So, I'm one of 'those' mums...

[Tootsings]

I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don't know how to stop myself

I watched a video titled "To the love of my son's life" in Facebook - basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl or boy that I'm doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me".

Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he's chosen, etc etc

I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!

One day I won't be the only woman in his life! (Providing he's straight)

Another woman will fill his heart with love

Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me?

I think I'm a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he's forced to wear one I haven't ironed. Even if you can't see it under his immaculately ironed things.

How do I get a grip?

I tell DH I can't have any more children, in terrible fear they won't live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.

I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it... I think

kevinkeeganlovesme I have two DCs and I'm one of two, but rest assured that almost every only child I know as an adult seems to have oodles more self-confidence than siblings.

Siblings' are formed as adults mainly by their usually competitive relationship with their siblings, whereas only children are formed by their usually nurturing relationship with their parents - it's very different.

Don't feel bad 😃.

Take care OP, it sounds a bit obsessive to me, but then I was totally meh about the baby days and couldn’t wait for them to pass. In some ways you have it easier than me - I imagine getting up in the night and non-stop feeding is easier for a baby you’re obsessed with! However, when mine started at nursery at 12 Months there were those mums who were howling in the reception by the strategically placed tissues and it was the children of those mums whose kids had trouble settling in. Meanwhile, I virtually galloped out of the nursery on settling in day, intent on having a cup of tea on my own! And DD went confidently into nursery and has loved it from the beginning. She is now a happy two year old and I love her to bits, but I didn’t have that obsession early on.

You sound self aware so should be ok, but don’t let it stifle your child.

@Kaybush thank you! That's lovely to hear!

He'll never find a woman to compare to you if you carry on like that!