To think this is a weird message from colleague?

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New colleague sat next to me for about a month (she's been in the company a year but just moved to my department).

She messaged me on Facebook last night and said just letting you know that I was in a car crash last night.

I wasn't at work this week and I won't be next week either so wouldn't have noticed her missing.

I'm not her manager, her absence doesn't need to be reported to me at all.

Obviously I asked how she was but I'm not a close friend of hers. We've never socialised.

She has a boyfriend and lots of family so she's not lonely.

Is that an odd message to send?

I can’t possibly be the only person who does it, why would you want contact when you’re just going about your day?!

It's a Facebook message. If you accept a FB friend request you're allowing them to send you messages through the system, which you can ignore until you're ready to read and respond. They don't require immediate attention and you can turn off notifications. You can also block people if they're annoying you.

That's how FB works. If you don't like it, don't use it.

Yeah, I think it is. Along with never answering the door. I guess these people never buy things online.

I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone sometimes.

IRL: responds to message politely with sympathy.
MN: oh my GOD, how dare she send an unsolicited message! Ignore her! Block her! Log it with 101.

I’ve been in a car accident, aside from my manager it strangely wasn’t on my mind to message all my colleagues to tell them

And there's your reply to her.

She's confused you with someone who gives a shit - set her straight immediately.

STOP TELLING ME TO RESPOND TO HER.

I RESPONDED ONCE I SAW IT AND HOPED SHE WAS OK.

IM NOT THAT MUCH OF A COLD HEARTED BITCH.

Give me strength. Some of you are exasperating

one of my group of friends (who i never have private chats with) asked me, from 5 other girls in our group, to be her bridesmaid last year! I didnt even think we were close friends. I would never have one on one'd with her for lunch for example, only as part of a wider group. I was always polite at events and made time to chat to her etc. Shes not lonely and is a lovely person, so I was quite taken aback. Although the rest of our group seemed to be expecting it.

Sometimes its odd that people view you as more than you think.

And now OP has a tantrum!

*.. if you don't put 'emphasis' on facebook don't add people you're not bothered to hear from ever.

She added me.*

And you accepted the add.

Grow up.

ITS NOT THE FACT SGE SENT ME A MESSAGE.

I DONT CARE WHO SENDS ME MESSAGES.

I WAS TALKING ABOUT THE SUBJECT SHE MESSAGED ME ABOUT.

I just wouldn’t message someone I barely knew telling them I’d been in an accident. I’d tell my partner, family, friends.

My god, this thread?

Jeez if you actively dislike this woman why did you accept a connection with her via Fb outside of work? If you don’t, how about saying, ‘oh god, I can’t believe it! Are you ok? ‘ I don’t have a friend on Fb where I wouldnt at least acknowledge if they had been in a car crash.

Normal people tell each other that they are friends with these things.

And now OP has a tantrum!

I’ve not had a tantrum. I have to put things in caps because people only read what they want to see.

Fissionchips you should post on Facebook that you must only be contacted on social media prior to an agreement made in person. That should be a 2 way street though, don’t you be annoying anybody on your ‘friends’ list with any messages, should you be an inconvenience .

But you knew her well enough to accept her friend request, didn’t you?

Perhaps she’s the type to only have people she would chat to on Facebook. And perhaps she sent all of those people a message. It’s not odd or overly personal.

You’re making a very big deal out of it.

someone messaging you has absolutely no impact on your day at all. You don’t have to respond. You don’t have to do anything

Of course it does, it puts me in the position of where I’m expected to engage with the person, if you message back then they keep messaging you and it just ends up horribly intrusive .

DailyMail I'm expecting her mummy along at any minute to tell us to stop being mean!

Seeing as she died 6 years ago then I can’t see that happening. But thanks.

Oh ffs!

Do you think she only told you? Do you feel she was reporting absence to you?

I would imagine that she expects you'll find out anyway, because she's not in or wearing a neck brace or something, and so she's just pre-empting the conversation, as well as still being somewhat in shock. Not wanting to have it look like she's trying to keep it secret or something.

Maybe people that don’t like all this messaging would be best not using Facebook. It would make for a more relaxing life

@Fission if nobody can message you without your consent, how do they convey that they want to message you?

And if you want to talk to someone, how do you go about it? 🤔

Right the colleague did not do anything weird at all, she’s letting all her colleagues know why she might not be in work, just in case they are wondering. She has forgotten OP is off work because she has been in a serious accident, and funnily enough isn’t thinking about OP’s social calendar.

OP you are the odd one not your colleague.

Oh My God!

OP

She sits next to you. Maybe she just wants you to be able to tell anyone who calls her work phone when she might be back in should you happen to answer it

Or alternatively she could be a mad stalker out to boil your pet rabbit and kidnap your first born after first taking over your identity

Starting with Facebook