to be sick of "I usually don't like women with short hair, but..."?

[AnnaPannocchia]

Seriously, if I hear that sentence once again I might scream!

I have a pixie haircut, and I love it. It looks good on me. I also take care of myself, dress well, put make up on, etc etc. I am a normal, happy, young woman with short hair.

You would not believe the amount of men who feel the need to comment on my haircut, and communicate to me how they normally don't like women with short hair at all, but they are soooo surprised that it looks good on me! Shock horror! An attractive woman with short hair!!

This has happened to me many, many times. Last Friday a random man at the pub literally came over to my table just to share this enlightened observation with me

I am pretty sure it was intended as a compliment, but it sounds so patronizing and narrow-minded! Surely attractive women (exactly like men) come in different shapes, sizes, facial features and hairstyles!

What suits me might not suit another woman, but why the need to imply that all women with short hair are unattractive and I should be grateful that I am an exception to this apparenty universal rule??

AIBU to be tired of men who feel entitled to express non-requested opinions on my haircut while implying that women can only be attractive with long hair?

Sorry for the rant but

And as for the poster saying 'long hair makes a woman look like a bimbo! ' What the F is THAT about???

My hair is not short, (as I said I wish I could get away with it!!) But it's not long either.

Mine looks almost exactly like Kristen Wiig here. < Sorta shoulder-length. I do like it, and it is easy to manage. But yeah, I do sometimes envy women and girls who can carry off short hair! Like @buzzkillington though, my hair is rather wavy, and so a pixie cut isn't really an option for me!

I remember a lot of women in the '70s and early '80s having short perms. Not quite a traditional granny perm, but a short, curly permed hairdo. All of my aunties seemed to have very heavy pageboy bobs at some point as well.

Ftr, the expression is: “Hear hear”.

Plenty of women don’t like short blokes hmm

I am a short man. Women comment on it often, just not favourably (more as a joke). Possibly they speculate on my dick size too, but they've never done so in front of me. I don't really care tb although it can be slightly annoying at times.

There's probably a perfectly simple evolutionary reason for men preferring long hair on women, just like men's fixation on boobs.

Maybe the best answer is ‘I don’t usually like stupidly superficial men but...’
I have no idea why men would think it’s ok to waltz up to a woman they don’t know and tell her their opinion. Everybody has a type. I do but I don’t usually walk up to guys and give my opinion one way or another. I have short hair and the amount of time I’ve been asked if I’m a lesbian is too depressing to remember.

There's probably a perfectly simple evolutionary reason for men preferring long hair on women

Yeah, it's so men have something to hang on to as they drag their women back to the cave.

Try letting your 6yo DD cut her hair as short as a boys. The comments we've had hmm

I was that 6yo. It was the 80s and my DM had a bitchin' pixie cut herself. I've never had hair longer than my collarbones. I did get comments, and mistaken for a boy, but I loved it so I kept growing it out to a bob then chopping it all off again.

OP YANBU. I've had that comment plenty of times. Funnily though, when women see old pics of me with longer hair they're the first to say I suit short hair much better. I've had boyfriends dump me because I've cut my hair. Wankers. The last one that did said he couldn't get past my having short hair. I told him I'd managed to get past the fact I was talker than him when I wore heels (I'm 5'4"). He said that had actualky been anorher issue for him, but as I don't wear heels often he "could have dealt with that".

It's all to do with what society says is attractive. I see on dating sites now men put their height (if they're tall) because apparently women ask it a lot. Tall men are seen as attractive just as long haired women are. As a counter I put my height and tell them height doesn't matter to me because about 98% of men are taller than me.

Emma Peel had long hair.

I think longer hair is more flattering for most women. To suit a really short haircut you have to have good features. IMHO.

Try having greying hair like mine. That really messes with people's minds!

It's all to do with what society says is attractive.

Is there anything wrong with that?

What are "good" features?!

