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To think this is unnecessarily bitchy?

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BearsandHearts · 22/02/2018 17:56

Will try to keep brief!
Last Friday I went out with some work colleagues for drinks. Whilst out my colleague/friend bumped into her husband who was with his friends. I hit it off with one of the men he was with and we've been texting with an aim to meet up soon.
My colleague knew this and seemed very keen for us to meet. However yesterday colleague told me she'd seen this man I'm due to go out with as he's a mutual friend. She said quite casually ' I told mutual friend you've got 3 kids by 3 dad's and you've had a boob job'. I told her she's being bitchy and not to put ideas in this man's head. Why would you tell someone that?

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SleepingStandingUp · 01/03/2018 16:02

Well I'm married with no intentions of dating so less of an issue .

My apparently garbled point was op has had two guys walk out on her during pregnancy / early stages. It suggests a crap judgement in men rather than her being an utter harridan, bitch or tart. Believing what she says that means those relationship breakdowns weren't her fault. The equivalent for a man is harder, its less likely two moms would hand over full custody and walk.
The third relationship didn't work and we can only assume mutual blame but they've stayed civil, co parent well and he's stepped in as Dad for all three. On the face of it, bar anything obvious like skin colour you would assume she had 3 kids by 1 guy so all the stuff about multiple men coming and going, kids off to different parents at different times, etc isn't relevant.
People have a right to choose who they date but her life doesn't seem chaotic as people have alleged, I don't think one planned, one maybe unplanned and maybe one questionably planned baby makes her a shit excuse for a mom, I don't think three sexual partners makes her a trollop and I'm glad the friends nasty meddling hasn't worked

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BearsandHearts · 03/03/2018 18:37

Wow didn't realise the thread was still going. Well we have been out again and had a great time. A lot of texting in between times so looks good. He's very nice. How lucky a big tart like me to have someone nice interested in me !

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SleepingStandingUp · 03/03/2018 18:51

Ah that's lovely

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BearsandHearts · 03/03/2018 19:06

Do you think I should text him a huge thank you for bothering with me sleeping? Lol

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MadMags · 03/03/2018 19:22

You’re being a bit disingenuous now, OP!

You said you were annoyed about her putting stuff in his head so you must have assumed he’d judge you. So it can hardly be a surprise that on this thread people are judging you!

Though they shouldn’t!

SleepingStandingUp · 03/03/2018 19:25

Tbf even if it was oh op has a birth Mark on her ass, I'd be pissed that someone is, deliberately telling someone personal stuff just to try and stir

SleepingStandingUp · 03/03/2018 19:26

As he told your colleagues hubby how great you were, I think he might think he's the lucky one Bears

Motherbear26 · 03/03/2018 20:43

Just rtft and I’m glad it’s all going well. With 3 small kids you deserve to let your hair down a bit and I’m delighted you’ve got the support to do that.

It’s all been said, but I am utterly appalled and disappointed at the outdated attitudes and opinions expressed on this thread. The fact that she has children doesn’t mean she should completely give up her social life or indeed her sex life. She has every right to meet someone new. Personally, I’m reserving my judgement and disdain for the two fathers that deserted their infant children rather than the loving mother that stuck around to raise, care for, and support them alone.

HonkyWonkWoman · 03/03/2018 21:07

Well said Motherbear!

WheresTheHooferDoofer · 03/03/2018 23:52

As he told your colleagues hubby how great you were, I think he might think he's the lucky one

And I sense colleague is going to feel crap that her meddling doesn't seem to have worked.

Glad it's going well, Bears.

starlightafar · 04/03/2018 08:30

Nice one bears pleased for you.
Colleague has made herself look a nasty bitch. Just don't get pregnant Grin

Jessikita · 21/03/2018 10:37

@bearsandhearts how’s the dating going?

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BearsandHearts · 29/03/2018 14:28

Sorry jessikita I've only just read this. It's going very well Grin. We are going away tomorrow for the night

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Drainedandconfused · 29/03/2018 15:12

I've just read the whole thread, there's some nasty women on here who were obviously lucky enough to meet 'Mr Right' first time.
I have 2x2 and would have had 3x3 if I hadn't miscarried last year, I'm certainly no slut either.
Awful outdated attitudes.
Op, you sound lovely, I hope you have a great night away!
I'm jealous of your boob job, I'm saving hard for one, after breastfeeding for 4 years in total (both DC) I have boobs like spaniels ears.

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BearsandHearts · 29/03/2018 16:11

Drained my boobs were awful. It affected my confidence so badly I got them done. My ex is having the kids for 2 nights so I am ready to rock n roll!

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BerylStreep · 29/03/2018 16:19

😻for you.

TheShaniaTwainExperience · 29/03/2018 16:38

Lol @ the people crying about you stealing your ‘elderly mothers retirement fund’ 😅

Congrats op, enjoy your night away!

Jessikita · 29/03/2018 17:26

Glad it’s going well! Enjoy!

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BearsandHearts · 29/03/2018 17:41

I know my mother is only 60 ffs

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Jimdandy · 16/03/2020 12:59

@BearsandHearts so curious to know if you are still dating? Despite your colleagues bitchy comments!

Please let us know!!

Maladymaker · 16/03/2020 13:14

Yes dying to know Hmm

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