to be sick of "I usually don't like women with short hair, but..."?

[AnnaPannocchia]

Seriously, if I hear that sentence once again I might scream!

I have a pixie haircut, and I love it. It looks good on me. I also take care of myself, dress well, put make up on, etc etc. I am a normal, happy, young woman with short hair.

You would not believe the amount of men who feel the need to comment on my haircut, and communicate to me how they normally don't like women with short hair at all, but they are soooo surprised that it looks good on me! Shock horror! An attractive woman with short hair!!

This has happened to me many, many times. Last Friday a random man at the pub literally came over to my table just to share this enlightened observation with me

I am pretty sure it was intended as a compliment, but it sounds so patronizing and narrow-minded! Surely attractive women (exactly like men) come in different shapes, sizes, facial features and hairstyles!

What suits me might not suit another woman, but why the need to imply that all women with short hair are unattractive and I should be grateful that I am an exception to this apparenty universal rule??

AIBU to be tired of men who feel entitled to express non-requested opinions on my haircut while implying that women can only be attractive with long hair?

Sorry for the rant but

[RoseWhiteTips]

Two images of the same actor. Okay, it’s not exactly a pixie but she looks much more feminine in Pic 1. IMO of course.

scdailymakeover.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/kaley-cuoco-cut.jpg

[FranticallyPeaceful]

I’d love a short hair cut so much, it would feel liberating. I have a round face though so I know I’d look awful.
I always admire women with short hair and always think they look amazing, so I’ve no idea why men feel the need to express shock

[FranticallyPeaceful]

Then again Ginnifer Goodwin is frigging gorgeous and she has a round face

[TovaGoldCoin]

What Qvar said^ I have particular attractions to people, but not once have I gone up to a person displaying "opposite" characteristics and said "I don't normally find tall people attractive, but....."

[RoseWhiteTips]

Most teen girls have very long hair at the moment.

[Jaygee61]

It takes a lot of maintenance to keep it really looking its best all the time though. And if it doesn't look its best it looks a bit meh.

[KochabRising]

The pixie cut is too short and imo it does not flatter as much as a longer style.

Three points here:

1. Audrey Hepburn gavel
   
2. Pixie cuts can look absolutely gorgeous. Delores o riordan! Emma Watson! They can look absolutely beautiful
   
3. Flattering to who? To men? The idea that one should have ones hair in a ‘flattering’ cut - that means you’re wearing your hair for other people, so that they judge you as attractive. I have all manner of issues with that. I will wear my hair however I darn well please and I don’t give a toss if other people think it’s flattering or not.
   

Women are not in existence to be decorative, we are functional humans in our own right. I do not exist so that I’m pleasant to look at.

[soooooooonowwhat]

I've had 'don't normally go for non-white women' by smooth-talking racists.

[IwantedtobeEmmaPeel]

Op you are not BU. I am afraid this is more evidence of men's attitude that we wimmin are just here for ornamental reasons & if we don't come up to their standards then they feel they have a god given to tell us. It doesn't matter that they are complete strangers and it certainly should not matter if they themselves look like orcs, you as a female should just be grateful that they took the trouble to cross the floor and let you know that on this occasion they are prepared to concede that on you, short hair looks good. And you had better show gratitude for that approbation or else.

[Jaygee61]

Some beautiful pixie cuts here

www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/beauty-hair/hair/g4665/celebrity-pixie-cuts/

[Trills]

smooth-talking racists sounds like a genre

[fairylightsdown]

I often get the, "I don't usually like red heads.." sine are just picking up something different about you as an easy chat up line; others are sort of negging with ut. It is a weird chat up line tbf...I would never go up to a guy with a beard and say that if I was trying to chat then up; but some people have poor social skills.

[RoseWhiteTips]

Audrey Hepburn looked much more elegant in an updo. Just sayin

[RoseWhiteTips]

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[hazeyjane]

Dd2 has short hair, and I've been surprised at how many people have called her a boy. It's bizarre. She just thinks it's funny, especially when she's wearing a dress!

[KochabRising]

Audrey Hepburn looked much more elegant in an updo. Just sayin

Well that’s ok then. As long as she’s been judged and told it’s permissible to look a certain way. I’m sure that sort of thing had nothing whatsoever to do with her ongoing mental health issues and eating disorders 🤦🏻‍♀️ As long as people were satisfied with her looks, that’s all that matters.

Girls! Don’t try to be engineers or surgeons or pilots. Nono. Your job is to look pretty so people approve. Stand and be decorative! 😂

[Boulshired]

My cousin has red hair he is often approached by women to let him now how gorgeous it is for a ginger. Compliment within an insult. I also dated a body builder who would often have women approach him for a feel of his arm, just feel without asking. It does happen to men they are just more likely to shrug it off.

[MrsJoshDun]

I have a pixie cut. I would say the amount of attention I get from blokes dropped a lot when I cut my hair even though everyone on MN (said they) loved my transformation thread and said I looked 10 years younger.

When it was long I just tied it up/in a bun all the time. When it was down it had no style......I would go to the hairdressers and have it trimmed, etc and it would look ok but two days later with me in charge I would look like Hagrid if I let it down.

[S0ph1a]

Having a preference is fine .

Expressing your preference to random stangers and assuming that they will be gratified to know that they are the object of your approval is not fine.

[Slapdasherie]

RoseWhiteTips

You do realise your personal opinion is not the same as objective reality, don’t you?

[happinessischocolate]

"I don't normally speak to men with small dicks, and yet here you are"

[Rednailsandnaeknickers]

rosewhitetips the internalised misogyny is strong in this one ...

Ever thought of just, you know, letting women be women rather than objects to be graded by men?

[krustykittens]

My daughter cut her hair short just before senior school and right now has it in a very sophisticated chin length layered bob with a blunt fringe. She sticks out like a sore thumb as she is the ONLY girl in her school with short hair, everyone else has the same long, heat straightened hair and very few actually have healthy long hair they mess it with it so much, but she has been bullied by both boys and girls for her hair. She MUST be a lesbian or at least, a total man-hater who is frigid. And she's had boys pay her the ultimate compliment of "I'd ask you out if you grow your hair." She calls her short hair her arsehole filter. I agree with PP that gender stereotyping is getting far worse and young girls seem to have to fit into a very narrow definition of what is considered feminine and it is rigidly policed by the boys, if my daughters peer group are anything to go by. What is it, a porn aesthetic? I was at senior school in the 80s and I remember a variety of hairstyles amongst the girls. I have varied between pixie and long for most of my life and definitely see an attitude change when my hair is short. Someone sent me an article the other day, a man ranting online that women who cut their hair short are deliberately trying to make themselves unattractive to men, therefore we are 'damaged' and should be avoided at all costs. So many men out there who can't understand that it's not all about them!

[soooooooonowwhat]

Trills they are! I also had one who offered to 'teach' me how to be good in bed 'because Asian girls tend to be inexperienced'. I told him that was a really generous offer but the combination of his dashing good looks and utterly charming personality meant I was in real danger of falling in love after just one night of passion with the twat gentleman. He also told me that he had his IQ tested by the same psychologist who tested Margaret Thatcher and his was higher. Make of that what you will. [looks for puke emoji]

[daisychain01]

Have you ever noticed that many men think a woman is a stunner because she has long, blonde hair, even if she has a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp?

Slow hand clap for the most shallow comment of the day. Up the sisterhood eh?