Of course, toad, if women feel pressured into looking a certain way based on arbitrary things which society finds attractive.

@Toadinthehole

Yeah, it's a user name it doesn't necessarily denote reality so you can have it back. It'll make a nice change to your caveman diet.

I must admit I do have to mentally gag myself when I see a man with a bun. As far as I’m concerned they look absolutely ridiculous.

OP I can't believe how many people are not understanding this thread.

Its not about should women have long/short hair
Its about men thinking they have the right to go up to a woman and voice their fucking opinions.

I love my pixie cut. And I don't actually care what anyone else thinks of it

Bakedappleflavour

But it's not arbitrary. How many societies now or in history have women generally had short hair (excepting African societies where hair couldn't easily be straightened)? If you polled men's preferences now or in history, there would be a strong preference for long hair on women. The reason is obvious enough: it shows fecundity.

Of course, I hardly need to add that what you choose to do with your own hair is your own business.

Years back, a gf said to me about hairdressers: "Women make me look nice, men make me look sexy", which is just a way of saying that (heterosexual) men and women have different criteria for judging these things.

IwantedtobeEmmaPeel

Thanks, but I prefer raw meat. I'm not into assault, abduction or rape though.

You can have the rest of the packet.

Myneldest went from arse length hair to a pixie cut at the age of nine. She wouldn’t have long hair if you paid her. Conversely, her brother has hair almost to his elbows. Mine is chin length as I’ve learned not to get involved in sibling rows! :o

For the record, it’s just hair. Do what you want with it as long as it makes you happy. Personally, I love me a blunt fringe. Not sure if other people think it suits me, but I like it so it’s staying. I pay more to maintain my daughter’s crop than I do my own. That’s ok though, because her hair matters a great deal to her and she has a great rapport with her hairdresser.

I agree it's more about voicing their opinions than whether your hair is long or short.

I think by 'good features' it means very dainty and feminine with high cheekbones and no double chin!

The OP says that her pixie cut looks good on her and she's pissed off when people comment negatively. I suppose the crux of the matter is how much she wants other people to think she looks nice. Maybe the OP's pixie cut doesn't suit her at all. Does it matter as long as she's happy with it? It is rude to approach someone and say that.

White I really like my haircut, I think I objectively look better with short hair and the overwhelming majority of the feedback I get about it is positive. I understand some people might not like short hair in general, and as a result might not like it on me either. That's okay.

Now, feeling entitled to openly express their unsolicited opinions about my haircut, that is a different story. That is what I find not okay.

I had very short hair for a long while. It really suited me.

I wore a wig on a night out once and I caught a few men's attention. With short hair it seemed like I was invisible. Out of interest I tried it a few more times and yep, long hair attracted more male attention. Don't get me wrong, I didn't want male attention in the slightest but I did find it quite interesting.

My female friends all preferred my shorter hair and when I mention getting my hair cut off again people tell me how they loved my hair really short. I have a graduated bob now with a full thick fringe. I am sure it won't be long until I go short again.

Yeah, it's so men have something to hang on to as they drag their women back to the cave.

That rings a bell. Iirc I’m sure I read a thread on here that it’s been trending for a while that men liking long hair is partly porn violence related - hair pulling, slapping, strangling, spitting, etc. I’m not going to go googling to find out - I think I’d be too depressed.

summercat, I love that aysymetrical hair cut, the blond lady has, I might have my hair done like that.

*What suits me might not suit another woman, but why the need to imply that all women with short hair are unattractive and I should be grateful that I am an exception to this apparenty universal rule??
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Surely they are just saying they personally don't find short hair attractive on women?
I don't see it as any different than someone who doesn't normally find people with piercings or tattoos attractive, but that there are exceptions

I generally don't find men with red hair attractive... but for some odd reason this doesn't apply to women with red hair.

The main issue here is their need to tell you that. Like it should make you feel good. It's fine to feel that way but they don't need to tell anyone.