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Colleague left me stranded in the snow

469 replies

pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 16:42

Work alongside a colleague, I currently have no car and have been one of the only few people to get into work with all this bad snow. Today, we got the go ahead to go home and she has dropped me off to the closest train station. There is one train showing up as running in the opposite direction, no staff here at the station and no one available to collect me.

AIBU to think she could have driven the 20 minutes to drop me home (she has a 4x4)???

OP posts:
Nicknacky · 02/03/2018 18:24

So she didn’t leave you stranded at all. Why blame her?

throwawayagain · 02/03/2018 18:25

I bought a 4X4 that is a complete money pit. 20 miles to the gallon, if I'm lucky. I struggle to run it financially, but it's a safe vehicle to get my DCs to their village schools.
When we have crap weather, I am often expected to run people around. Nobody thinks about the cost involved.
I often refuse lifts because I simply can't afford to spend hours driving in the snow. The time is inconvenient, and the money is shocking.

I know people who don't drive, and tell me how lucky I am. No luck involved - I have a reliable car. They have nice holidays, which I don't.
If they offered to take me on holiday, I'd be delighted to drive them around.

MadMags · 02/03/2018 18:25

Asking her to bring you home would have been cheeky, I think, given the conditions!

If you had known there were no trains and told her that, she probably would have offered anyway!

But regardless, an hour and a half journey is a normal commute to a lot of people, and a short one to a lot more.

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:25

How is it her fault that you didn’t open your mouth and ask her? How is her fault that the train line app was wrong? Couldn’t you have rung the station?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 02/03/2018 18:27

That’s not on at all, she should have made sure you were at least on a train before driving off if she didn’t want to drive you home. I wouldn’t leave anyone in that situation, let alone a pregnant woman.

How did you get home?

Thedogsmells · 02/03/2018 18:27

How was she to know you were stranded, when you didn't know either as the app was wrong?

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:27

To echo what someone else said. She didn’t leave you stranded.

She didn’t buck you out at the side of Shap Fellup to your knees in a snowdrift. She dropped you at a railway station where you and she thought trains were running.

LimonViola · 02/03/2018 18:27

This has got to be a joke. She's not your fucking taxi driver. Can't believe you're getting pissy over someone doing you a favour. You wouldn't be setting foot in my car ever again if I was your coworker and got wind of you acting like this!

BoomBoomsCousin · 02/03/2018 18:28

YABU. While it would have been nice for you to get a lift home, not so much for your colleague, who was probably tired from battling the weather all day and looking forward to getting safe and cozy too. She would have been unreasonable to deliberately leave you stranded, but she shouldn’t be expected to have known more than you did, or planned better than you to get you home.

But Flowers and Brew. Must have been a horrible trip and all the worse for being pregnant. Glad you’re home safe now.

LolitaLempicka · 02/03/2018 18:28

How did you get home OP?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 02/03/2018 18:29

Jayne what? If she's been driving you round all day, I'd say she was very generous to take you to the train station

They were working it was hardly a favour to the OP. That’s how care workers etc WORK.

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:29

Are you single op?

donquixotedelamancha · 02/03/2018 18:30

At 18:13- Home now after an awful journey

So it took you an hour and 20 min to get home as opposed to putting someone out for at least 40 min? That's assuming driving was OK when others couldn't drive in to work. If that's the case it seems fine to me.

As everyone says- not offering to drive out of her way when she thought you were sorted, and you didn't ask, is NBU.

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:31

Annie so it’s not tiring if you’re working? Driving all day isn’t tiring if you’re working? And the op expected a free sail home and not a penny in petrol?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 02/03/2018 18:31

In these conditions it is IRRESPONSILE to just dump someone at a train station. FML have some of you not been watching the news?

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 18:33

Are you single op?

What's that got to do with the price of fish?

There has to be at least a higher than average chance that she isn't, in any case.

Sparklesocks · 02/03/2018 18:33

Sorry but she’s not a mind reader, for all she knew the trains were running fine and she actually did you a favour by getting you to the station.
It’s not fair for you to silently scold her without asking her directly. She’s not psychic.

As other PPs have also said she’s been driving in this weather all day, she’s probably knackered and looking forward to a cup of tea and getting indoors. Why is she solely responsible for getting you home?

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:33

Well doesn’t the op have a mouth on her?

Stations have waiting rooms and shelters. She didn’t put her out in a 6ft snowdrift.

If the op is that worried being PREGNANT she should have had a back up plan. She knew it was snowy when she left this morning. How did she think she was getting home ?

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 18:34

In these conditions it is IRRESPONSILE to just dump someone at a train station.

"Dumping" someone at a train station would be irresponsible, yes. Dropping someone at a train station where the information you have says that the trains are running - not so much.

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:35

If the op isn’t single and has a partner (being PREGNANT and all) she should have phoned her partner and told them it was an emergency and asked for their assistance to get her home.

Not expected a work colleague to go miles out of their way after driving all day to get them home.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 02/03/2018 18:35

Electric. I didn’t say anything about tiredness?

Jayne said ‘If she's been driving you round all day, I'd say she was very generous to take you to the train station’

Driving for work isn’t ‘driving YOU round all day’ as if it’s some favour, it’s her job, what she’s contracted to do. I’ve no idea what their normal agreement is at the end of the day, but in this weather it’s irresponsible to just drop someone off at a station and drive away.

MiniEggMeister · 02/03/2018 18:35

Now you've update yaDbu. How was your work colleague to know the app you used had wrong info on it Confused

Dancingmonkey87 · 02/03/2018 18:36

I would suggest once the snow is over you to do some driving lessons. I’m surprised you don’t already drive if your a community nurse going on visits you can’t do the job affectively without a car.

Your coworker had been driving all day in this weather and was kind enough to drop you off at the station she was under no obligation to drop you off at the door pregnant or not sorry if that’s harsh but you sound so ungrateful.

TheHolidayArmadillo · 02/03/2018 18:37

Not if they're out at work all day they won't be watching the news. The colleague isn't a clairvoyant fgs. The OP could have said "let me check to see when the next train is" or anything else when the colleague said she'd drop her at the station.

TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 18:37

They were working it was hardly a favour to the OP. That’s how care workers etc WORK.

Yes Annie but the colleague had been driving all day in very poor weather conditions. That takes a lot more out of you than sitting there in the passenger seat.

If I'd been driving round all day, plus doing the caring aspect I'd have been knackered and wanted to get home asap.

As for waiting round to make sure the OP was on a train, that's a bit OTT. There was no reason for the colleague to think the OP wouldn't get a train so why should she sit in her car for anything up to 30 minutes in case the info on Trainline turned out to be incorrect?

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