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Can someone be too fertile?

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ByTheBlueBay · 14/02/2018 12:13

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

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Tomselleckhaskindeyes · 14/02/2018 12:58
Kittypillar · 14/02/2018 13:00

Newsflash: if you dtd, you can get pregnant. It's happened to me while I've been ON the pill, and you're wondering why it's happened when you haven't been and also haven't been using anything else?! Hmm

Good grief, I need to lie down...

notanurse2017 · 14/02/2018 13:00

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mindutopia · 14/02/2018 13:01

If the timing is right, yes, you can easily get pregnant having unprotected sex just once, including from precum. I have been on the pill for in total probably close to 18 years (and never gotten pregnant when I was on it), pretty much my entire adult life except for when we were ttc. I've gotten pregnant 3 times (2 healthy pregnancies) only having sex once or twice in a month pretty much straight away. I wouldn't consider it 'too fertile' but I don't have any fertility problems thankfully. I'm 37 and getting my tubes tied though once baby #2 makes an appearance and I am back on my feet enough to consider major surgery.

floriad · 14/02/2018 13:01

Can you be too fertile?

Sure. You're too fertile if you don't want to be...

But what you're describing doesn't seem particularly uncommon.

You had unprotected sex (yes, precum still contains sperm) and you got pregnant. It happens...

Choklitdoknut · 14/02/2018 13:02

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JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 14/02/2018 13:03

Had unprotected sex 4 times and have got pregnant each time. Last with twins.

If you don’t want a baby use proper contraception. You arnt super fertile you were careless

FluffyWuffy100 · 14/02/2018 13:03

to paraphrase: "I had unprotected sex and got PG, is there something wrong with me?"

floriad · 14/02/2018 13:03

Sex (even with the coil, the pill, condoms etc) can lead to pregnancy.

Well, if your're a woman and have a man's penis anywhere near your vagina. That's just... life.

floriad · 14/02/2018 13:04

And you had unprotected sex... It's not that surprising or uncommon, is it?

theEagleIsLost · 14/02/2018 13:04

You need to talk to someone at your GP surgery about your contraceptive options. You are not using condoms correctly they go on before penetration always.

You are using nothing and getting pg - it's really not that surprising.

Took 4 months trying for pfb - we were told to wait a year for next but DH was going to be away around then I wanted to try - we dtd twice and I was pg. I think we were a bit surprised as thought bf might interfere, but very pleased.

I think we were pleased and surprised for us it didn’t take years, but that was after no contraceptive failures over in ten year and me having horrendous periods one GP said might affect my fertility - though no idea now why they came out with that little gem with no investigations. Otherwise I don’t think we’d have worried about our fertility so much or been So surprised and relived we had no issues.

theEagleIsLost · 14/02/2018 13:07

Sex (even with the coil, the pill, condoms etc) can lead to pregnancy.

^^ This.

I know couple of people who got pg with miriam coil which is supposed to be more statistically reliable than female sterilisation.

Glumglowworm · 14/02/2018 13:08

Condom goes on before penis goes in.

So simple and yet people still apparently don’t get it?!

If you don’t want to get pregnant then use contraception properly.

Alienspaceship · 14/02/2018 13:10

You’re getting some harsh responses - and rightly so. Using the term ‘too fertile’ and asking the question here, almost sounds as though you are looking for an excuse and validation to have unplanned pregnancies, when really you’re just not using contraception properly.

whiskyowl · 14/02/2018 13:11

I'm sure that some women are very fertile. However, that doesn't mean your fertility isn't controllable. Just be disciplined about using birth control, right from the start of sex.

Hazandduck · 14/02/2018 13:11

@Conciseandnice, I think I may have this. DH and I have had unprotected sex 3 times in 11 years and I have fallen pregnant each time, but miscarried two of the pregnancies. I came off the pill after 9 years when we wanted to TTC and fell pregnant immediately, then got pregnant again straight after my first miscarriage. When I lost the second pregnancy too I gave myself a break but fell this date a year ago Blush It may just be chance, but I feel I must be extra fertile to have 3 eggs attach in 10 months!
OP this doesn’t sound like that situation. I hope you are doing ok, it sounds like you were quite shocked by it x

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag · 14/02/2018 13:14

You are not too fertile. You didn’t use contraception and accidentally fell pregnant, twice.

coffeeforone · 14/02/2018 13:14

I understand that, but I didn't realise one could get pregnant from precum

To be fair, I don't think it's easy to get pregnant from precum, but its certainly possible, I did, as do many many others every day.
You are obviously fertile, I wouldn't say 'super fertile' as it annoys me when anyone who conceives easily describes themselves as 'super fertile', they are simply 'fertile'.

You were on the pill for 6 years and didn't fall pregnant. All the times you used condoms you didn't fall pregnant. That's how contraception works, so you need to think about what method of contraception is best for you so you can have sex going forward without falling pregnant.

SlothMama · 14/02/2018 13:19

OP you need to educate yourself if you didn't know you could get pregnant off pre cum...
Get yourself down to a sexual health clinic to discuss what contraception will work best for you.

EatingSatsumas · 14/02/2018 13:20

I’ve been pregnant five times and four of those occasions have been from having sex once in my fertile period. All pregnancies were in my late thirties.

BeHappyMummy · 14/02/2018 13:25

The man doesn't have to ejaculate to get you pregnant. All it takes is one sperm cell hiding at the tip of a penis.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/02/2018 13:29

Pengggwyn
Unless you’ve had several years of ttc and a few rounds of ivf, you cannot possibly imagine what it feels like to be Colacube. Having been in the situation myself, I cannot believe your reaction to her post, it actually took my breath away.

Bytheblue
Obviously it pisses me off greatly that you can get pregnant so easily when I had to go through ivf. More than once. And ruined my health doing it. However, your question is a legitimate one.

I now have a child. But will never be able to have another. How other people in my situation or are childless due to infertility will react to your thread I cannot say. However, I don’t think you should feel bad about posting.

demirose87 · 14/02/2018 13:32

It is unlikely for someone to fall pregnant without the man ejaculating, the women who have are the exception to the rule. If we look at it this way, if the man had a condition where he couldn't ejaculate, but wanted a baby, obviously they wouldn't get very far and would need investigating as to why. Apparently it's a 25 percent chance of pregnancy each cycle during the fertile stage, and that's with millions and millions of sperm, so one lone sperm would be unlikely.

HelloFreedom · 14/02/2018 13:36

I think we get so used to hearing about TTC and problems that arise that it can be a surprise to find that you can just get pregnant. Just like that. Just from one time.

I have never had trouble TTC. It has always just happened. Just like that. Just from one time.

It's a lottery in some ways. And you never know if you're going to get lucky or not.

Theclockstruck2 · 14/02/2018 13:42

Wish I was one of these people who get pregnant on first try. I have to have unprotected sex hundreds of times to get pregnant. It’s very tiresome Wink

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