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So, I'm one of 'those' mums...

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Tootsings · 22/02/2018 21:57

I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don't know how to stop myself Blush

I watched a video titled "To the love of my son's life" in Facebook - basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl or boy that I'm doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me".

Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he's chosen, etc etc

I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!

One day I won't be the only woman in his life! (Providing he's straight)

Another woman will fill his heart with love Angry

Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me? Blush

I think I'm a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he's forced to wear one I haven't ironed. Even if you can't see it under his immaculately ironed things.

How do I get a grip?

I tell DH I can't have any more children, in terrible fear they won't live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.

I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it... I think

OP posts:
Badhairday1001 · 23/02/2018 12:18

Trust me the teenage years are made to help mums let go. My eldest is 17 and I used to feel the same as you but now I can't wait for him to move out.

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Tootsings · 23/02/2018 12:21

think this thread is quite lovely. It's made me want to squeeze 7yo DS a bit tighter this afternoon

ThanksThanks

Or the day at 5 he stands in the shop and sweeps all the stacked food onto the floor and then screams the place down because you don't have £100 to buy the man's electric razor he saw in blue and that he wants, even if it would cut his face to ribbons

Is that not a bit extreme for 5?! 3 or 4 pushing it, but 5?! Shock

ach well, I must be daft and hormonal too...I feel the same op and my eldest is nearly 20 , with a lovely girlfriend we adore and a busy life

want to be ironing his vests but he stopped wearing them 18 years ago

Maybe it's a Christmas present idea for you then? Grin

This thread makes me think of Norman and norma Bates. Crazy

That film isn't loving in a son/mummy way Envy

I'm just commenting to say I think "worships the ground he walks on" is a normal phrase too and it isn't weird to use it about a baby not walking. It's just a metaphor and I don't know why anyone picked you up on it

Thank you Smile

kevin what a manipulative little so and so Shock

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BertrandRussell · 23/02/2018 13:47
OhGood · 23/02/2018 15:45

I fourth the PFB thread in classics!

OP - revel in it. You're meant to adore every cell of their delicious 4-month-old baby amazingness.

Gowgirl · 23/02/2018 15:52

Haha! At you being shocked at a 5 yr old tantrums, first term or so at full time big school they turn into psychopaths at home!
Plus its miss whatevers way or the highway and mum is just stoopid!

ssd · 23/02/2018 16:08

Badhairday1001, thats sad. I'm not looking forward to my boys moving out at all, though I'll smile and wave, then cry when they are away.

Teens aren't as bad as most on here would make you believe op.

Grilledaubergines · 23/02/2018 16:40

My sons are teens and I feel the same OP. And there’s nothing wrong with it. At all.

WilburIsSomePig · 23/02/2018 16:40

Yep. I was like this will DS. He's 14 on Sunday and still so lovely (though there's a lot of grunting and my god his room smells horrific). I was worried about having another in case I didn't love this new baby as much. [embarrassed] Then DD came along and I loved her every single bit as much.

They're awesome.

Oblomov18 · 23/02/2018 16:41

I find most of these quotes: "I worship the ground he walks on",quite yucky. These women sound desperate for love and attention. Like they are living 'through' their children.

That isn't what being a mum and being a parent is supposed to be.

Royalfuckup · 23/02/2018 16:45

Awww, you’ve just got a bad case of PFB syndrome OP. It will pass! And if it doesn’t, then you will be the MIL from hell - from HELL I tells ya! Is that what you want? Really?

Grilledaubergines · 23/02/2018 16:55

You sound quite bitter about something oblomov. Why does it bother you that some mothers/parents talk about their children with such affection?

WilburIsSomePig · 23/02/2018 16:57

I find most of these quotes: "I worship the ground he walks on",quite yucky. So?

kevinkeeganlovesme · 23/02/2018 16:59

@Oblomov18 Biscuit

kevinkeeganlovesme · 23/02/2018 17:00

'Desperate for love and attention'?

What a snidey, bitchy post. Have a grip.

Rockandrollwithit · 23/02/2018 17:21

I have two DSs and have never felt like this at the baby stage. They were both refluxy non-sleepers, which may have had something to do with it! DS2 is five months and I love him but he only sleeps in half hour bursts, even during the night 😡

However I loved the toddler stage with DS1, tantrums and all. Give me a threenager over a newborn any day!

SharronNeedles · 23/02/2018 17:28

OP my DS is 1 and I feel the same lol.
I'm aware it's crazy and I know these feelings won't last forever.
When I was in the hospital another mother on the ward brought her baby round to show us all because, in her words, she had to share his beauty! I overheard her telling the midwife that she felt sorry for us because our babies paled in comparison

Oblomov18 · 23/02/2018 17:30

Because I think it's OTT and unbalanced and obsessive and not good mothering.

To love your children dearly is one thing. But the worshipping and almost obsession some mums seem to have is almost unhealthy.

And no. I love my children a lot. And myself, I've just got off the phone from having a lovely conversation with my mum, who I am very close to. So it's not bitterness.

MsHarry · 23/02/2018 17:47

Please don't do this to your child. I'm a TA in primary school and 'those mums' and it is mums, not dads, are really not helping their child. It's too much.

kevinkeeganlovesme · 23/02/2018 17:48

Her child is four fucking months old. Jesus.

kevinkeeganlovesme · 23/02/2018 17:49

Do you have children @MsHarry ?

MsHarry · 23/02/2018 17:50

Yes I have 2.

Oblomov18 · 23/02/2018 17:53
Grin
JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 23/02/2018 17:59

you see op what happens is when you have more kids or this little one gets older and falls in love and you have their partners and grandchildren your capacity to love and to
Worry grow in equal measure.

Having kids means you will have many happy moments but never ever tranquil ones.

I have 5 grown up children and grandchildren and my emotions are divided between love pride terror and fear.

It’s a hell of a ride so enjoy him while he’s still safe in your arms.

TawnyPippit · 23/02/2018 18:00

My DS is 16 now and looks and smells like an alpaca. I'm thinking as an interim move, say pre University, but one that will help us both with the lessening of the bonds, maybe building a little shed for him in the garden with some hay bales...

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