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So, I'm one of 'those' mums...

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Tootsings · 22/02/2018 21:57

I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don't know how to stop myself Blush

I watched a video titled "To the love of my son's life" in Facebook - basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl or boy that I'm doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me".

Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he's chosen, etc etc

I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!

One day I won't be the only woman in his life! (Providing he's straight)

Another woman will fill his heart with love Angry

Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me? Blush

I think I'm a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he's forced to wear one I haven't ironed. Even if you can't see it under his immaculately ironed things.

How do I get a grip?

I tell DH I can't have any more children, in terrible fear they won't live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.

I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it... I think

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SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 22/02/2018 22:07

Ha! I remember when I first brought DS1 home and burst into tears. DH asked me what was wrong and I explained that I'd just realised that one day he would move out & leave me 😢😥😓😭

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Tootsings · 22/02/2018 22:07

When did I say he was walking? He's 4 months Confused

^not meant as a rude confused face. I generally can't remember putting that

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Klarabing · 22/02/2018 22:08

My son is six and to be honest I still feel like this... he however promises that even when he is a big man he will still sit on my knee and live with me and insists he doesn't want a wife!!

OutyMcOutface · 22/02/2018 22:09

Don't worry, he's only four months. Everyone adores their babies at four months. Wait a few years. When he hits three there is a good chance you will be counting down the minutes until another woman comes along and takes him off your hands...not that I am at all.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 22/02/2018 22:09

"I worship the ground DS walks on..."

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 22/02/2018 22:09

My ds is 23, still at home and I am desperate for someone to take him off my hands!!

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2018 22:09

I worship the ground my DS walks on

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 22/02/2018 22:09

DS2 says he's going to marry me Grin

Vibe2018 · 22/02/2018 22:10

Very strange, I love my children but have never felt the you describe. I mind and care for my children for now until hopefully they grow up to have happy, independent lives.

One of my children has autism and there is a good chance he will never meet someone he loves and might live with me forever. Its not the end of the world, but I would be happier for him if he was lucky enough to meet someone who loved him and made him happy.

athingthateveryoneneeds · 22/02/2018 22:10

Not to sound patronising, but... Bless.

As long as you remain self aware, you'll be fine. I wish all babies were as loved as yours.

Greenteandchives · 22/02/2018 22:10

But when he falls in love with someone, and they love him back, you will be so happy that he is happy.
If, however, they break his heart, you will want to kill them. No question.
All those teenage angsts you endured, you will endure them again a thousand fold, on his behalf.
I have let two go now. 🙁.

RoyalBelum · 22/02/2018 22:10

i was worried you might say he's 14.
You are unhinged, but he's still very young, you might change. They don't stay that cute. I never found the "terrible 2" that bad, early primary school they are still cute, until one day.. they are not.

Stop wasting your time ironing his vests! You need a life, a hobby, starting studying something. The idea of him being happy should make you happy, not jealous of his future wife!

Enjoy the cuddles, enjoy being the love of his life for the next few years but look forward to your own freedom.

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2018 22:11

DS1 moved out to Uni last year and he now has a girlfriend. He's happy and I am happy for him.

You won't always feel like you do now.

MrsGloop · 22/02/2018 22:11

I feel the same way about the prospect of either of my sons marrying. Man? Cool. Woman? She’ll never replace me!!!!😊

KC225 · 22/02/2018 22:11

OMG please stop and change. My MIL probably started like this. She is obsessed with my DH. She is not interested in the grandchildren, just her precious son. She does anything she can to lure him round there, she knows his shift patterns, she phones him everyday. Its sad as he dodges her calls, sighs when she asks him to come round and do a particular job. He told me he finds it so suffocating.

Last year, I was stuck alone in a car with her and she looked me dead in the eye and said 'No one loves him more than me. NO ONE.'. How weird is that? I don't even think the two relationships are comparable. I am his first wife, mother of his two kids - technically, he could go on to have other wives and other kids but he is only ever going to have one mother. His sister told me she has hated every woman he has ever been out with. She has been my MIL for 12 long years.

Please don't be like her. Please.

treaclesoda · 22/02/2018 22:14

I thought this might be my mother in law posting. My husband is 40 and she is 80 and she still sighs wistfully and says things like 'he's not mummy's wee soldier any more, is he?'.

I thought she was bonkers until I had a son of my own. Now I understand Grin

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Tootsings · 22/02/2018 22:16

KC255 sorry to hear she's like that Thanks

I wouldn't be because I know it'd make my DS miserable. But I would think it and perhaps spit a few spits in your coffee every now and then Halo

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Deshasafraisy · 22/02/2018 22:16

It’ll wear off.

SuperBeagle · 22/02/2018 22:17

By the time he's gone through his teenage years, you'll be happy that he's found someone else who loves him. Grin

Aquamarine1029 · 22/02/2018 22:17

I totally understand how you feel, and yes, you are totally insane right now, but you'll get a grip eventually. I hope! When I was expecting my 2nd, I was almost positive that I could never love another child as much as I loved my son. I didn't see how it could be possible. I was wrong!

backformoreanditsmyfault · 22/02/2018 22:17

Tootsings It is great that you love your son. As long as you don't end up climbing into the window of his house when he is a grown man to tell him "I will love you forever...." (am thinking of a certain creepy children's book)

Notsooriginalwerther · 22/02/2018 22:17

Ahahahahahaha OP you’re deffo unhinged but you know it so that’s but okay! It’s funny though I don’t feel that way about my dd? Is it the same for girls as it is for boys?

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Tootsings · 22/02/2018 22:17

treacle It's something about baby boys, I think Grin

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oigetoffmycheese · 22/02/2018 22:17

Grin yep, you'll get over it

backformoreanditsmyfault · 22/02/2018 22:18

KC225 That is serious bunny boiler territory. I'd be running far, far away....

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