Can someone be too fertile?

[ByTheBlueBay]

I was on the pill for 6 years before I came off it. We conceived DD when we didn't use a condom once. Literally, once. I know once is all it takes but it was a shock.

Anyway since having DD we always used a condom. However it wasn't used straight away, there'd be a few pumps first (TMI). We'd only have sex once a month or so but I still managed to fall pregnant on DH's precum.

Am I super fertile? I had a termination and we haven't had sex since. I'm too scared. I'm considering the implant but I'm not sure how the hormones will affect me with depression and anxiety.

I also agree that this is insensitive for the many posters here who struggle with fertility issues.

Is it? I’m one of those (I suspect you’re not) and I don’t have a problem with it. The op isn’t someone I know. She’s asked a question on a board where loads of people discuss pregnancy.

It's pretty obvious what it's about

Yes, your lack of education.

Dear MN my partner put his penis inside me and now I'm pregnant, what is wrong with me?

Actually Purple I am so don't assume please. Yes I do think its a bit insensitive and maybe you don't have a problem with it, that's fine but others might. I wasn't aware this was all about you?

I think maybe change your title to read

“Can someone be MORE FERTILE than someone else?”

And of course, we all know the answer.

With all respect OP, it's nothing to do with how fertile you are.
It certainly shows that you have no fertility issues I suppose, but even if you were super-fertile you would not be able to get pregnant if there wasn't sperm entering you. And if sperm has entered you then you have a "normal" chance of getting pregnant.

Wait so you had unprotected sex but you're confused as to why you became pregnant?!

Please please please consider some form of hormonal contraception. As someone with MH issues I highly recommend the hormonal coil. The hormone is low enough and localised enough to not cause havoc with my emotions and so far has covered me against pregnancy and I've had it for over a year.

Censoring conversation about contraception and women's fertility is really not a good idea. As is clearly evidenced by this thread's existence. While I have every sympathy with those who struggle with fertility issues expecting other women to pretend their own fertility is not also an issue worthy of discussion is unreasonable. Do not be "offended" on other people's behalf and if you find these topics distressing simply move on and find another thread to join.

pengggwyn I have had 4 years of ttc and recently IVF...IM not offended. I don't think someone who is so sensitive to Fertily issues would have clicked on it.
The OP is getting absolutely bashed, once you've been on the wild ride that is Fertily treatment you get to read all statistics on the likelihood of conception per cycle and it's not as high as you would think.
Everyone is right about one thing though, if you 100% don't want to fall pregnant, use contraception and don't let it near you until a condom is on it.

I understand that, but I didn't realise one could get pregnant from precum.

What did you think was in it?

The problem isn't that you're too fertile, it's that you haven't been careful enough with your contraception. Use it properly and the likelihood of this happening will dramatically fall.

To be fair to the OP, it is very unlucky to get pregnant from precum - there's usually no sperm in it!

However will echo other posters that this is exactly why you always put a condom on before sex not during!

I looked at your posting history Whiterabbitears. You have two children. You are clearly not infertile.

I would never want to hurt anyone who is dealing with infertility, but surely it's common sense that you wouldn't click on a thread with a title like this if you thought it would upset you?

You're not 'too fertile', you're fertile.

So the easiest way to avoid unwanted pregnancy is to not have unprotected PIV sex. Yes, even the 'few pumps'.

It's not like you're getting pregnant from sharing seats or coffee mugs or anything.

You're possibly more fertile than others but a lot is down to chance. If you have unprotected sex at your fertile stage of course there's a chance. I got pregnant on the first try with my son 10 years ago. I thought it would be the same with number 2 and 3, but no, it took a year each time. Then I met a new partner years down the line, we were lax with contraception as I thought it would take me ages again, but oops, pregnant first try again. So four pregnancies and four very different times it took to conceive.

Good for you purple, yes I have two children and due to having had cancer cannot have any more, we've been trying for the past 8 years to conceive so yes I do have fertility issues currently. Happy now?

You must have missed sex ed, yes you can get pregnant from pre-cum, yes you can get pregnant if you don't use contraception just once.

Get the implant in quickly if you don't want to be pregnant.

i had a friend once that would get knocked up first pop, she would joke that all they needed to do was hold hands and she was preggers

You're just fertile OP, not "too" fertile. Both my babies were conceived on the first try, that's all it takes for some. I'd go to the GP and discuss your contraception options if I were you, they can advise what's best with your mental health.

Seriously . No your not super fertile. You are a normal amount of fertile, you just have a very poor understanding of sex education.

I don't say that as someone who is TTC and is offended. Just fed up with people having unprotected sex and then wondering why they are pregnant.

As PP have said... in very plain English, if a penis goes inside a vagina without a condom or other protection you could get pregnant.

I kind of know what you mean OP. I agree with a PP that it’s about being more fertile than others, rather than too fertile.

I remember when we were younger, some of my friends took far more risks than others with contraception, and never fell pregnant. They’ve had children since so they aren’t infertile, but it seems to take more active trying (tracking ovulation etc) for some then others.

Do you know much about your cycle - when you ovulate, how long it is etc? That can help pinpoint the most fertile points, which depending on when in our cycles we ovulate will be different for everyone.

I've also fallen pregnant on both occasions of unprotected sex (planned - 1 child 1 miscarriage)

but I would say that using condoms correctly throughout sex has prevented me from falling pregnant in all but 1 case which was a split that I took MAP for.

So I don't think you need to worried about sex as long as you use the condoms properly.

You're not hyper-fertile. Essentially you got pregnant twice both times after having unprotected sex (and yes, there are sperm in pre-cum).

I have safely had unprotected sex for many years. I can do this because I know that after ovulation a woman cannot get pregnant that cycle. So, by knowing my body and pinpointing ovulation from signs (changes in cervical mucus, bloating, ovulation pain) I can then safely have unprotected sex from about a week later (to be safe) until my period arrives. I would NEVER risk it in the first half of my cycle (4 children conceived in 5 months TTC altogether).

I have not needed to wait always pregnant on the first go. I did find out that I ovulate extremely early in my cycle which i’m Sure adds to things as the egg is available for longer so to speak. I ovulate on day five rather than the average of 24.