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Original poster

Colleague left me stranded in the snow

469 replies

pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 16:42

Work alongside a colleague, I currently have no car and have been one of the only few people to get into work with all this bad snow. Today, we got the go ahead to go home and she has dropped me off to the closest train station. There is one train showing up as running in the opposite direction, no staff here at the station and no one available to collect me.

AIBU to think she could have driven the 20 minutes to drop me home (she has a 4x4)???

OP posts:
TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 18:00
  • error, not err
MiniEggMeister · 02/03/2018 18:01

If the weather is stopping the trains running I imagine drivers don't really want to go 20+ mins out of their way to drive in the bad weather.

it's not your colleagues responsibility to get you home, did you check the trains before going to the station?

Snowysky20009 · 02/03/2018 18:02

OP what at your plans now then?

BringMeTea · 02/03/2018 18:02

Is it wrong that I am loving all the snowtime crazies?
YABU.

KittyVonCatsington · 02/03/2018 18:02

I remember that thread Trust!

OP, can understand in the circumstances you are a bit peeved but this S not your colleague’s fault and doesn’t deserve your ire.

mirime · 02/03/2018 18:06

Wow. I've been driven home in the middle of the day by a colleague because I had a severe migraine. I've had lifts home for no reason. I'd never expect it, but we do all chip in and help each other out if we can.

Have to say if someone had dropped me off at the station nearest work there'd have been no trains, no buses and there is no hotel anywhere near, so limited options if there were no taxis. It would be walk or back to the office and sleep there.

AnyFucker · 02/03/2018 18:07

Op not coming back then ?

Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 18:13

I was working with this colleague today, she used her car for work today so we had been together all day in her car and whilst on our last visit she then said “right I’ll drop you to the station then”

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Original poster
pissedoffnurse101 · 02/03/2018 18:14

Train app said completely different to real situation, it seems it hadn’t been updated at all. Home now after an awful journey, I’m also pregnant so wouldn’t have left someone in this situation

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Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:14

That was nice of her.

Did you actually say to her “but I want you to run me home” or “can you just hold on til I check the trains”or “can you drop me to the office I’m not sure if they have any trains running”?

Crispbutty · 02/03/2018 18:15

She wasn’t to know the the trains weren’t running.

MadMags · 02/03/2018 18:16

So the train app said trains were running! She did nothing wrong.

ScreamingValenta · 02/03/2018 18:16

I think when she said 'I'll drop you at the station' this was the point at which you should have said 'Do you mind if I check the trains are running first?'

However, the AIBU is less important than what you're doing now to get safely home - are you still at the station? Is there another train or can you find alternative transport?

JaneEyre70 · 02/03/2018 18:16

If she's been driving you round all day, I'd say she was very generous to take you to the train station. But, I would have got you to check first that there was a train running. Can you get home OP?

Crispbutty · 02/03/2018 18:17

She left you at a station where you assumed the train would get you home. She hasn’t done anything wrong.

TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 18:17

she then said “right I’ll drop you to the station then”

That was your opportunity right there to say "any chance you could drive me home - I'll pay your petrol money and a bit on top for the inconvenience". You don't know if she would have said yes, okay because you didn't ask.

Train app said completely different to real situation, it seems it hadn’t been updated at all.

So as far as you both were concerned you had a train home and there was no issue.

WazFlimFlam · 02/03/2018 18:18

You got home an hour and a half after you posted. That isn't an awful journey.

ScreamingValenta · 02/03/2018 18:19

Just seen your update - glad you are safe home. If the train app said they were running, I don't think there's more she could have been expected to do - the lesson to take from this is to ask her next time if she would (very kindly) mind waiting for a couple of minutes while you check inside the station, as the app is now known to be unreliable.

Electricgobblers · 02/03/2018 18:19

I used to do a commute longer than that every day.

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 18:19

she used her car for work today so we had been together all day in her car and whilst on our last visit she then said “right I’ll drop you to the station then”

What did she say in response to you saying "actually, could you run me home instead?"?

upthesky · 02/03/2018 18:19

If you didn't ask your colleague then really it's your own fault. And why is it up to someone else to get you home? Like pp you could of always called for a taxi or someone else to come and pick you up. Stop playing the victim!

WineIsTheAnswer · 02/03/2018 18:21

Surely you would have said "actually if I give you X for petrol could you run me home?" Or at least "I'll go check the trains running. Could you hold on a sec while I check?"

She left you in good faith, it's not her fault the trains not running And not her fault that you didnt make sure the train was running.

You can't call her back unless it's your only option and you've tried everything else.
What's your plan now OP, taxi?

ButchyRestingFace · 02/03/2018 18:22

Train app said completely different to real situation, it seems it hadn’t been updated at all...I’m also pregnant so wouldn’t have left someone in this situation

If it's Thetrainline app, well it's been talking shite all day where I am.

But this makes you doubly U. You - and presumably your colleague - thought the trains were running due to faulty information on the train app you consulted. So she didn't leave you in any "situation".

She dropped you at the railway station thinking the trains were running because that is the information you thought you had.

TabbyMumz · 02/03/2018 18:23

Why don't you drive? Is it by choice and then you expect others to run you round!? I think you are being very unreasonable.

TrustNaeFuckerEver · 02/03/2018 18:24

@WineIsTheAnswer

The OP is home safe now.

I hope her colleague also made it home safely. The poor woman has been driving around all day in these shitty weather conditions, she must be exhausted.