School and baby AIBU

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Hello everyone! Need a bit of advice, not sure if IABU so want to check what other people think before I potentionally put a complaint in at school. Have name changed.

So DC is in reception, quite a sensitive child. They are putting a show on for the reception parents in under two weeks and have only informed us today that younger siblings can not attend. I have a newborn and have informed the school that especially at this short notice there is nothing I can do, DH can't get more time off of work after just being off with the baby when they were first born especially with only under two weeks notice. My DC will be absolutely devastated if I'm the only parent missing, everyone else's parents are coming and I literally don't know what to do. The office have said they will check with the music teacher as that is who it's upto and who decided no younger children can attend but I have a huge feeling it will be a no. I've said the baby can come in a sling so theres no bulky pram and I've told them its actually nap time so the baby will be asleep anyway and that if they wake i will take them out straight away. What are people's thoughts? Thanks

I teach reception. We have a no youmger siblings policy for two reasons. Our hall is upstairs and the number of buggies and peaks left in reception is a major fire risk. The other reason is that the parents at my school are so focussed on their performing child, that they are not supervising their younger child. This distracts and upsets the performers.

I have asked around and everyone else does have a parent going, we've known about it for so long so people I suppose have made sure to organise themselves.

In over 20 years I have never had every child have someone come and watch so I very much doubt you will be the only one not there.
DH can't get more time off of work after just being off with the baby when they were first born especially with only under two weeks notice.
Show are usually just after you've dropped off or just before home time and last about half an hour. Can DH arrange to go in a bit later or leave a little earlier?

Thanks Lizzie48, didn’t know what rtft meant. You learn something new everyday!

Show are usually just after you've dropped off or just before home time and last about half an hour. Can DH arrange to go in a bit later or leave a little earlier? Teachers often forget that the school day is something like 9-3 and with a standard commute on top, leaving for work after a show or leaving on time to get to something "at the end of the school day" requires a half-day off. It's not impossible for everyone, and easier for those who have enough autonomy in their role to work from home but, really, it's not that easy. Letting younger siblings attend would make working parents' lives much easier and I really don't see that buggies in reception as an insurmountable problem.

Letting younger siblings attend would make working parents' lives much easier and I really don't see that buggies in reception as an insurmountable problem. Agreed. Years ago people managed before the many 'Heath & Safety' concerns today.

Bloody hell. Our school encourages siblibgs. Families generally. Share the love and all.
This isn't Bizet.

Yanbu. Toddlers I understand but a newborn in a sling ffs. And you already said you'd step out if it cried. They're being U imo.

Oh. It's resolved. All good!

I feel the school should be more inclusive. Not everyone can get childcare for their non-school aged kids.
Never encountered this at my DDs school (I'm sure there would be an uproar!)
I think it's terrible that parents get turned away from bringing their pre-schoolers to a school play.
I'd take baby in a sling.

Our primary school arranged for a group of parents to provide a creche for younger children. It has worked well. KS2 parents to help out at KS1 events/assemblies and vise versa. Something to think about for the future?