To think this is a weird message from colleague?

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New colleague sat next to me for about a month (she's been in the company a year but just moved to my department).

She messaged me on Facebook last night and said just letting you know that I was in a car crash last night.

I wasn't at work this week and I won't be next week either so wouldn't have noticed her missing.

I'm not her manager, her absence doesn't need to be reported to me at all.

Obviously I asked how she was but I'm not a close friend of hers. We've never socialised.

She has a boyfriend and lots of family so she's not lonely.

Is that an odd message to send?

A sign not to be cruel you mean?

However you want to interpret it Lanquid. I was trying to defend but have been shot down in flames! As you were...

No idea why fission has had such a bashing here. I've seen it said loads of times on Mumsnet that people don't answer the door unless they're expecting someone.

I haven’t read the thread yet but some posters seem to be followed around by others to have a go at them. I think people bear grudges.

Oh, I’m not upset (id just exit the thread if that we’re the case), more bemused really.

Not odd at all - feel sorry for her!

@MotherofaSurvivor I can’t see anything that hints at mental health issues.

But then, I think it’s a bit silly to diagnose someone on a chat forum...

To be honest, I've just broken my ankle today and I am desperate to tell people about it. Sad but true.

Hope she is ok. I am guessing the reason she told you was because u are off next week. She probably wanted you to here a factual version rather than an half story from the office gossip.

Perhaps she was traumatised by the accident and forgot you wouldn't be in work next week.

Not RTFT but could she be telling you hinting she wants you to cover her shifts?

She may have been letting you know because when you get back your work Load is likely to be affected? So a heads up really?

That’s not weird. Receiving a text from our IT manager with a picture of him standing naked in the bathroom is weird! Let’s just say he was very very blessed in “that” department!!

MotherofaSurvivor was just looking out for Fission. Posters may not understand that, but it was clear enough.

Blocking and blanking a work colleague at a mere unexpected message and describing yourself as 'freaked out' indicates a high state of (social?) anxiety, as does refusing to answer the door if you don't know who's there. Fuck all to do with diagnosis it's just common sense.

I don’t think it’s strange at all. Maybe she considers you a friend? She’s probably a bit shook up too. Really hope she doesn’t follow mumsnet!

@marymoosmum That's what I would think. She knows you are off but now can't come in her self so giving you a heads up you will be needing to cover her

I went to lunch with the girl that sits next to me at work after less than 2 weeks of knowing her, we have become good friends as well as colleagues and in a very short space of time, 20 days isn't that short a time that's 160 hours sitting next to her, I am assuming you get each other drinks and share chit chat through the working day, I would message my colleague if i was in a crash and she would care.

Hi Just my thought - It may be just a polite message to let you know she won't be at work as you sit next to each other.

Under the circumstances she may have forgotten you are on leave this week.
As you are friends on Facebook why wouldn't she include you in the message re: car accident
Your reply was fine
I hope this helps

You DONT have to be Facebook ‘friends’ to send someone a message on FB Messenger !!!

Except they are Facebook friends. And you don’t have to accept a message from a non-friend.

Slightly curious but why would you block an 'unsolicited' message from someone you added on Facebook and work with?

If you don't want to respond then fine but blocking is slightly extreme no. I would expect every now and then to receive a random fb message from someone I have spoken to in a while but that's just me

This is the first thread I’ve read in so long as I deleted the app which was at the same time as I deleted the daily mail app and I really think so many people here are the commenters in the DM so nasty and awful and bullying it’s really so depressing to read. Such a shame.

Your tone comes across as very unsympathetic

She sounds shocked and was reaching out

I'd just say ''blimey I hope you're alright''.

As would I. Deleting the message and blocking the person is the nuclear option.

Weirdest. Thread. Ever.