AIBU to be NEVER speak to SIL again?

[MadSister1818]

DB and SIL came to stay with their 2 DCs 5 and 2.

After they had gone, I noticed my old bear was missing. Looked high and lo but nothing.

Spoke to DB earlier and asked about my bear. Turns out the 5yo had taken a shine to it and asked SIL if she could take it. SIL SAID YES!!!

To make it worse, she only went and bloody lost it on the way home

I’ve had this bear since I was a baby. It was my most trusted companion and confidant throughout my childhood. DB knows this. But he was laughing whilst being apologetic about the whole thing.

I know I’m overreacting and it was just an accident but I am SO upset.

AIBU to never speak to SIL again? (Obviously I will through gritted teeth but right now I feel like having a full on tantrum).

This is tough OP. I do feel for you although I also agree that things can be replaced while people cannot. My mother fed all my childhood teddies to her dog without even asking me if I wanted to keep any even though I also have a child. My father didn't take care of my childhood books and the covers of them have all been ripped since I moved out. I wouldn't go NC with them over it but their card is very much marked (naturally they have done similarly selfish things over the years) and I am very emotionally detached from them. I would never treat another person's property in that way and that's what I've taken from it. It's a bit heart wrenching but I would advise you to do the same. Keep looking for your teddy, maintain contact because he is your brother but never forget that they are selfish arseholes.

Do you know the name of the shopping centre? I am sure there will be a managing agent/centre manager so therefore an office you can contact for lost property. Even if it is council owned. Google it even if you name the shopping centre and ask for a contact number for security.

It’s worth a try.

I hope s/he’s back home soon

@Rosielily now they're CF

@MadSister1818 apologies for derailing - again

I really feel for you OP one because I have a teddy bear that I've had since I was one and would so upset in your position. But also I can understand your hurt and anger toward DB and SIL reaction. My sis recently did something that was very sly towards me (won't go into on your post) however her reaction and everyone else's was 'she's family and why would I cause upset and issues by falling out with her.' She never apologised and acted like I was being petty. I am still angry about this and because of this even though on the face of it we are ok, I can't see us having the relationship we once did. My point being yes they are family, so being family why is it more acceptable for them to treat you badly. Family is suppose to care more.

I doubt the bear is 'lost'......i bet he can be found in their dc bedroom.....

Who the fuck takes someone's childhood bear. That's fucking horrible, so sad for you.
I lost both mine and DD's bears in a house move. We were both devastated.

There was a thread on here quite a while ago about a poster who had kept her childhood books safely for her kids and her DP/DH threw them out.
I feel heart broken for her and many posters told her to ltb.
Yanbu op it’s the fact that they should lack of respect/understanding. How dare they.

Any joy with your bear OP?

I often think about this thread. I hope your bear turned up

So they stole something precious to you from your own home, abusing not just your trust but your kindness in putting them up. Speaking from my own experience of the same: I would not have them through the door again.