@JustOneMoreStep I am so sorry to hear your experiences. I hope you will get stronger. It is utterly evil that you and other victims of male crime are being faced with this, I wonder if victim support are doing anything to oppose it?
@Curiositykilledthecat113 if you are really interested might you spend 3 minutes reading this... it's old from 2013 and it's from the USA, but I think it explains the concerns very well.
culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/05/01/percentages-prevalence-and-why-some-women-are-freaked-out-by-this-whole-locker-room-thing/
"It’s hard to estimate the actual number of men who are or will become rapists in the United States. While very large percentages of women and smaller percentages of men are rape victims, studies suggest that a large majority of rapes are committed by rapists who rape several different individuals, resulting in there being a smaller percentage of rapists than rape victims. However, the prevalence of rapists in the male population is still estimated at somewhere in the vicinity of 10 percent.
Let’s take a high school as our setting for a bathroom conflict of interests, so I can show you why it’s complicated to allow transwomen access to women’s spaces at some times, and why that doesn’t mean in any way that someone believes all trans women, most trans women, or even ANY trans women are rapists.
Let’s say this high school is about the size of the high school I attended back in the age of the dinosaurs–so about 1500 students.
That’s 750 males, 750 females.
Based on the prevalence of trans people in the population (around three-tenths of a percent), if all trans kids came out, there would be about 4-5 trans students in the school, 2-3 of whom would be trans girls.
Now, let’s say you have a locker room–it could be a locker room like the one I had to change in every day, the girls’ swimming locker room, in which full nudity was necessary for changing into and out of your bathing suit. It’s my contention that the issue isn’t with the 2-3 trans girls, who are just trying to escape male violence that they could be exposed to in the men’s locker room.
Let’s consider, for a moment, the 75 rapists.
Out of 750 boys in the school, 75 of them are already or will become rapists at some point in their lifetime. A number of the ones who do not become actual rapists will still be creeps of some variety, including your garden-variety flashers, subway masturbators, and abusers.
Do you sincerely believe that out of 75 men sociopathic enough to believe rape is something they’re entitled to, not one of those men would see a naked-girls-changing-clothing space as so worth invading that it’s also worth jumping through some gender hoops for?
Think of the most psychotic assholes who went to your high school. If they were anything like the people who went to mine, they were males who’d have done basically anything to be creepy perverted assholes. They knew how to suck up to people in power to make it all look unintentional, so they never got in trouble.
And all it takes is one. When women’s locker rooms aren’t penis-free zones, the first rape that occurs makes women less likely to go to the gym, to participate in sports, to gain all of the benefits of physical activity that those locker rooms once gave them access to. Women’s locker rooms, especially for pools and other spaces involving full nudity, were never comfortable places for me as a young woman–but neither were they places where I felt like I had to fear rape.
Now, this means–painfully clearly!–that there should be some place for trans* people to change and use the bathroom where they are not subject to that kind of risk, because those 75 rapists are still around in the men’s locker room. Please know that I’m not saying that trans women should just use men’s facilities, risking harm."