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to have lost the will to live

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lovelystar · 18/02/2018 03:15

Someone please give me some advice or something, anything to take my mind of how fuming I am.

I am being induced tomorrow at 11am, boyfriend went for a pint with a friend, fine, said he'd be back by 12, fine, gives me a chance to bath/clean/chill.

It's now 3am he has just stumbled in absolutely steaming, rang the doorbell constantly, waking me up even though he had his keys on him. He's been sick in the bedroom/bathroom knocking everything over. To top it all off I'm now on the sofa as he's diagonal across the bed snoring his head off and he's far to heavy for me to move him.

You know any other night I may have found it slightly amusing and left him to it. I just wanted tonight of all nights to not be woken up and kept awake and having to get up early to clean up all his sick before I come home with the baby. He will be a nightmare to get up in the morning and I don't think I can face the dramatics and moodiness of him when I have to get up and go and have a baby.

Would I be a complete bitch if I left him to it and went and had the baby myself and made him regret it for a long time. Or is that a step too far? It's my first baby and a high risk pregnancy. Sorry for the rant it's early/late and I'm angry.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 19/02/2018 23:00

Urgh induction can take a long time to get going!

Hope you get a good sleep tonight Thanks

Qvar · 19/02/2018 23:08

induction can take days, do try to go to sleep

AnathemaPulsifer · 19/02/2018 23:11

So sorry that this is all playing out during your labour, but I can believe how he's been behaving! You deserve better.

AnathemaPulsifer · 19/02/2018 23:12

*can'T believe 😳

ChangingStates · 20/02/2018 06:24

Sorry it's taking so long for things to get moving OP, hope you are managing to get some sleep. Is boyfriend manning up?

skylary · 20/02/2018 06:35

Hi op. Really sorry to hear you're going through this . Your partner sounds horrible. It sounds like you would have an easier time if you did leave him as your going to have enough to do once your baby is here. He isn't supportive enough.

Hope your not waiting too much longer to meet your beautiful baby!

Stilllivinginazoo · 20/02/2018 06:39

Hope you get a good night's sleep.sendong positive vibes that baby will be here soon!!Flowers

Fletchasaurus · 20/02/2018 07:21

Hoping you have a had a calm night and today goes well for you Flowers

Afreshcuppateaplease · 20/02/2018 07:31

Hope you either got some rest or had your baby op!

Original poster
lovelystar · 20/02/2018 08:57

Still nothing Sad I wouldn't mind so much but only saw a (student) midwife once all of yesterday and when I ask what's happening they just shrug and say they don't know Sad

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Afreshcuppateaplease · 20/02/2018 09:02

Oh no

I have no experience of inductions im afraid!

Fingers crossed though!

Can you walk around? Bounce on a ball?

pollythedolly · 20/02/2018 11:24

Is there a lift? When I was induced forever ago I found going up and down in the lift helped it along. (I was bored)

ChasedByBees · 20/02/2018 11:32

Mine took three days. I didn’t want to tell you that on page one. It will happen though, try and rest and relax in the meantime.

WellThisIsShit · 20/02/2018 12:00

Oh no! I thought it might take about 24 hrs, not this long!!!

Can you try and get bits of sleep whilst you still can? I think once things DO start happening it can be more intense so you’re going to need any bits of sleep or self care you can manage right now!

sportyfool · 20/02/2018 12:01

I did state that in my post . That's why I didn't think you should fuss about dh being at home . Mine took a full 48 hours and then she was ventoused because of my blood pressure . If your body isn't ready it just takes ages😬.. good luck though !

Crunchymum · 20/02/2018 14:08

They said it could take up to 72 hours (although it was my 3rd so they said probably wouldn't take that long). In the end it was niggles for 21 hours almost from moment pessary went in and a quick 1h 18m labour before baby arrived.

I know someone who had a failed induction. Was sent home after the 72h and went back a week later for a planned section Shock

Hope it all gets going soon for you OP.

Crunchymum · 20/02/2018 14:13

Just read back through your replies OP.

Oh my Lord, you poor lady.

Please, please, please know that a man who treats his partner who is about to give birth like this is not good enough for your baby.

I know you are probably feeling very deflated and vulnerable and resigned but seriously..... you and your baby deserve better.

gingergenius · 20/02/2018 14:25

Just read through the FT OP - he sounds like a twat. Hope he cleaned up his own sick. Good luck with the induction x

Original poster
lovelystar · 20/02/2018 14:30

@polly there is a lift yeah so I will give that a try Grin

@chased my bees it's ok a lot of people warned me it could take days! I'm just a bit frustrated as they haven't tried anything since the pessary came out yesterday evening and no-one is really keeping me updated and whenever I ask just says 'we're waiting for labour ward' and that's it Sad

@thisisshit I am getting a lot of sleep, seem to find it easier/quieter in the day time though!

@sportyfool other half for now is at home, he does keep texting me though asking me what is going on and i saw his mum yesterday, I think he knows to keep his distance.

Thank you everyone, I just think baby isn't ready to come out yet so is refusing! It's not my actual due date until Friday, I don't really blame him though, is rather be curled up in the warm and dark like he is :D

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TheFrogWithLibraryBooks · 20/02/2018 14:52

Good luck op!
I was in a similar situation when my p wasn't with me as he was annoyed that I'd stayed pregnant!
The midwife was marvellous and really looked after me, and the nuses were very kind too!
Flowers Cake Brew

ineedwine99 · 20/02/2018 14:59

Good luck OP Flowers

Cantwait4summer · 20/02/2018 14:59

Hope your dp has come to his senses and wont be doing it again - hope you left him to clear up . And poor you still waiting for baby to.arrive induction sucks i know i hated the waiting around. in the meantime i hope youve got some support at hospital xx good luck Flowers

billybagpuss · 20/02/2018 15:08

Hope you're ok lovelystar and baby star hurry's up.

I assume your DP did actually clear up the crap from the other night?

Cockmagic · 20/02/2018 16:00

Please put a pic of new baby when he arrives , and good luck!

melisma · 20/02/2018 16:10

Oh so sorry to read that the induction is dragging on so long. Fingers crossed baby star makes an appearance soon.