So, I'm one of 'those' mums...

[Tootsings]

I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don't know how to stop myself

I watched a video titled "To the love of my son's life" in Facebook - basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl or boy that I'm doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me".

Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he's chosen, etc etc

I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!

One day I won't be the only woman in his life! (Providing he's straight)

Another woman will fill his heart with love

Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me?

I think I'm a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he's forced to wear one I haven't ironed. Even if you can't see it under his immaculately ironed things.

How do I get a grip?

I tell DH I can't have any more children, in terrible fear they won't live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.

I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it... I think

OP, seriously, I think you will be ok. You realise you are feeling a bit obsessed and show plenty of insight. I would not worry. I suspect it is quite normal to feel like this and it is quite sweet, really. Your little boy is lucky to have you

Perhaps it would help to think of your role as a bit like those people who hand-rear abandoned baby eagles until they can be successfully released into the wild? (or it might do the opposite, I know that tends to give me a bit of perspective though),

You're welcome

I can't say I ever felt that way about my DSs tbh. Also, you will be amazed at the level of FURY you can feel when DC1 deliberately makes small, defenceless new DC2 cry. Honestly, the red mist fucking descended and DC1 was lucky he only got shouted at. So you have that to look forward to, probably.....

I've only read the 1st two posts from OP - 4 months, ahhh they are JOYOUS at this age. At 4 years you may have started to crack

I'm with you OP!

I have two wonderful, amazing, incredible children :) I think everyday how lucky I am and appreciate how amazing they r! I love them with all my heart!!! I tell them everyday how much I love them!!! (to the point they r probably getting fat a bit annoyed now!!!!!)

If he was 24 I would call you out for being my arsehole ex's Mum! But he's 4 months, and reading this triggered the same emotions within me for my son due to be born (today actually) so you're fine! Or if you're not, I'm not either more likely

You may carry on loving him and doing everything for him. For now. But for the love of god PLEASE TEACH HIM HOW TO USE THE BLOODY WASHING MACHINE WHEN HE HITS ADULTHOOD!

he's only a baby, you're allowed to still be mental

You will not feel like that when he's fifteen, because he will smell.

I will admit to feeling a bit like this when my son was a baby.

He will be 18 this year and he has his first girlfriend. She is lovely. He likes her so much and she makes him so happy that I cannot help but like her. She makes him smile and she gets him to dance! She encourages him to study and to try new things. She is bringing out the best in him and it is wonderful, honestly. She seems to think he is amazing and that makes me feel very proud.

But if you want a good blub, have a listen to this song.

I saw that video and shared it along with an emotional comment. After crying, obv. You’re not alone (and I also thought I would NEVER be one of those mums)

These kinds of threads, and I know I'm going to Hell for this, make me just that tiny bit glad that my bf's mother died long before I appeared on the scene!

bum yep. Straight to hell

I was a bit weepy over DD at around 3-4 months. There must be a hormone surge or something around that time

It's lovely that you feel so strongly.

But babies of 4 months old can do no wrong. Come back to us in the teenage years. You may well be begging for someone to take him away

I have a 15yr old and am just Lol-ing at these sentimental videos

Sometimes, to annoy him, I call him my little prince.... (at 6ft2, stubbly and somehow full of angles...my little baby boy)

I think it’s lovely.

Keep doing what you’re doing. Mother Nature will intervene in the teenage years to make the inevitable separation easier. No need to adjust your emotions just yet.

OMG! You are going to wear a white outfit to his wedding aren't you?

Or are you going to turn up in black, weeping copiously into a lace edged hanky during the vows and then staging a dramatic cake stand demolishing faint half way through the reception necessitating an ambulance being called and the honeymoon being cancelled?

You had me until the 4 month-part .
Bless, they are the best in their lovely pinkness and gurgles, however, ironing their vests is madness.
Enjoy youyr DS, you will always be his Mummy!!!

happy whyyyy did I watch that! I'm a blubbering mess. My goodness, I can't cope. That's it, he isn't leaving

He's staying put and will just have to put up with 'bitty' when he's 30 Little Britain fans will know what I'm talking about

You iron his vests

At four months old dd mostly screamed. I think that the hormones make you feel super connected because small babies are so incredibly demanding you need help to cope. My dd is a teenager now and has had a couple of girlfriends. All I cared about is that they were good for her (and talked to me, I'd like extra family members).

It's also very common for people to worry that they won't love baby two because they love baby one so much. Almost always the love grows too :)

Oxytocin.
It's the hormone you get when preggo and 'bitty'.
Bloody good hormone it is too!

Wait till he's 7...one of my boys (twins) proclaimed to me.. what do you need from a bank when you want a house?...a morgage..but don't worry baby (you precious lovely baby) you can live with us forever (cos I lovvveee you)
He's says...ok good cos houses ate expensive....and mammy...because I m a GOOD son when you die I 'll bury you in the garden so your close...
Then he's twin brother pipes up...is that when Jane is moving in? She s still bringing her x box cos we 've only got a ps4
So I m driving and I think to myself.....thank God I have a daughter too....I m only in the way of these two lifes plans

Wait until he walks and never sits fucking still.

Or talks and never fucking shuts up.

Draws on shit, breaks shit and whines all day.

Believe me 4 months is the easy part!

I feel the same OP

And I iron DS's vests, I love ironing his clothes.

DS is 3