To think this is a weird message from colleague?

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New colleague sat next to me for about a month (she's been in the company a year but just moved to my department).

She messaged me on Facebook last night and said just letting you know that I was in a car crash last night.

I wasn't at work this week and I won't be next week either so wouldn't have noticed her missing.

I'm not her manager, her absence doesn't need to be reported to me at all.

Obviously I asked how she was but I'm not a close friend of hers. We've never socialised.

She has a boyfriend and lots of family so she's not lonely.

Is that an odd message to send?

OK, let's rewind a bit...

Why do you think it's odd?

I think she's either traumatised and reaching out, or maybe in the trauma of the car crash she forgot you were off work and thought you'd wonder where she was?

So many posters on here seem to lack basic humanity. So someone you see every day at work and sit next to, you accept them as a “friend” on social media. They are in a car accident, which could be an extremely traumatic, terrifying experience, but apparently if they message you on fb, the correct thing to do is block them, or make some sarcastic remark. Just weird....

Some posters on this thread are batshit and probably lead sad and lonely lives.

Sometimes I think I am an anti social fucker who doesn't 'get' other people or understand how to respond to them, and no wonder my GP referred me for adult ASD assessment because I cant deal with other humans at all.

And then I read threads like this and think, actually, I'm not doing too bad.

Well...I've rtft and this was a very erm interesting read.

Very strange behaviour from your colleague, I would contact HR and request for her to be moved immediately before she becomes a problem.

Backs slowly out of bonkers thread

I have no idea whether some posters are joking or not

This is such a bizarre thread!

I just hope the poor girl is recovering ok and that she finds a new job soon where she will be better supported by colleagues.

Oh for my goodness. I don't think it is odd, she wants to let you know. She is a human being, you are a human being and you work together you are colleagues.
Just go back like a normal person and say I am so sorry I hope you are OK and not badly hurt.

'Unsolicited messages' is such a weird notion. How would you solicit a message? And if you did, wouldn't that be ... unsolicited?

'Unsolicited messages' is such a weird notion. How would you solicit a message? And if you did, wouldn't that be ... unsolicited?

love it

'Unsolicited messages' is such a weird notion. How would you solicit a message? And if you did, wouldn't that be ... unsolicited?

Brilliant.

I have never been as happy to not work in an office anymore.

Nuts.

All my perceptions re how formal Brits generally are in their relationships, how spontaneity is regarded as akin to rudeness are confirmed. In the Southern Hemisphere if you tell someone to drop by if they are in the neighbourhood you mean it. Spontaneous visits are welcome; if you’re busy that is accepted. One accepts people as one finds them.
Is this a hangover from Victorian social values or a result of generations of living in overly close proximity to others?

Except Cindie many on here have said how they think the Op’s attitude and one or two others are opposite to how they would behave, so far from all.

You may not be friends exactly, but as you sit next to each other perhaps you are the person she knows best in the department. She probably just wanted to let colleagues know.
Car crash experience likely awful, give her a break and be kind.

This thread is the loopiest thing I’ve read on here in ages! She’s probably forgotten you’re off Op, and was simply letting you know why she wasn’t going to be in work. Or maybe she hasn’t got many friends and likes you, and was hoping you’d be friendly and sympathetic.

So pleased this thread is still here
Ive just trawled through AIBU hoping it hadnt been zapped.
It's one of the best I've seen for ages

I think Cindie is on to something with both the Victorian thing, and the idea of living in such close proximity.

It’s definitely a cultural thing.

Maybe not to this extreme though!! Blocking and ignoring a simple message 😂