To think this mother is horrible for not inviting my daughter

[WomanInTheMirrorStaresAtMe]

Birthday party one...
Girl next door having a birthday party, she is in the same class, year 1, as my daughter. There are 11 girls in the class.

Around Xmas the girl next door started being a bit mean to DD. It came to a head when she pushed DD over at school and she hit her head on the playground. We were called because they suspected concussion and the teacher said she had also informed girls parents. Teacher said DD did nothing wrong, didn't even retaliate and that as far as they were aware after speaking to girls and their peers it has all been one way nastiness. Girls made up, as they do, and are fine now but her mother has ignored me since, deleted me from Facebook and glares at me on school run and when we pass outside. Silly but whatever...

So back to the birthday party. Every single girl in the class is invited except DD. Invites were given out on morning school run. The girls were all together waiting to go in. Next door girl handed them to everyone but DD, telling her that she wasn't invited cos her mum says she not allowed. DD looked upset but I took her aside and said we would have a day out, she wasn't impressed... NDN mother just stared at us.

I have found out when the party is and will take DD out so she hasn't got to see all her friends arriving and hear the party, but seriously, this mum is an absolute bitch isn't she? And I have to live next door to her!!! DD seems a bit confused more than anything but is upset as thinks our neighbours must not like her.

I know moaning about kids not being invited to parties is normally seen as unreasonable but I am not in this instance am I??

When you go for your weekend away, is it possible that you might accidentally leave some thrash punk playing on automatic repeat REALLY REALLY LOUD?

If this happened to someone else in my daughter's class she would not be going, and I'd tell the mum why.

It is horrible falling out with the next door neighbours OP. My sympathies.

Mum friend just sent me a screenshot of NDN's Facebook... (I can't see because she blocked me after pushing incident). This will out me, but nevermind it's too good not to share... 😂 (I have corrected her spelling 😂)

"(DD) handed out her party invites today, it's gonna be so good, can't wait to see her little face, lots of party surprises for her. And to the nosy bugger who thought it was ok to have a go this morning cos I didn't invite her mates kid, consider yourself uninvited #iwontbedictatedto #itsmyparty "

Classic! Wonder who our heroine and defender is? School run will be fun this afternoon!

I have to say if I saw that on Facebook, having already heard the playground gossip I’d be politely declining the party invitation on my DD’s behalf.

Maintain dignity and the moral high ground OP!!

But is it her party or her DD's?

You are better off without!

Way to go other mum! Good luck at pick up time.

She's a bitch but maintain the moral high ground. Her actions will speak for themselves and people will make up their own minds. I wouldn't want my dd to be friends with a girl whose mum could post that on Facebook. Don't be tempted though to complain about her. My dd had a problem with another girl in her class. I know the mum slagged me off and made the problem out to be me. I kept silent and slowly have had people coming to me saying how unhinged she is and her dd is someone the class mums warn their dds to stay away from (which is sad obviously).

Oh god, how old is she, 8! That just makes her look really bad. OP if you normally post pictures of your days out on Facebook, do, the mum unfriended and blocked you anyway. I put a few pictures of big days out on my Facebook. I just put nice day out with the kids in Thorpe Park.

Her party is it?! If my DD was invited, I think I would be declining. From her FB post everyone will see what a bitch she is. Feel sorry for her kids though.

Definitely maintain moral high ground and completely ignore her, act care free when she's around etc - it's blatantly obvious this woman thrives on drama and is desperate for an argument she can post on Facebook about. Don't give her it! Take DD for a lovely weekend and let her stew that you haven't reacted the way she wanted you to.

Anybody who uses phrases like that, is a certain type of person.

If I was you I wouldn't want my daughter to go to her house if the mum has been acting so badly towards you. But that said, she could have been more tactful and not invited everyone else infront of your daughter. But I still think you should be glad she is not invited - would you really allow a woman who has acted so childish and appalling to you to be responsible for the care of your daughter? And it sounds like she is very childish - so we can't be surprised she has unfortunately been so cruel to your daughter as to invite everyone else in front of her. Plan a super day with your daughter - hope you both have a lovely time.

Lots of "I" in that little rant. Not "And to the nosy bugger who thought it was ok to have a go this morning cos DD didn't invite her mates kid" and not "itsherparty" either.

It's quite clear whos party it is...

Its a shame.
My dd was a bit older when we had similar. I never did find out why the mother took against my dd. Being a bit older i used it to highlight how irrational people are!

Parents control parties. Younger children rarely do when the Mum is a controlling type. We had this and we always had a better treat lined up. Who would want to go to such a party anyway? It must be awful. DD1 was always excluded from the party of the nearest girl in the class to us (and from other children’s parties whom she thought were friends). We are in a tiny village. We developed the “f them” approach and we had great days out.

We found that children didn’t make their own decisions about party invites until about y6. We left them all behind by going to another secondary school - thank God! After that decision DD turned out to be very popular and I was invited round for coffee by Mums I hardly knew!

I forgot to add: mainly because they wanted to know how much the school was going to cost!!! Ha!!! More than they could afford.

She's made herself look like a total muppet with that fb post.
Don't buy a present or card - it's not necessary. It's bowing to bullying and will be seen by the ndn as sucking up rather than taking the moral high ground which is overrated anyway imo.
People have already noticed that she is behaving badly, it won't be long before she or her child alienate others.

Pointed exclusion is nasty af. That mum sounds unhinged. Explain it to your DD in a child-friendly way that you don't want her in that house anyway and do something nicer for the day.

The handing out of party invitations at school needs to be banned. It's horrible, divisive and unnecessary in a world where we have this much tech.

Aww your poor DD. Glad to see other parents are sticking up for her. School playground crap with other parents makes life so bloody uncomfortable. I speak to anyone and everyone and don't get myself involved in the kids fights it's so much easier! That mother sounds like a nightmare I would have to move

Party mum sounds deranged. I’m so sorry your DD is caught up in her madness

Oh my goodness ! This is part funny part tragic. How old is this women,? did she give birth aged 7? If I got a sniff of this I’d be organising a boycott, make sure you tell as many people as possible the ‘funny story’ something this juicy will be round the school in minutes.

Shame you can’t take the others to legoland. Stupid woman she’s not done her DD any favours now has she?
Easy to see where the DD gets it from though, feel sorry for her.