Was DH being unreasonable?

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DH just walked to the shop for a few bits, got to the check out and said "Morning love, crazy weather out there!" She refused to serve him because he'd called her love. For context, we're in Yorkshire where every one calls every one love, DH calls his male friends love. This will probably divide opinion on MN but I'm wondering if it served him right or whether the lady should have served him? He had to walk as we can't get the car out due to the snow and the next shop is going to be a good 40 min walk each way!

I’m in Yorkshire, I’d be more inclined to believe she refused to serve him because he DIDNT call her love !

She is being utterly ridiculous and I would be asking for the manager.

Yeah, she overreacted.

But some people do hate being called 'love', 'dear', 'duck', etc. Probably best to save it for people you know.

He was not bu! And I’m a (frosty) Southerner! If she didn’t like a friendly greeting she could have asked him not to call her love but to refuse to serve him?! SHE was rude.

The woman is a nutcase, and her shop won't last very long if she doesn't learn some manners and basic customer service.

I hate being called "love" to be honest, but it's the least offensive thing. It's used by older ladies as well as men, so of all the things to take offense, this is not one.

Can your DH put a different hat and try again a bit later, without saying "Love" this time? (or send you)/You can boycott the shop later when it's more convenient.

Bloody ridiculous. The woman not your dh

She's being ridiculous! What a stupid reason to refuse to serve someone!

Crazy. I hope he called the manager.

I get it's a northern thing but I hate to hear men calling women "love". It makes my skin crawl and I just assume those men are misogynistic creeps.

She should have served him but told him, in no uncertain terms, that she wasn't anyone's "love" and not to call it her again.

Of course he wasn’t unreasonable. What a ridiculous woman.

Very silly. I’m also a southerner and it’s used less down here, but wouldn’t bother me at all and is quite endearing. ‘Babe’ would irritate me from a stranger - but I’d still serve them.

How very ridiculous! I actually like it when people call me love, duck, pet or whatever. My parents never called me anything affectionate. Though for political correctness let me also that yes, I understand some people don't like it.

I'm a Northerner-she's being a complete knob
Refusing to serve him in this weather because he used the word love? Pathetic.

She's a twat and won't last long

Way OTT reaction. I'd be speaking to a manager

I don't like the whole 'love' and 'dear' thing to strangers, but no way would I have reacted like that.

Ffs, yanbu, madness I tell you!!!

I love it that men in the north call each other love. It takes any hint of misogyny right out of it.

It really took him off guard and he came home upset that he'd upset her but feeling bemused by her reaction. Like I say, he literally calls every one love and there is nothing misogynistic about it. If she had said, please don't call me love, that would have been one thing but to not serve him...I'm glad I'm not the only one to think that's totally ridiculous. He was too shocked/taken aback to say anything so just left!

I see being called 'love' or 'pet' as a friendly term so I think she's being OTT to refuse to serve him.... and I'm from London where it isn't common.

I’m in Yorkshire, I’d be more inclined to believe she refused to serve him because he DIDNT call her love!

Yeah, I cannot believe someone who lives in the north would do something like that- how would they get through a day?

And I’m a (frosty) Southerner! I've been south. I've seen what you have to live with every day.

Yorkshire here too.. how utterly ridiculous.

I do get people don't like it, for example i HATE being called 'hun' but I would refuse to serve someone because of it.

That woman is a headcase. I would fire her for being so ridiculous. It's as if your husband said "Good morning, Sugartits."

Silly woman, normal inoffensive greeting. If he'd said "Hi Sexy" or something I'd've agreed with her, but he didn't.

Everyone is "Lovely" here in south Wales... "Hello lovely" and I remember being called "Bab" a lot when I lived in Birmingham. I think it's quite nice.

He's done nothing wrong.