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Annoyed at unexpected vagina poke.

264 replies

BathFallout · 21/02/2018 17:08

I was in the bath with DP, nothing sexy just washing and about to watch a programme on the tablet.

As I was finding the episode DP unexpectedly poked my vagina, in surprise I aggressively splashed her in the face with water to make her back off and was annoyed at her. I told her it shocked me (as wasn't even looking in her direction so no warning) and said she had to apologise to me. I said it could be considered assault nd she replied with "Oh, Bath..." and a withering look.

She has refused to apologise, and is now in a strop as I was "horrible" to her.

AIBU to wait for an apology over this?

OP posts:
gingergenius · 21/02/2018 17:38

I regularly watch films on my iPad in the bath. I'd have been a bit perturbed about the poking and yes I think your oh should apologise.

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BathFallout · 21/02/2018 17:38

I'm not going to explain how we were sitting as this will simply feed into the accusations. Just believe me it was possible or don't believe any of it. Your choice.

OP posts:
Emmageddon · 21/02/2018 17:38

Tell her to keep her hands to herself.

Bluedoglead · 21/02/2018 17:39

I don’t think it’s normal to bathe with your partner unless there’s touchy feels foreplay going on.

I usually bath and shower on my own.

RedDogsBeg · 21/02/2018 17:40

The sex of the partners is immaterial no-one should touch anyone who doesn't want to be touched.

HotCrossBunFight · 21/02/2018 17:41

Pre children my husband and I would bath together fairly frequently and just have a chat.

TheVanguardSix · 21/02/2018 17:41

AIBU to wait for an apology over this?

It depends. Was she at the tap end of the bath?

SouthernComforts · 21/02/2018 17:42

I think a couple sharing a bath together and not having sex is weird tbh. Is it to save money? Confused

EdmundCleverClogs · 21/02/2018 17:44

Haven’t we had this one before? I’m sure someone has done this story previously.

zippey · 21/02/2018 17:44

I think it’s fine. You two are partners so it’s no worse than giving you a pat on the arse or sticking a fingers up each other’s noses or ears.

It’s fine.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 21/02/2018 17:45

If it came out of nowhere it does seem a bit odd, but if my DH did it and I wasn’t up for it I’d just say so and we’d laugh it off. No need for aggressive splashing or demanding apologies.

and said she had to apologise to me

Also in regards to this comment, you don’t get to tell someone they have to apologise to you. If they don’t offer an apology, a forced one won’t mean anything.

Deshasafraisy · 21/02/2018 17:45

Inappropriate yes. Assault no. Tell her you don’t like it. If she does it again then LTB

WildWindsBlowing · 21/02/2018 17:45

I wouldn't have liked it either, but did she think you were having the bath together on purpose for that sort of thing?

Just tell her again it was horrible and anything but seductive and hope she will apologise.

Have private baths in future.

BertrandRussell · 21/02/2018 17:46

Regardless of sex or sexuality she shouldn't have done it, by the way.

amusedbush · 21/02/2018 17:46

I've never had a bath with any partner. The thought of sitting in a soup of mixed dead skin cells makes me heave.

BeHappyMummy · 21/02/2018 17:46

People on here are weird.

None of this sounds like lesbian erotica, which is what some posters arevtrying to say.

OP your partner obviously shouldn't have unexpectedly touched you there.

MadRainbow · 21/02/2018 17:47

I am disgusted by the comments about the OP and her partner's gender. It really is completely inappropriate and if people genuinely didn't believe the authenticity of the post they should report it :/ still think you overreacted OP a simple "Oi what was that for?" Would've sufficed

CapricornWithAUnicornHorn · 21/02/2018 17:47

The replies on this thread would be completely fucking different if it was a woman complaining her boyfriend or husband had poked her vagina. The iPad doesn't matter. The way you were sat doesn't matter. The bath doesn't matter.

OP speak to your gf please and explain that you aren't her property and she cannot just poke and grab you as she pleases. Your gf made you feel uncomfortable and that needs to be addressed. JUST the same as if someone's husband made them feel uncomfortable in this way.

Bluedoglead · 21/02/2018 17:47

How do you agree on the bath temperature? Me and DP would be at war over the hot tap.

NoHunsHereHun · 21/02/2018 17:47

I find this hard to believe because sharing a bath without the sexy time surely doesn't happen? Certainly not in my house because I have a bath (might even take my phone in there) for a nice bit of quiet time away from my fucking family.
But ok, this is true, so YABU for calling it assault because it sounds like you overreacted massively, but YANBU for wanting an apology.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 21/02/2018 17:49

Omg, what a ridiculous thread OP. You don’t sound like you’re in your 30’s you sound about 12. Grow up.

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BathFallout · 21/02/2018 17:50

It's not to save money, it's just nice, and we can tell each other it's good for the environment! Even if we don't share we use each other's water.

I'm going to take it as a positive that our mundane life of watching tv in the bath is so unbelievably sexy to some people!

She has actually now apologised, perhaps just as we have a friend coming over for a drink later and she doesn't want an awkward vibe, but I've accepted it.

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beepthemeep · 21/02/2018 17:51

BeHappyMummy - no, you're right. The OP must be gutted!!!

Bluedoglead · 21/02/2018 17:51

I would never ever use anyone else’s water. Boak!

gingergenius · 21/02/2018 17:52

@BathFallout glad she apologised. X

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