Someone At Door 😣

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It’s 19.13, I’ve just put 2yo dd to bed, done all my housework, been at work all day, so about to have a lovely hot bath and someone is knocking at my door, door is locked, not expecting anyone, my dp is working nights. AIBU not to answer or even check who it is...I’m scared

It must be a dreadful sort of half life to feel it necessary to barricade yourself indoors as soon as night falls; quaking at the sound of the doorbell.

YABVU.

Well I had somebody knocking at my door in the middle of the afternoon. Well I say knocking they were ringing th doorbell and knocking the door continually. I wondered what was going on.
A young lad saying they were clearing gutters did I want mine done.
It does make you a bit wary of answering the door especially if you are alone and in an area where neighbours are not around

Not at all unreasonable not to answer your door. Though, my instinct is that if you are frightened in case it's someone up to no good, I'd be much MORE likely to go to the door, so they know somebody's in. I think it's far more likely if it's a potential burglar that if they think everyone's out, they might try to break in. Just get a security chain on your door for future such incidents, and if you are worried, just call out "BUSTER... SETTLE!!" Before speaking to the caller. But to have such fears when you are not used to being on your own is not weird, or unreasonable. We all live in different circumstances, and for many of us, it is a common occurrence for people to call throughout the evening, and for some it's not. Don't go worrying about seeming silly. If other half is away a lot, just employ strategies you put in place when you feel a little uneasy.

After reading this thread (and a few others) I know one thing for sure: I will never, ever ask Mumsnetters advice.

Chances of someone knocking to attack you and your children - at 7.13, not really!

Ignore. Unless become insistent. Then without opening the door ask who is it

Not sure I understand what the issue is here ? If you want the evening in by yourself that’s your choice isn’t it

I don't want to scare anyone but see link below
www.whtimes.co.uk/news/potters-bar-residents-attacked-by-burglars-in-park-avenue-and-chace-avenue-1-5383641

I sometimes think that certain Mumsnetters must be miserable bitter witches round a cauldron waiting for a post to pounce on with their angry, judgmental bile. The OP has every right to be nervous about someone knocking the door when it’s dark and there are children in the house. You think it’s unreasonable - then just say it does seem so to you. But to call her pathetic etc is unnecessary and VU.

I haven’t seen the rules on posting topics, maybe you could point it out

Post what you like, when you like but don't get upset when everyone asks "What the fuck is wrong with you? Cant you make a simple decision without consulting strangers over the internet?"

Seriously, do you feel the need to ask strangers what you should do in any "normal", everyday event?? Like whether to answer the door or what time to take a shit!

Honestly I can't believe the lack of empathy here. After 7ish I probably wouldn't answer the door either and we love in an absolutely lovely village. It's just odd, calling on someone's door in the evening and not to mention inconvenient if she has children to sort.

I wouldn't answer it either. And agree I'd be holding the dog down to stop her going batshit and waking the baby!

I wouldn't answer the door if I was alone with my children in bed and wasn't expecting someone (if it was dark!) i don't think you are being unreasonable ATALL. Have none of you seen what happens in the world on the news??!

YA definitely NBU. I never answer the door if I’m not expecting anyone. I could be out anyway, or napping, or in the toilet, so I pretend I’m not in. If it’s something important, they’ll find a way to get the message to you. It’s mostly charity callers or salespeople anyway, so junk visits.

Time of day is irrelevant really. Your house, you decide who to let in.

jayne, do attacks and other crimes happen only after 7:13pm? If I was a burglar or someone with evil intentions, that’s precisely the time of day I’d choose to knock at a potential victim’s door, not in the middle of the night, when they are definitely not going to answer it.

Go with your gut feeling. I always check through my spyhole who is at the door before opening. Unless its the postman or a neighbour i am unlikely to open my door. Or you could check from an upstairs window so that even if you need to talk to them you’re safe. I would say be especially careful when it’s dark outside - people are more likely to be attacked in the dark as there are fewer people about.

Don’t answer the door and for all the people saying why are you scared have you never heard of people being attacked at their door???

Grow up and answer the door

Get CCTV or at least a door camera!

have you never heard of people being attacked at their door???

I’ve heard of people being attacked walking down the street. It doesn’t stop me walking down the street.
I’ve heard of people dying in car accidents. It doesn’t stop me driving a car.

I guess I've been 'assaulted' in some fashion or another, walking down the road, at least 8x.

Nothing ever at the door. I answer my door.

have you never heard of people being attacked at their door

Hmmmm very rarely. I've heard of far more people being attacked in public places

I can totally understand that people (myself included) cba going to the door when they're not expecting anyone but to actually be scared because someone jnicjed your door early evening does seem a bit of an over reaction

I guess the thing is having been jumped groped grabbed etc. in the street, I could handle them at my door. Unless it's a crazy escalation, I could handle more of the same.

I never forget watching a house burn down, and listening to other people say how hard & long they had to bang on the woman's door to tell her that her house was burning down.

Perfectly reasonable to be scared! Better safe than sorry I say.

I find this thread very odd. But then I once opened my door in the evening while home alone to find a naked (and aroused) mentally ill man standing there walking to talk to me about Jesus, so I suppose that gives me a different perspective...