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Can someone be too fertile?

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ByTheBlueBay · 14/02/2018 12:13

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

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Sprinklestar · 14/02/2018 21:35

I get what you’re saying, OP. There is so much these days about people struggling to conceive that when people do fall easily, it can feel unbelievable. Yes, obviously by having sex you’re changing getting pregnant, but there are many people who have the opposite experience and it either doesn’t happen or takes years.

boosterrooster · 14/02/2018 21:38

To be fair all you ever hear or read online is that it can take 6 months to 1 year to get pregnant when TTC. A lot of women who are seriously TTC are charting temperatures, calculating their exact ovulation dates and are trying to have sex at the exact right time....and it still takes several months in a lot of cases (or at least in my case anyway!)

So to get pregnant by precum would suggest that OP and her partner are good and fertile so you couldn't blame her for thinking she is super fertile.

Plus she only asked the question, doubt she meant to upset anyone who is TTC

OP - ignore the shitty comments.

The coil might be a good option contraception wise? It lasts for a few years, isn't very costly and doesn't require much follow up with doc etc?

Good luck with what you decide & hope you weren't upset by any of the above comments Smile

Opheliasgoldenwine · 14/02/2018 21:48

Is it quite common to get pregnant on precum?

Opheliasgoldenwine · 14/02/2018 21:48

I know it's possible but is it common?

NorthernLurker · 14/02/2018 22:04

Wow the op really struck lucky with this thread - I'm counting offended people with fertility issues, offended people who have fertility issues but are offended by the reaction to the thread from other posters who may or may not have fertility issues, offended people without fertility issues, offended people concerned about a lack of sex education, the op offended she's assumed to have a lack of sex education AND people who don't like the use of the term precum. It's almost like she planned it that way.....

NotAnotherEmma · 14/02/2018 22:16

If some people have fertility problems with conceiving then naturally some may have the opposite I would think. Not sure if I'd call it being too fertile but definitely sounds like a case of conceiving easily.

NotAnotherEmma · 14/02/2018 22:26

I'm pretty bitchy and I'm shocked at how bitchy most are being about this thread.

Aren't people meant to ask questions they aren't sure of the answer to on MN...is that not the point of the forums?

My husband and I thought we couldn't have kids when I got pregnant, but I've never begrudged anyone who can easily get pregnant because of that. Even ones who have gotten pregnant more often then they're wanting/prepared for.

Maybe MN needs to add a AIBB (Am I Being Bitter) sub-forum. Grin

Sofabitch · 14/02/2018 22:28

Yes. You can. I can tell you how many times I've had unprotected sex by the number of children I've got. And not all were to finish.

G120810 · 15/02/2018 00:07

Some of the replys on this are brilliant made me laugh thanks

shittyshitybangbang · 15/02/2018 00:21

Put a condom on before putting a penis in your vagina.

GrinGrin

steff13 · 15/02/2018 00:25

Please stop calling it 'precum' (yuck). It is SEMEN.

I think it's technically called pre-ejaculatory fluid.

steff13 · 15/02/2018 00:28

Pre-ejaculatory fluid can contain up to 2 million sperm. And urine does not kill sperm.

NotASingleFuckToGive · 15/02/2018 00:37

"On two occasions, a penis went in my vagina while I was ovulating, and now I have two children..is this normal?" Grin

Chicken1970 · 15/02/2018 06:33

Nope, just young,healthy and reasonably fertile by the sounds of it. My sis said that the coil is very painful to remove as your body grows around it. Also she said contraceptive implants can get lost (!?).

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag · 15/02/2018 07:17

I found having the coil removed a total breeze! Having it put in wasn’t great, but bearable.

blinkineckmum · 15/02/2018 07:38

My three children were conceived on the first try each time. In between we use contraception. You should do the same.

ColaCube22 · 15/02/2018 07:39

TheCatsPaws Why are you being so hard on OP? She didn't post it under any category like Infertility or any other pregnancy related category so I hardly think she was rubbing her fertility in anyone's face.
Some people have Fertily issues and some people don't, you want to censor her question just incase someone might be upset....oh well,better shut Mumsnet down if that's the case!

She may be naive about contraception but she doesn't deserve the bashing that she's getting, can't people just offer advice with out being so harsh!

ColaCube22 · 15/02/2018 07:43

kirinm I completely agree with you!

LoveB · 15/02/2018 08:19

Ok, I've done some reading. I'd say there's conflicting info on this topic! Anyway, I'm concluding that some men do have sperm in Pre-cum and others don't, but if they do it's unlikely to cause pregnancy (but it's possible). Urine doesn't kill sperm but urination helps flush it out.

DH and I use the withdrawal method and it works for us - only times he hasn't withdrawn, I've got pregnant. If I desperately didn't want to get pregnant, I'd definitely be more careful.

OP I'm sorry you've had to have a termination. And that lots of replies here have been so harsh.

MyDcAreMarvel · 15/02/2018 10:38

LoveB why are you sorry, did I miss the part where her abusive partner forced her into a termination.

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ByTheBlueBay · 15/02/2018 11:20

@MyDcAreMarvel - Just because a woman isn't forced into having an abortion doesn't make it an easy choice for her to make. I did not want to have an abortion but had to for my myself and my family.

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TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 11:33

I find it a tad offensive when women say they “had” to have an abortion. Having to have an abortion is when your bsby has a fatal birth defect. Or having to have misoprostal because your much wanted baby has died but your body still thinks it’s pregnant. Or because the mother needs chemotherapy.

Own your choice OP. You chose to terminate. And that’s fine - but please, stop saying you “had” to and stop rubbing it in people’s faces. It’s cruel.

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ByTheBlueBay · 15/02/2018 11:36

You be offended all you like. I felt like I had no choice as my mental health wouldn't cope with another pregnancy/baby. I wouldn't have coped had I continued with the pregnancy and God knows what would have happened. I didn't WANT to terminate but it was the less of two evils.

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TheCatsPaws · 15/02/2018 11:38

Well OP I hope, for your sake, you find a suitable contraceptive and have learned something from this thread.

FancyNewBeesly · 15/02/2018 11:42

Super fertile for a woman would be releasing multiple eggs - What possible attributes do you think a woman could have that would make a singleton pregnancy after unprotected sex extra likely?

I was told I would have serious difficulty conceiving or maintaining a pregnancy due to gynae illness. I got pregnant the first time we tried, with twins. So I guess I’m “super fertile”. Won’t be getting another chance to find out, believe me.

Get a coil or implant.

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