So, I'm one of 'those' mums...

[Tootsings]

I worship the ground my DS walks on and I don't know how to stop myself

I watched a video titled "To the love of my son's life" in Facebook - basically an emotional video with emotion prodding music, telling the mysterious girl or boy that I'm doing my best to make him into a lovely young man. One day he will want to spend his days off work with you, will want to spend time with you blah blah, but right now he needs and wants me".

Goes on to say how proud I will be on the wedding day and how I promise to love you too, for you are the person he's chosen, etc etc

I watched the video crying and then felt a sudden rage that one day someone would be stealing my DS from me!

One day I won't be the only woman in his life! (Providing he's straight)

Another woman will fill his heart with love

Is this how those MIL threads come about, from horrendous mums like me?

I think I'm a bit obsessed. I iron his vests and feel slight guilt if he's forced to wear one I haven't ironed. Even if you can't see it under his immaculately ironed things.

How do I get a grip?

I tell DH I can't have any more children, in terrible fear they won't live up to my magical DS and his amazing charms and looks.

I realise I must be quite unhinged but at least I have the good grace to admit it... I think

Just spat my drink out at the alpaca comment, I have an 18 year old and 16 year old and relate, but it still made me laugh

Why do they smell sooooo bad? I literally cannot go in my 16 yr old son's room......it's that bad!!

I felt a bit like this when I had my first. We are In the hormonal teenage years and now I can't wait for him to grow up get married and move out! Believe you would feel the same if you had to wash his rugby kit 😂😂

I felt exactly this way with ds5, such overwhelming feelings of love and wanting to keep each moment forever. Still do to a big extent, he's so caring, funny and so, so good natured. He's always been a dream dd more than made up for that

I went through half of my (surprise) second pregnancy genuinely scared I couldn't love another person as much as baby ds (was very wrong, she was the best surprise and I'm in awe of her everyday)!

And I totally get the other woman thing, ds has a girlfriend at school and whilst I was quietly sobbing inside, I was filled with pride watching them stand together not speaking or making eye contact in the school line today

I'm alright because my 6 year old son promises that he will never leave me and go and live with someone else! He also promised me that he will always look at me the way he does when he strokes my cheek to tell me he loves me. I am considering getting a solicitor in to make sure he legally abides by this when he gets older! 😂

OP- either you will change your mind when you go through the smelly teenage years or you will become my MIL. She is a very kind and pleasant woman but clearly struggles to accept the reality of DH's relationship with me. For example (and there are many more):

• We agreed to stay with her for DD's first Xmas eve/Xmas day. She was surprised when it became clear that this included me- and asked why I was not going to my own parents' house
• I bought DH a card and present for his first fathers' day. She had done the same (which I thought was a bit odd) and got rather upset and insisted that we should tell DH that hers was the one that was 'really' from DD (whatever that means). She still buys him a fathers' day present every year.
• We took MIL away with us for a few days recently, staying in hotel rooms next to each other. She asked if DH would be sharing with her (and seemed rather surprised that he said no).

All that son until he marries shit. I have both sexes and my boys are closer to me.

Teething - rub gauze along the gums.

"Why do they smell sooooo bad? I literally cannot go in my 16 yr old son's room......it's that bad!!"
The same reason anyone smells-because they don't wash, use antiperspirant or wear clean clothes. It's not rocket science, ffs!

I felt like that once, experience the teenager years and you'll be glad to back off.

I remember when DS1 was my PFB..I spent the first year feeling upset at the thought of him going to university
Two DS' later and I'm counting the days but only a bit

Lettucepray exactly what Bertrand said...if your son's room smells so awful, chances are he'll smell at school, so you are his mum, sort it out, get him told...you can be sure his friends will be telling him.

Well ..... I .... eeerrrmmm

Just have some and and some more
That is all

BertrandRussell

I can assure you my son showers every single day Thank you very much! And I know because I can't get in the bathroom. I wash his bedding weekly but 1 day after the smell is back. It's surging hormones, nothing to do with hygiene.....geez....

BertrandRussell

Ffs!! Muppet!

I honestly can't wait for my son and daughter to experience love and be happy

Sorry haven't read full thread but I would have felt exactly that when my ds was a baby but 20 years later I want his girlfriend to love him as much as I do. I'm just desperate for him to be happy xxx

Omg beingme I thought my mil was bad but yours takes the fucking prize!!

Awww Judy rocking so sweet. Love their hearts 💛

Not read all the replies but this strikes a chord with me! I feel the same way to an extent. I am fiercely protective of him, want nothing more in this world for him to be happy but also scares me a bit that he'll meet someone and won't need me anymore. I know that's life. But I think he's the most handsome, most clever, funniest baby in the world. I'm that mum and right now I don't care. My baby boy is awesome!

Adoring his little baby face is fine but unfortunately some mums have a complete bind spot to their dcs and genuinely believe they can do no wrong and this continues into adulthood. Our NDN is such a mum and I have watched her ds grow up from being a PITA toddler to a good for nothing 20something because she thinks the sun shines out of his arse and has never bothered to give him boundaries.

Once he hits puberty, if he turns into the monster most teens do, then you'll probably be happy to see him off with a girl. Rather than sulking moodily about the house while rolling his eyes at everything you say and eating everything in sight.

4 months?

I’m protective of my girls and love them with everything I have. I now live a flight away from my parents and we are just as close as ever. I don’t think anybody is ever replaced really, love just changes as a child grows, he’ll still always love you just as much

OP, I'm relieved your son is only 4 months, I thought you were going to say he was 40 or something creepy.

Love the Alpaca comment. DS16 also resembles an Alpaca, or maybe a Yak. Long hair, long hairy legs and a frightful smell. (He does shower daily, it just doesn't have a long-lasting effect).

SmiledWithTheRisingSun- Thanks. On balance, MIL is quite nice really but she is rather bonkers about her position with her precious son. I can only assume he was not sufficiently smelly/stroppy as a teenager!