What DH wears at home

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DH is a fab dad and a v good husband. I love him a lot.

But we're also a long time wed and you know, the attraction side of things needs caring for after a long time with someone.

DH and I work at home a lot. He has these comfy home clothes - in particular an old, faded, shabby, pair of grey comfies that he often wears with a matching top/hoody.

I can't bear them.They are so revoltingly shabby. I can't bear looking at them. It's a complete turn-off. I realise it sounds shallow, and I'm sure I'll get completely slagged off for all this, but is it unreasonable to expect him to make just a bit of an effort around me? To make me find him desirable? He has a very limited wardrobe, has little interest in cloithes - which i knew and I'm fine with - but honestly, the home stuff is awful. I was away for a few days and got home and he greeted me with flowers in a vase (lovely, I know) but wearing this ...

I have said to him that they are ready for the bin. He laughs it off.

AIBU?

I think it's mean to take someone else's clothes away from them, and I think it's shallow to want to.

Ok, to clarify:

I have - and have never had - any intention of taking away DH's clothes, hiding or burning his clothes. Where does it say that?
I am not looking for him to be 'hot' or 'sexy' in his comfy clothes
I am not looking to control him
I am not looking to objectify him
I want him to be comfortable at home. We all need to be comfortable at home. He would never let me change that for him.
I don't want him to wear an Amani suit and tie and start gelling his hair.

It is all around one particular outfit which has outlived its time, and I wanted to explore how I felt about it and if it was wrong to have those feelings.

Don't listen to people telling you to throw them out. What a stupid suggestion.

As other people have said, "if a man buys clothes (that he likes) for his partner, that's controlling".

It works both ways.*

And it’s still not controlling.

If my partner buys me something he likes and it turns out I don’t like it, we simply return it. If he forces me to wear it, or has a little silk, then yes that’s controlling.

However the act of buying something he likes the look of is not controlling. You are being ridiculous.

Little sulk*

I've got a similar problem at times in that dp just doesn't care about clothes... he will happily scruff about in the same jumper and jeans for days. He's so good looking but he lets himself down with his clothes at times. He also has a hard body type to dress, being fairly short for a man, and stocky but muscly.
I am bothered about clothes. Far too much probably. So I've learnt to lower my expectations...and realise that if thats joe he's happy that's fine. (And also begin the slow process of buying him new stuff that he'll like but which will also like nice on him-which he is fully aware that I do, and is fine with).Can you try that Op-some nice new lounge wear for his birthday or whatever and lots of compliments when he wears it?

I am going to buy him some new comfies. He knows I don't like them. If he doesn't like what I buy, he won't wear them. I couldn't get him to do what he doesn't want to do even if I wanted to and I DON'T WANT TO.

There is no control here. He is a fully functioning person with his own mind.