.

She's probably forgotten that you're not in next week and thinks you'll notice her absence. She's also probably in shock and telling a lot of people.

Amazed that people would block and blank her for this, and that they can't cope with receiving normal messages. Ridiculous.

I wouldn’t class anyone I’ve known a month as a friend. Friendship means a lot more to me than that. We’ve never so much as had a break or lunch together.

I also don’t put that much emphasis on Facebook that people on this thread seem to. I don’t post on there.

I’ve been in a car accident, aside from my manager it strangely wasn’t on my mind to message all my colleagues to tell them?

I would just ignore and put on my restricted list. A work college is just that.

She probably considers you a friend, having sat next to you for a while, and wants to let you know.

I wouldn’t call 20 days a while.

I think it’s one of those “finding it hard to cope with and still a bit in shock so telling everyone” things

Absolutely agree with this.

Just message her back saying you are sorry to hear that and hope she's doing ok.

Don't block and blank her. You'll look really weird!

Fine, why don't you send her a reply saying how utterly freaked out you were by her message (rather than y'know, asking if she is okay after the crash). That way she will know that you are quite odd and unfriendly and hopefully she won't send you any more messages. That way, you are doing her a huge favour and yourself one all at the same time.

I also don’t put that much emphasis on Facebook that people on this thread seem to. I don’t post on there.

This isn't one of those competitive anti Facebook threads. She used Facebook because she could contact you there, that's all. Does she have your mobile number?

tell her to fuck off and leave you alone and that you don't care then if that's how you feel and you can't see that she's just trying to start a friendship

How is she on your Facebook anyway, do people have random colleagues on Facebook

Message back and say you hope she is okay, and you'll see her whenever it is you are back at work.

Blocking and blanking someone, for sending a message about a traumatic event, is weird behaviour.

This isn't one of those competitive anti Facebook threads. She used Facebook because she could contact you there, that's all. Does she have your mobile number?

What?! Genuinely what rammel are you spouting?

People said why did you add her if she’s not your friend. My response was I don’t put emphasis on Facebook, I don’t have a criteria to meet if someone adds me.

How much or how little she uses Facebook is irrelevant

WHY ARE PEOPLE SAYING I’M GOING TO BLOCK HER?

I never once said that. A poster said that’s what they’d do. I’m not them.

I put that in caps so hopefully it stands out.

Don't think it's odd at all. Probably letting you know so it's not awkward when you return and everyone else in the office knows. If I was on leave and something like that happened to a colleague I'd appreciate being told, either by the person themselves or a colleague. In fact, I'm sure I have been in the past, e.g. being told a colleague's father had died which prevented me potentially putting my foot in it when I next see them!

I think 20 days to sit next to someone every day at work is a while and why bother adding someone to facebook if you don't want anything to do with them .. if you don't put 'emphasis' on facebook don't add people you're not bothered to hear from ever.