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to have lost the will to live

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lovelystar · 18/02/2018 03:15

Someone please give me some advice or something, anything to take my mind of how fuming I am.

I am being induced tomorrow at 11am, boyfriend went for a pint with a friend, fine, said he'd be back by 12, fine, gives me a chance to bath/clean/chill.

It's now 3am he has just stumbled in absolutely steaming, rang the doorbell constantly, waking me up even though he had his keys on him. He's been sick in the bedroom/bathroom knocking everything over. To top it all off I'm now on the sofa as he's diagonal across the bed snoring his head off and he's far to heavy for me to move him.

You know any other night I may have found it slightly amusing and left him to it. I just wanted tonight of all nights to not be woken up and kept awake and having to get up early to clean up all his sick before I come home with the baby. He will be a nightmare to get up in the morning and I don't think I can face the dramatics and moodiness of him when I have to get up and go and have a baby.

Would I be a complete bitch if I left him to it and went and had the baby myself and made him regret it for a long time. Or is that a step too far? It's my first baby and a high risk pregnancy. Sorry for the rant it's early/late and I'm angry.

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jessei · 22/02/2018 10:50

Congratulations SmileThanks

melisma · 22/02/2018 12:06

Congratulations lovelystar. Here's to a great future ahead for you and your little boy.

WellThisIsShit · 22/02/2018 12:32

Woohoo!!!! Congratulations!!!

Well done, you must be estatic... especially after such a loooong wait in hospital!

Yay! And now you’ve changed your first nappy and are doing all those first things and I bet you’re doing them all just fine :)

Luckily babies aren’t exacting judges and don’t even remember when you get stuff wrong... all they care about are the cuddles :)

I also hadn’t held a newborn or changed a nappy or bathed a tiny baby or done any number of things like that... and mine survived very well :)

snowbear66 · 22/02/2018 12:38

Congratulations Smile
Try to sleep!

GoldfishCrackers · 22/02/2018 13:21

Welcome to the world BabyStar Star
Congratulations StarThanks

IAmBreakmasterCylinder · 22/02/2018 14:02

Delurking to sat many Congratulations and welcome to the world Baby Star!!

I wish all the best Star and whatever happens, make sure you look after yourself Flowers

sportyfool · 22/02/2018 14:48

Congratulations 🤗🤗

UniversalAunt · 22/02/2018 15:01

A 🌟 is born.
Congratulations Lovely.

If you can bide some time at your mums, you can get some deep rest & get to know you new no.1 fella. All else can wait a while & be negotiated on top of few week’s rest & recouperation.

May all your future vomits be baby’s...

ObscuredbyFog · 22/02/2018 15:11

Welcome to the world babyStar

I'm sure you and your Mum will have some lovely adventures together.

GabsAlot · 22/02/2018 16:00

yay welcome baby star!

can you call him that? j/k take care lovely

Maatsuyker · 22/02/2018 20:49

Congratulations with your little wonder

Andrewofgg · 22/02/2018 21:23

Give him a special cuddle from all his MN cyber-relations. Good luck whatever you decide about the OH. May all yet be well.

gingergenius · 22/02/2018 21:25

Congratulations x

Stilllivinginazoo · 22/02/2018 22:51

CongratulationsFlowers

actuallyithinkitdoes · 22/02/2018 22:59

Fucking hell. Please, please listen to this: the advice of a woman who let FAR too much slide when pregnant and as a result puts constant pressure on our relationship.

Get up in the morning. Leave him on the bed. DO NOT clean up his mess- let him see what he has done. Go alone, birth is so hard and so stressful (I'm sorry but it is) and you don't need his pathetic useless presence weighing you down.

Call someone else to be a birthing partner. If you can afford it, I would get a taxi to the nearest hotel to the hospital. Have a quiet cuppa in a nice clean room with fresh sheets and a relaxing bath in the morning.

Flowers You are amazing for being sane enough to type words. I would just be making angry noises if I were you.

actuallyithinkitdoes · 22/02/2018 23:00

Blush didn't RTFT just read the first post and exploded with anger! Blush congratulations!

GabsAlot · 23/02/2018 18:54

sorry if this is out of order or i get delted for this lovely

but just seen you posting on another thread about how hes now buying loads of stuff for you

dont fall for it its not going to change his beahviour its just material things

hmmwhatatodo · 23/02/2018 21:27

Oh dear

MumW · 23/02/2018 22:07

Late to this party but congratulations Flowers

but just seen you posting on another thread about how hes now buying loads of stuff for you

dont fall for it its not going to change his beahviour its just material things

Agree with your the above. Also this isn't being extra specially nice, it's the least you should expect him to do for the mother of HIS child.

Twocatsonebaby · 23/02/2018 22:22

Oh gosh OP! Hope you and baby are okay. I'd have left him to it. Congratulations on baby Flowers

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lovelystar · 24/02/2018 00:09

Thank you everyone, he is a lovely baby and i feel very lucky Smile ubfortunatley on the day he was born another family member passed away (managed to see a picture and hear a cry over the phone). Hence at the moment why I'm still in the flat with my partner, my mum has visited but unable to help me move until after arrangements have been made. I am under no illusions at all Sad

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GabsAlot · 24/02/2018 00:16

oh sorry lovely i was just concerned really sorry about your relative

Original poster
lovelystar · 24/02/2018 02:16

@gabs it's no worries! It hasn't really hit me yet as everything is bit distracting and overwhelming. I'm surprised at how much I love being a mummy. I'm sure the honeymoon phase will wear off soon though and the sleep deprivation will hit !

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Afreshcuppateaplease · 24/02/2018 07:00

Bless you op. What a mixed bunch of emotions you must be feeling. Im sure you have been told but its really normal to feel low and teary around day 4. This might be worse with the loss of your relative. Be kind to yourself Flowers

Peanutbutterjelly1 · 24/02/2018 09:01

It's the one honeymoon faze that doesn't wear off dd is 20.months old and I'm still as in love with her as the first day i saw her. Congrats OP wish you health and happiness with your little one. Your OH is a selfish arse I tried putting myself in your shoes and i honestly felt like screaming!