Can *everything* be fit into the 6am-6pm working day?

[Whiskaspie]

And I mean everything bar putting dishwasher on after dinner and putting kids to bed. All house/food/bills/kids/garden/planning etc etc...if one were a sahp.

I have never done housework after 7pm. I've been childfree, one child on mat leave, part time working..now full time working lone parent with two kids 7 and 3. Basically do bare minimum in week and then ignore kids for a few hours at weekends to crack through everything else. Admin I usually do in 5 minute bursts while eating lunch at my desk.

If you're a SAHP doing evening housework your standards are too high

Get you showing off because you have a dishwasher!

All my dc are in bed by 8pm. I usually then crash on the sofa. About 10pm i peel myself off the sofa and start doing housework then i give up and go to bed

Yes. Most this takes is 2 hours a day. - what do you think working parents do? If you’re a sahp then do these jobs in morning then do stuff with DCs in the morning (obviously more difficult if kidszunder 2) but very doable - only wotleked 4 days per week since birth of DC always managed to do all above in the morning of my day off

What are you - a robot. If you have children at home are they all the same age that they go to bed at the same time? What are you going to do all evening that you don't lift a finger after 6 pm, sit and contemplate about life perhaps.

No. Frequently after 9pm by the time I sit down, and I only have one child. Working full time and parenting/housekeeping is like having two full time jobs.

I doubt it - Real Life can't be run as if it's a spreadsheet.

dipity manic, thx, you've just confirmed that most ppl don't bother to read the thread properly .
Thx to those who did, and commented with that knowledge in mind! I'm more frustrated than anything else now, apparently everything (not just housework,
ppl!) is my job, as dh doesn't have the capacity for anything else after work. Hmm. Not sure how this excuses not clearing up after yourself, or having a go because I hadn't arranged my time better to do some random thing in the two hour gap before he got home.
So, we're at an impasse.

well if you hadn't drip fed like a leaky tap and clearly set out the issue from the off, it is not something that I, alone have been confused by. But now i have seen that your kids are at school - yes absolutely you can get all this done in that amount of time. If its not something you want to do you have a number of choices - don't do as much, accept your house/garden will be less tidy, you wont always get the best deals and you might pay a bit more having direct debits etc. Teach your kids to do more - my 5 year old makes his own bed, puts own clothes away etc. Get a full time job and source out your jobs, get a full time job and let DP be the SAHP, up your hours and agree with DH what jobs he'll be doing to cover the fact you have less time at home. But I don't think you want any of this, you just want everyone to say -oh thats terrible, you cant possibly do all that your DP should be taking at least 50% of the jobs. If you think your life is that terrible, leave, become a single parent and do all your jobs when the kids are at their DFs house.

Nope.can get certain buts done, but depends whats happening that day. Shopping, 3 year old at home, activity sessions etc. Plus a 9 month old who only naps for 20 minutes twice a day and one of them is while im dropping off elder ones at school or 3 old at nursery.plus babies and toddlers need play time, food etc, so spend time either playing or tidying up what mess they make. Can't do bleaching or heavy cleaning as 9 month old always near me so don't want her hurt. Got 2 disabled kids too so can't do much during week end days either. Most gets done when kids are in bed.

Well you're still missing the point dippity. I said everything in my initial post and title, obviously this means different things to different ppl. Are you not aware that further info is usually given to clarify things in discussion? If I had put every little detail in the op it would have been massive. Which is not a dripfeed.

If you had actually read and understand it, you would see I'm not asking dh to do 50% of everything. And your advice is rather dubious too... Because it's so easy to get a full time job which pays for full wraparound care for two DC in this area... Call this another dripfeed if you like, but I know it wouldn't improve matters because when I am doing a job which involves fulltime hours (though it's only contracted for three months at a time, as I mentioned) and fitting it around the DC, so in effect it's a much longer day than 6-6pm, he doesn't automatically step up and become as efficient as a lone parent... Most things just don't get done unless I still do them. So why would I choose to do that?

I see the title I posted didn't make the issue clear, but I thought I'd explained in the post. I posted because I was frustrated and hurt by his dismissal of everything as my responsibility because he goes out to work. That's the core of it.

Anyway, seems some ppl can't help themselves from putting the boot in, which isn't helping me work through the situation at all, so I'm going to leave it for now. Thanks to those who gave constructive comments or an insight to how it works in your family.