to be sick of "I usually don't like women with short hair, but..."?

[AnnaPannocchia]

Seriously, if I hear that sentence once again I might scream!

I have a pixie haircut, and I love it. It looks good on me. I also take care of myself, dress well, put make up on, etc etc. I am a normal, happy, young woman with short hair.

You would not believe the amount of men who feel the need to comment on my haircut, and communicate to me how they normally don't like women with short hair at all, but they are soooo surprised that it looks good on me! Shock horror! An attractive woman with short hair!!

This has happened to me many, many times. Last Friday a random man at the pub literally came over to my table just to share this enlightened observation with me

I am pretty sure it was intended as a compliment, but it sounds so patronizing and narrow-minded! Surely attractive women (exactly like men) come in different shapes, sizes, facial features and hairstyles!

What suits me might not suit another woman, but why the need to imply that all women with short hair are unattractive and I should be grateful that I am an exception to this apparenty universal rule??

AIBU to be tired of men who feel entitled to express non-requested opinions on my haircut while implying that women can only be attractive with long hair?

Sorry for the rant but

I've missed the entire point of this thread but I'm definitely getting my hair cut short again. It's shoulder length and quite pish just now.

Would anyone show me a picture of their hair (blanked out faces etc) for inspiration? I last had a Frankie Sandford type cut but feel something different now.

One of DH's friends has a theory that while long hair is attractive, pixie cut on a woman = sex maniac. I have no idea where he got that from and he is a bit weird tbh.

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"I normally like men with a grasp of basic manners but the socially awkward buffoon thing works well on you."

Lovely coco I've never not had a heavy fringe with short hair but it becomes a pita to style every day. How do you find the front of your hair sits without any intervention?

Here's my crop sailor!

I wash it every day and use a wax stick and hope for the best

I read an article about why men don't generally like short hair on women and it's because it's basically a big fuck you to them and what they find attractive. So even if they like the way it looks/feels shorter, they don't like that it denotes a woman with her own mind, whose first, last and only waking thought is NOT how to make men like her. Made sense to me!

And yes OP I totally agree that it's rude for anyone to come up and give you such a backhanded compliment. I get loads of positive comments about my short hair from men and women. If anyone was rude enough to say I don't usually like short hair, but you get away with it, I'd tell them to piss off. Or at least I'd want to.

My ex DP wasn't keen when I told him I was getting it cut short but even he - who clearly wanted a long blonde mane type of woman - got used to my short dark crop and said it suited me. Still didn't stop him making quips about it whenever I had it cut - he kept telling me it was ok as it was, to leave it alone. Erm, it grows, so if I leave it alone it won't stay the same!

Loving all the pics even the man bun

Mines was similar to your first picture Anna.

This thread has come at such a good time. I was booking in for a hair appointment this week!

One good thing about washing short hair daily is the minimal time it takes to dry. Although I've now weaned myself on to every other day and quite enjoy that too haha!

I’m mixed race with curly hair, but I can blow dry it straight (if I can be bothered). It does look longer when it’s straight. After having it curly for a long time, I came into work with it straight. Male colleagues were all going on about how great it looked and how I should NEVER have it curly again.

The usual rule is men like my hair straight and women like it curly (apart from DH who says he likes both but I think actually prefers it curly).

It's a clumsy compliment. Pixie cuts can look amazing but they are unforgiving, and only really work if done skilfully on someone with a naturally shapely head.

Went to the hairdresser recently and he made me feel proper shit. He couldn’t understand why on Earth I would not want my hair blow dryed straight. Not going back there.

But yes, why do these men feel it’s ok to comment on women’s appearance like this. I don’t go around talking like this to men.

Anna I can't see your pictures, but coco I love yours.

Today I got stuck in a traffic jam for an hour and a half, stupidly mistimed going past Old Trafford just after the United v Chelsea match ended.
I only saw one woman under 50 with short hair.

Sorry I don't like any of the haircuts. Beauty is in the eye of the one who sees.
Believe me its equally annoying to have people tell you they like your hair short when I don't! And they keep on telling me! Agggh!

Plenty of short haired women where I live (NZ), possibly even a majority of elderly women. Appearance is not to important here, which bears out the comments above.

But, as for the claim that men prefer long hair because they all have an evolutionary instinct to rape?

Headofthegive55 you’ve been really grumpy. We get it. You hate your hair. Get a wig or grow it out. Your choice, just stop being rude.

Well it wasn't my choice. I had chemo. And it all fell out. So sorry for the grumpy! But I was agreeing that people shouldn't comment on your hair. Either to tell you to do something different or even to point out that they like it even if they think they are giving you a compliment it's equally annoying when you don't like it!

So from a different perspective I equally don't like non requested opinions on my hair!

I've had short hair but find it much higher maintenance than shoulder length hair.

I think I'd say "I'm sure that was meant as a compliment, but all it really says is that you expect it to be women's job to be decorative for you and that is really insulting."

it proper fucks me off when people say "ooh you have to have the right face for short hair" do you bollocks. having a face is a good start. most women with long hair tie it up for practicality day-to-day, which is much more severe and unflattering than a short cut. i like my hair short because hair annoys me and it suits my (far from model quality) face. i like admiring swishy long hair on others. it's quite easy to exist while holding these differing opinions. what on earth is going on unconsciously for a person for them to feel so strongly about someone else's hair? (not men, i realise with men it's largely entitlement)

CaptainCardamom

*Have you ever noticed that many men think a woman is a stunner because she has long, blonde hair, even if she has a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp?

Slow hand clap for the most shallow comment of the day. Up the sisterhood eh?*

I know what you're trying to say but I think you're missing the point. She didn't have a face like that because she was ugly - she wasn't (though that's subjective anyway, but in conventional terms). She had that expression because she was mean! Men ignored her personality in favour of her hair.

I do find that interesting and don't see why I should be shamed into not mentioning it.”

I think you need to google how the rest of the internet uses the phrase “a bulldog chewing a wasp.” It’s used to described an unattractive person’s features. Not their personality.

When i got my gair cut off to a chin length bob my dp loved it...turned him on.
I nearly cried when i first got it cut as it was a shock but now love it.

Love pixie cuts. I do long hair in good condition and so do men but kine always looks straggly past shoulders.

But i do find it rude when men point out these things. The males in my class are convinced the female in the class is trans...as she has short hair and wears jeans and a hoodie...sigh. She's not.