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Can someone be too fertile?

418 replies

ByTheBlueBay · 14/02/2018 12:13

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

OP posts:
DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 14/02/2018 19:10

as is saying you had unprotected sex once and then terminated because you didn’t want to.

All terminations are as a result of having sex once and not wanting to continue a pregnancy. It’s really not a slap in the face. Unless you think terminations themselves are a slap in the face? Hmm

TheCatsPaws · 14/02/2018 19:29

Donny

There’s a difference between a woman on contraception taking every precaution ending up pregnant, and a woman having unprotected sex who doesn’t want to get pregnant posting online about her super fertility and terminations.

I’ve had four miscarriages and I find OPs thread childish. I hope she grows up.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 14/02/2018 19:34

There’s a difference between a woman on contraception taking every precaution ending up pregnant, and a woman having unprotected sex who doesn’t want to get pregnant posting online about her super fertility and terminations.

I find her ignorance quite shocking but is your problem with OP having a termination or her posting style? They are two separate issues.

Alloftheboys · 14/02/2018 19:38

OP just make sure to use a Wotsit packet as a condom.

Make sure to eat the Wotsits first

TheCatsPaws · 14/02/2018 19:39

Donny I have a problem with what seems like her bragging about having one, when there are people who struggle to conceive, have miscarriages and have to terminate for medical reasons.

BeHappyMummy · 14/02/2018 19:41

The OP wasn't bragging. This isn't all about you Cats, so calm down!

TheCatsPaws · 14/02/2018 19:45

BeHappy

Why would you write a post about your apparent super fertility? What does OP want to achieve from this?

It’s insensitive.

Itsbecauseimaleo · 14/02/2018 19:48

I'm sorry cats but it's not insensitive it just feels that Way to you because of your situation. She asked a genuine question on a forum. She didn't post it in the infertility section. So are you saying those who don't have fertility issues aren't allowed to speak about the fact they're fertile? Hmm I think you're being unfair. At the end of the day the title is clear. If it's a sensitive issue you shouldn't have clicked on it. The OP doesn't need to grow up she just needs to educate herself. She doesn't need to be jumped on

BifsWif · 14/02/2018 19:48

I’m super fertile according my doctor and consultants I’ve seen.

I get pregnant extremely easily, I’ve been pregnant 8 times and had six miscarriages. Apparently my body doesn’t recognise ‘bad’ eggs and discard them, instead it will allow them to be fertilised and implant, leading to miscarriage. No idea if that’s scientifically possible but getting pregnant so easily is not always a good thing.

StandardRussian66 · 14/02/2018 19:49

Why would you write a post about your apparent super fertility? What does OP want to achieve from this?

Being very fertile is also problem though (although this OP I don’t think is, just silly)

I have been pregnant 3 times with contraception. I do not enjoy abortion.

MrsMaxwell · 14/02/2018 19:49

Yes. Most people on the Jeremy Kyle show are.

HTH.

sweetkitty · 14/02/2018 19:51

I came off the pill to conceive no1 and it took us 9 months, the next 4 times it was the first time including no2 where we only had sex once that month. I had a mc with my third pregnancy and even when I was still mcing I was ovulating, I had one period and was pregnant again.

We are finished having babies now DH has had the snip and I'm on the mini pill double Dutch so to speak.

I have a friend who uses natural family planning and has had one accidental pregnancy another who uses the withdrawal method and has never had an accidental pregnancy.

OP go get your contraception sorted out properly.

TheCatsPaws · 14/02/2018 19:51

I assumed the thread would be about super fertility, a condition that some women with recurrent pregnancy loss have. That’s why I clicked. I assumed it’d be about an actual problem, not a woman too ignorant to use a condom correctly.

Either way it’s not my thread so I’ll leave her to it, but my opinion is she’s very immature.

CottonSock · 14/02/2018 19:52

Bifswifs.. I wonder if I had this hyperfertility too. Pregant 6 times, 4 miscarried, but very grateful now for 2 daughters.
The op is uneducated, but no need to he unkind.

HarveyKietelRabbit · 14/02/2018 19:54

The OP is daft about her knowledge of how babies are conceived but it's not insensitive to say that some people seem to have an easier time getting pregnant than others.

Infertility and/or losses are heartbreaking but it's no more insensitive to post a question about whether you can be 'super fertile' on a forum like MN than it is to post 'to be fed up of being a Mum' or 'I think I want a termination' or 'AIBU to be so proud of DD today?!'

BifsWif · 14/02/2018 19:54

It sounds like it could be possible Cotton. I have two little ones now and I’m very thankful, but have no desire to be pregnant again. I couldn’t cope with it emotionally.

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 14/02/2018 19:55

OP wasn’t bragging. She was actually (naively) genuinely concerned. She didn’t realise it could happen so easily.

I understand how that can be hard to hear for people who struggle to conceive but OPs need for that doesn’t mean OP shouldn’t be have a termination because others can conceive!

Thequeenisdeadboys · 14/02/2018 19:56

Ugh precum ! What a word !

HildaZelda · 14/02/2018 19:59

It's hard to believe that it's 2018 and people STILL don't seem to realise that unprotected sex can result in pregnancy Hmm

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ByTheBlueBay · 14/02/2018 20:59

I was hardly bragging about a termination. Stop being so fucking dramatic. From my knowledge precum is DEAD sperm so no I didn't expect to get pregnant from it. This thread isn't here to rub my fertility in anyone's face. If you're struggling to have a baby and are easily upset then you clearly don't click on an AIBU thread about someone else's fertility.

OP posts:
TheCatsPaws · 14/02/2018 21:23

OP super fertility is an issue that some women with recurrent losses have. Your use of words was insensitive, and I’m not sure what the point you were making was. You got pregnant because you had unprotected sex.

HarveyKietelRabbit · 14/02/2018 21:25

You need to update your knowledge then OP. You're on the internet right now - Google.

RoseWhiteTips · 14/02/2018 21:29

I really do not see why, as a pp suggested very early on, this thread should be removed. The OP is perfectly entitled to post on this subject.

kirinm · 14/02/2018 21:33

No @TheCatsPaws it was offensive to you. It wasn't offensive generally and the OP is perfectly entitled to ask a question.

Bluebubble123 · 14/02/2018 21:34

I have had unprotected sex 3 times in my life got pregnant each time.